PunkMistress said:

Also, if you want to know something about a bitch, ask her. If she has a hard time answering direct questions, she's fucked up. Dump her. Or stay and shut up your complaining.

Amen! Tell 'em!!

If I'm with a dude and he act all complicated, he gotta go!!!

This shit is not complicated

728huey said:

Not to get off the whole "crazy bitches" theme, but going back to the original post from blackbob, you say you're in your 40's and still can't figure out what your gf wants? How many relationships have you been in? (Seriously.) And of those, have you been trying to be the nice, senitive guy? Not to pummel on you, but you sound like a wuss. (Don't feel bad; I was a total wuss for a long time myself.)

Ideally, all the women we go out with would be like JustErin and come out directly and ask us men to fuck them like a rabid beast and pull their hair while we savage them from behind. Or at least be like ZK and encourage us to clean around the house with the promise of some nice oral pleasure. (BTW ZK, I'd clean your dishes, but it would take me over 17 hours just to get to your country , and that's a long way to go to get a BJ.) Unfortunately, most women have been conditioned not to put out sexually, even with their husbands/boyfriends, because they don't want to be seen as sluts. So they expect their men to initiate every sexual encounter, even if they dripping wet horny. And the one thing that most of these women hate is a guy who acts wimpy or whiny. They want a man who will lead them. (I'm not being chauvinistic here; it's just the way women are wired biologically when it comes to relationships and sex.) So in yiour case, you need to find your manhood and take control of your relationship (but not too much; don't be an asshole or stalker).

The next time you're with your girlfriend, just put your arm around her and cudlle her without her asking for it. If she rejects you, then leave her alone; she's probably way too high maintenance for you and you're better off just cutting your losses and moving on. But if she accepts, then just escalate the sexual tension slowly, lightly kissing her and/or giving her a massage, and remember to be in control the whole time. If you do this right, she will get really excited around you and will be begging you to ravish her in bed. If she is still resistant, than she probably has some intimacy issues that she needs to deal with herself.

[Edited 7/26/10 16:17pm]

JustErin said:

You just noticed.

I mean i know you're sexually liberated but damn dude made it

seem like you were a porn star or something.

phunkdaddy said:

JustErin said:

You just noticed.

I mean i know you're sexually liberated but damn dude made it

seem like you were a porn star or something.

I sometimes wish my exes posted on here. I think it would be hilarious to see what they would say about me.

728huey said:

Not to get off the whole "crazy bitches" theme, but going back to the original post from blackbob, you say you're in your 40's and still can't figure out what your gf wants? How many relationships have you been in? (Seriously.) And of those, have you been trying to be the nice, senitive guy? Not to pummel on you, but you sound like a wuss. (Don't feel bad; I was a total wuss for a long time myself.)

Ideally, all the women we go out with would be like JustErin and come out directly and ask us men to fuck them like a rabid beast and pull their hair while we savage them from behind. Or at least be like ZK and encourage us to clean around the house with the promise of some nice oral pleasure. (BTW ZK, I'd clean your dishes, but it would take me over 17 hours just to get to your country , and that's a long way to go to get a BJ.) Unfortunately, most women have been conditioned not to put out sexually, even with their husbands/boyfriends, because they don't want to be seen as sluts. So they expect their men to initiate every sexual encounter, even if they dripping wet horny. And the one thing that most of these women hate is a guy who acts wimpy or whiny. They want a man who will lead them. (I'm not being chauvinistic here; it's just the way women are wired biologically when it comes to relationships and sex.) So in yiour case, you need to find your manhood and take control of your relationship (but not too much; don't be an asshole or stalker).

The next time you're with your girlfriend, just put your arm around her and cudlle her without her asking for it. If she rejects you, then leave her alone; she's probably way too high maintenance for you and you're better off just cutting your losses and moving on. But if she accepts, then just escalate the sexual tension slowly, lightly kissing her and/or giving her a massage, and remember to be in control the whole time. If you do this right, she will get really excited around you and will be begging you to ravish her in bed. If she is still resistant, than she probably has some intimacy issues that she needs to deal with herself.

[Edited 7/26/10 16:17pm]

oh and for all your informations, he didn't know he was getting the blow-job while he was scrubbing the pots. I grabbed him from behind as he was finishing off and led him to a room away from all the kids. He was the one who put 2 and 2 together, said he would wash dishes ANYTIME if that was the end result

heybaby said:

I find it interesting that I hear that a lot-on both ends. Men are not understood either and can be just as complicated. If people stop thinking about gender and realize that its all about issues that EVERYONE has then understanding eachother would be alot easier. And if both took the time to understand and openly communicate honestly on both ends to eachother their wants and needs the world would be a whole lot happier

[Edited 7/25/10 7:42am]

728huey said:

Not to get off the whole "crazy bitches" theme, but going back to the original post from blackbob, you say you're in your 40's and still can't figure out what your gf wants? How many relationships have you been in? (Seriously.) And of those, have you been trying to be the nice, senitive guy? Not to pummel on you, but you sound like a wuss. (Don't feel bad; I was a total wuss for a long time myself.)

