I'm not asking how to parent my children or advice cause I already know what I want for my kids.......just curious about how others look at this, and what they would do and why or why not. It started up quite an argument between bf and I after the kids went to bed last night.

Okay. So Noah has asked me several times through the years if he could paint his nails, like if Daisy was getting hers done or something, and I would normally just say No Buddy, and that was it. I think I DID put clear polish on once I don''t remember.

Anyways, yesterday when I picked them up at daycare Noah was so excited and thought it was so funny and was flaunting his freshly manicured black nails. Mommy look I painted my nails....da da da. Now this is no big deal to me at all, and I'm like wow buddy thats nice who painted them.....and he said a girl at school. I'm like okay.

So on the way home he's asking me can I paint his nails blue when we get home, and I'm like, if you want me to bud, but I just wanna warn ya that maybe some kids at school will laugh or call you a girl tomorrow for doing that, and I don't want your feelings to be hurt, and also you can't call them names back for saying that to you or you will get in trouble. (He's been saying pussy lately. :roll)

So he said he wanted it done, he thinks it is funny and I'm like fine.

I'm all for my kids expresses themselves in different ways and it doesn't bother me to cart my daughter to the store with 9 million barrets in her hair, and a crazy looking outfit. She thinks it looks good and thats cool.

Anyways, I at times would get comments from in laws and what not for letting her go out like that, and I know if Noahs dad knew he went to school with his nails painted he'd nail me to a cross.

BF thought it was a bad idea and I shouldn't let him. I disagree. I warned him he could possibly be teased, and so he made an informed decision. I think it's good to give your kids lee way on decision making as long asa then know the pros and cons of it......but BF said I wasn't PROTECTING him by letting him go to school that way.

Opinions?

sp

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TotalANXiousNESS said:

BF thought it was a bad idea and I shouldn't let him. I disagree. I warned him he could possibly be teased, and so he made an informed decision. I think it's good to give your kids lee way on decision making as long asa then know the pros and cons of it......but BF said I wasn't PROTECTING him by letting him go to school that way.

Opinions?

I agree with you 100%

TotalANXiousNESS said:

Opinions?

Karate lessons.

uPtoWnNY said:

TotalANXiousNESS said:

Opinions?

Karate lessons.

Mach said:

TotalANXiousNESS said:

BF thought it was a bad idea and I shouldn't let him. I disagree. I warned him he could possibly be teased, and so he made an informed decision. I think it's good to give your kids lee way on decision making as long asa then know the pros and cons of it......but BF said I wasn't PROTECTING him by letting him go to school that way.

Opinions?

I agree with you 100%

Me too.

I think it's great that you're letting them make informed decisions and giving them a chance to experience natural consequences and outcomes - and express themselves!

I let my son paint his toenails all the time. Whatever.

TotalANXiousNESS said:

I'm not asking how to parent my children or advice cause I already know what I want for my kids.......just curious about how others look at this, and what they would do and why or why not. It started up quite an argument between bf and I after the kids went to bed last night.

Okay. So Noah has asked me several times through the years if he could paint his nails, like if Daisy was getting hers done or something, and I would normally just say No Buddy, and that was it. I think I DID put clear polish on once I don''t remember.

Anyways, yesterday when I picked them up at daycare Noah was so excited and thought it was so funny and was flaunting his freshly manicured black nails. Mommy look I painted my nails....da da da. Now this is no big deal to me at all, and I'm like wow buddy thats nice who painted them.....and he said a girl at school. I'm like okay.

So on the way home he's asking me can I paint his nails blue when we get home, and I'm like, if you want me to bud, but I just wanna warn ya that maybe some kids at school will laugh or call you a girl tomorrow for doing that, and I don't want your feelings to be hurt, and also you can't call them names back for saying that to you or you will get in trouble. (He's been saying pussy lately. :roll)

So he said he wanted it done, he thinks it is funny and I'm like fine.

I'm all for my kids expresses themselves in different ways and it doesn't bother me to cart my daughter to the store with 9 million barrets in her hair, and a crazy looking outfit. She thinks it looks good and thats cool.

Anyways, I at times would get comments from in laws and what not for letting her go out like that, and I know if Noahs dad knew he went to school with his nails painted he'd nail me to a cross.

BF thought it was a bad idea and I shouldn't let him. I disagree. I warned him he could possibly be teased, and so he made an informed decision. I think it's good to give your kids lee way on decision making as long asa then know the pros and cons of it......but BF said I wasn't PROTECTING him by letting him go to school that way.

Opinions?

sp

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So. Fried chicken, mashed potatoes, a HUGE ass glass of ice cold milk and maybe some fries?

Yes, please.

I wish all I had to deal with was a boy who wanted his nails painted....

sounds like you are doing a great job teaching your son to be openminded and think for himself

HamsterHuey said:

So. Fried chicken, mashed potatoes, a HUGE ass glass of ice cold milk and maybe some fries?

Yes, please.

I came close last night. I had fried chicken mack n cheese corn fritters and a glass of milk.

Today all I want is watermelon.

BklynBabe said:

I wish all I had to deal with was a boy who wanted his nails painted....

sounds like you are doing a great job teaching your son to be openminded and think for himself

Oh trust me. He gives me bigger things to deal with than paining his nails.......like the fact that his new favorite thing to call his sister is a pussy.

.........I was just curious. I think maybe it's men and mother in laws who frown upon children making their own decisions.......appearance wise anyways.

My oldest "child" is 26, he was a stubborn, bratty, a real pain in the ass type kid growing up. We always let him know right from wrong, and set boundaries. The only thing that there was never a question about was, his education. He always brought home excellent grades and was never in trouble of any sort in school. We both stood strong on his schooling. My gorgeous young man is now a young professional with an excellent career. Could not be prouder for him if I tried.

let him paint his nails, but get rid of the "pussy" name calling!

