xpertluva said:

SHOCKADELICA1 said:

when r u free?

[Edited 8/5/10 20:13pm]

For you, anytime.

*sending orgnote*

By appearances, I'm pretty reserved all the way around. But certain aggressions, passions, etc. are almost always at work below the surface. In a work setting, then, this can mean I'm fairly calculating. With loved ones, I'm told I can come off aloof or distracted, but then they're knocked on their butts by shows of affection I've been concocting in secret.

Lammastide said:

By appearances, I'm pretty reserved all the way around. But certain aggressions, passions, etc. are almost always at work below the surface. In a work setting, then, this can mean I'm fairly calculating. With loved ones, I'm told I can come off aloof or distracted, but then they're knocked on their butts by shows of affection I've been concocting in secret.

love it

Lammastide said:

By appearances, I'm pretty reserved all the way around. But certain aggressions, passions, etc. are almost always at work below the surface. In a work setting, then, this can mean I'm fairly calculating. With loved ones, I'm told I can come off aloof or distracted, but then they're knocked on their butts by shows of affection I've been concocting in secret.

You're one of those people who get huge credit for very little "effort" in this department. So annoying, lol. Those of us who are more emotionally open soon find that our displays of affection suffer from inflation. "Yeah, yeah, you think I'm beautiful. Got it already, please stop hugging me". Meanwhile you guys starve your loved ones on affection but then when you suddenly display some, you sweep them off their feet even with a half-assed almost-compliment! "Did you hear that? He said I'm not too bad! I'll be happy the rest of the day now!".

Not fair, lol.

Polite, open, warm, but aggressive.... I come off as really nice, so many think I am passive until they do something wrong to me, then they see how confrontational I get. I don't yell when I am angry, and I never cuss when I am pissed. Not anymore... I get quiet and calculate.

With family (since they are the model of complete dysfunction), I am patient and kind and slow to anger, I don't fight them anymore, but I keep myself clear from most drama.

With men, I am passionate, I know what I want and go right after it. I express my feelings through touch and action, not words... my lover would rather get a foot rub and a bj than hear the words "I love you/you are so great".

retina said:

Lammastide said:

By appearances, I'm pretty reserved all the way around. But certain aggressions, passions, etc. are almost always at work below the surface. In a work setting, then, this can mean I'm fairly calculating. With loved ones, I'm told I can come off aloof or distracted, but then they're knocked on their butts by shows of affection I've been concocting in secret.

You're one of those people who get huge credit for very little "effort" in this department. So annoying, lol. Those of us who are more emotionally open soon find that our displays of affection suffer from inflation. "Yeah, yeah, you think I'm beautiful. Got it already, please stop hugging me". Meanwhile you guys starve your loved ones on affection but then when you suddenly display some, you sweep them off their feet even with a half-assed almost-compliment! "Did you hear that? He said I'm not too bad! I'll be happy the rest of the day now!".

Not fair, lol.

I never looked at it this way, but I now share your indignation as a fellow affection-lavisher.

SO NOT FAIR!

retina said:

Lammastide said:

By appearances, I'm pretty reserved all the way around. But certain aggressions, passions, etc. are almost always at work below the surface. In a work setting, then, this can mean I'm fairly calculating. With loved ones, I'm told I can come off aloof or distracted, but then they're knocked on their butts by shows of affection I've been concocting in secret.

You're one of those people who get huge credit for very little "effort" in this department. So annoying, lol. Those of us who are more emotionally open soon find that our displays of affection suffer from inflation. "Yeah, yeah, you think I'm beautiful. Got it already, please stop hugging me". Meanwhile you guys starve your loved ones on affection but then when you suddenly display some, you sweep them off their feet even with a half-assed almost-compliment! "Did you hear that? He said I'm not too bad! I'll be happy the rest of the day now!".

Not fair, lol.

This actually does sound familiar.