I don't let my kids do any of that [snip - CarrieMpls] shit, no.

PaisleyPark5083 said:

My oldest "child" is 26, he was a stubborn, bratty, a real pain in the ass type kid growing up. We always let him know right from wrong, and set boundaries. The only thing that there was never a question about was, his education. He always brought home excellent grades and was never in trouble of any sort in school. We both stood strong on his schooling. My gorgeous young man is now a young professional with an excellent career. Could not be prouder for him if I tried.

let him paint his nails, but get rid of the "pussy" name calling!

Awwwww. Thats great.

Sounds like my Noah though, he's a big pain in the ass, with a big mouth, but a big heart to go with it......at home. Everywhere else he's like an angel. I don't get it.

novabrkr said:

I don't let my kids do any of that [snip - CarrieMpls] shit, no.

As long as parents okay language like '[snip - CarrieMpls] shit', I am afraid bullying will always be a part of school life.

HamsterHuey said:

novabrkr said:

I don't let my kids do any of that [snip - CarrieMpls] shit, no.

As long as parents okay language like '[snip - CarrieMpls] shit', I am afraid bullying will always be a part of school life.

What's your obsession with bullying today?

My young nephew was really upset that his sister got to wear pretty dresses and have accessories and things. So my sister let him put on dresses at home. He was happy. And about three days later, it was over and he's never bothered with the dresses since.

HamsterHuey said:

novabrkr said:

I don't let my kids do any of that [snip - CarrieMpls] shit, no.

As long as parents okay language like [snip - CarrieMpls] shit', I am afraid bullying will always be a part of school life.

In 2001 ...as head coach for the Men's High School Soccer team I benched a top midfielder for 3 games for using the word [snip - CarrieMpls] and warned him and his parents that ONE more time he would be OFF my team

Efan said:

My young nephew was really upset that his sister got to wear pretty dresses and have accessories and things. So my sister let him put on dresses at home. He was happy. And about three days later, it was over and he's never bothered with the dresses since.

I kinda went through that same phase. I mean, when I was 25.

Mach said:

HamsterHuey said:

As long as parents okay language like '[snip - CarrieMpls] shit', I am afraid bullying will always be a part of school life.

In 2001 ...as head coach for the Men's High School Soccer team I benched a top midfielder for 3 games for using the word [snip - CarrieMpls] and warned him and his parents that ONE more time he would be OFF my team

People don't think enough about the stuff they say and how hurtful and disgusting certain words actually are. It IS up to the parents to teach their kids this stuff though. There are two words, well 3 in particualr that make me cringe, and they are used way to often. Especially in this neck of the woods.

TotalANXiousNESS said:

I'm not asking how to parent my children or advice cause I already know what I want for my kids.......just curious about how others look at this, and what they would do and why or why not. It started up quite an argument between bf and I after the kids went to bed last night.

Okay. So Noah has asked me several times through the years if he could paint his nails, like if Daisy was getting hers done or something, and I would normally just say No Buddy, and that was it. I think I DID put clear polish on once I don''t remember.

Anyways, yesterday when I picked them up at daycare Noah was so excited and thought it was so funny and was flaunting his freshly manicured black nails. Mommy look I painted my nails....da da da. Now this is no big deal to me at all, and I'm like wow buddy thats nice who painted them.....and he said a girl at school. I'm like okay.

So on the way home he's asking me can I paint his nails blue when we get home, and I'm like, if you want me to bud, but I just wanna warn ya that maybe some kids at school will laugh or call you a girl tomorrow for doing that, and I don't want your feelings to be hurt, and also you can't call them names back for saying that to you or you will get in trouble. (He's been saying pussy lately. :roll)

So he said he wanted it done, he thinks it is funny and I'm like fine.

I'm all for my kids expresses themselves in different ways and it doesn't bother me to cart my daughter to the store with 9 million barrets in her hair, and a crazy looking outfit. She thinks it looks good and thats cool.

Anyways, I at times would get comments from in laws and what not for letting her go out like that, and I know if Noahs dad knew he went to school with his nails painted he'd nail me to a cross.

BF thought it was a bad idea and I shouldn't let him. I disagree. I warned him he could possibly be teased, and so he made an informed decision. I think it's good to give your kids lee way on decision making as long asa then know the pros and cons of it......but BF said I wasn't PROTECTING him by letting him go to school that way.

Opinions?

sp

You are one kick-ass Mom! Total kudos, well played.

PunkMistress said:

Mach said:

I agree with you 100%

Me too.

I think it's great that you're letting them make informed decisions and giving them a chance to experience natural consequences and outcomes - and express themselves!

Ditto... I would have done the same with my boy.

I had a similar experience with my son...

My son watches me paint my daughter's nails. He asked me once to paint his nails too, I asked "Why do you want your nails painted?"

He shrugged his shoulders and said "I don't know, you two look like your having fun..."

So I then said that me and him could do fun stuff just for moms and sons instead... so me and Matt played checkers instead. He doesn't want his nailed painted, he just wanted attention.

I only had red and this clearpolish with pink heart confetti and glitter in it... I was not going to paint his nails either color.

Funny eh? Blue/black is "OK" but pink? That's a schoolyard fight right there!

And it sounds like your son has an admirer.

Men get mani/pedis these days anyway, and not just to appear on RuPaul's show. I don't see nothing wrong with men taking care of personal grooming and hygiene!

I say let them get bikini waxes too

Don't let me figure out some way for men to give birth either.....