Ideally, all the women we go out with would be like JustErin and come out directly and ask us men to fuck them like a rabid beast and pull their hair while we savage them from behind. Or at least be like ZK and encourage us to clean around the house with the promise of some nice oral pleasure. (BTW ZK, I'd clean your dishes, but it would take me over 17 hours just to get to your country , and that's a long way to go to get a BJ.) Unfortunately, most women have been conditioned not to put out sexually, even with their husbands/boyfriends, because they don't want to be seen as sluts. So they expect their men to initiate every sexual encounter, even if they dripping wet horny. And the one thing that most of these women hate is a guy who acts wimpy or whiny. They want a man who will lead them. (I'm not being chauvinistic here; it's just the way women are wired biologically when it comes to relationships and sex.) So in yiour case, you need to find your manhood and take control of your relationship (but not too much; don't be an asshole or stalker).

The next time you're with your girlfriend, just put your arm around her and cudlle her without her asking for it. If she rejects you, then leave her alone; she's probably way too high maintenance for you and you're better off just cutting your losses and moving on. But if she accepts, then just escalate the sexual tension slowly, lightly kissing her and/or giving her a massage, and remember to be in control the whole time. If you do this right, she will get really excited around you and will be begging you to ravish her in bed. If she is still resistant, than she probably has some intimacy issues that she needs to deal with herself.

[Edited 7/26/10 16:17pm]

728huey .....maybe your right.....i think i sometimes expect a woman to take the lead sometimes ....its good to feel wanted and needed as well sometimes....maybe i am too sensitive and need to be more dominent ...... ARE WOMEN WIRED SO MEN TAKE THE LEAD IN SEX EVERY TIME ?.....i suppose thats right .....we are still cavemen and women at heart...we just dont go about hitting our women on the head with big clubs and dragging them by the hair into our caves for a bit ( i think ) ....... maybe i need to get more macho and not be soo sensitive... COME HERE ...BITCH....YO MAN NEEDS YA.....

blackbob said:

728huey said:

Not to get off the whole "crazy bitches" theme, but going back to the original post from blackbob, you say you're in your 40's and still can't figure out what your gf wants? How many relationships have you been in? (Seriously.) And of those, have you been trying to be the nice, senitive guy? Not to pummel on you, but you sound like a wuss. (Don't feel bad; I was a total wuss for a long time myself.)

Ideally, all the women we go out with would be like JustErin and come out directly and ask us men to fuck them like a rabid beast and pull their hair while we savage them from behind. Or at least be like ZK and encourage us to clean around the house with the promise of some nice oral pleasure. (BTW ZK, I'd clean your dishes, but it would take me over 17 hours just to get to your country , and that's a long way to go to get a BJ.) Unfortunately, most women have been conditioned not to put out sexually, even with their husbands/boyfriends, because they don't want to be seen as sluts. So they expect their men to initiate every sexual encounter, even if they dripping wet horny. And the one thing that most of these women hate is a guy who acts wimpy or whiny. They want a man who will lead them. (I'm not being chauvinistic here; it's just the way women are wired biologically when it comes to relationships and sex.) So in yiour case, you need to find your manhood and take control of your relationship (but not too much; don't be an asshole or stalker).

The next time you're with your girlfriend, just put your arm around her and cudlle her without her asking for it. If she rejects you, then leave her alone; she's probably way too high maintenance for you and you're better off just cutting your losses and moving on. But if she accepts, then just escalate the sexual tension slowly, lightly kissing her and/or giving her a massage, and remember to be in control the whole time. If you do this right, she will get really excited around you and will be begging you to ravish her in bed. If she is still resistant, than she probably has some intimacy issues that she needs to deal with herself.

[Edited 7/26/10 16:17pm]

728huey .....maybe your right.....i think i sometimes expect a woman to take the lead sometimes ....its good to feel wanted and needed as well sometimes....maybe i am too sensitive and need to be more dominent ...... ARE WOMEN WIRED SO MEN TAKE THE LEAD IN SEX EVERY TIME ?.....i suppose thats right .....we are still cavemen and women at heart...we just dont go about hitting our women on the head with big clubs and dragging them by the hair into our caves for a bit ( i think ) ....... maybe i need to get more macho and not be soo sensitive... COME HERE ...BITCH....YO MAN NEEDS YA.....

there is nothing like a hard-on pressed against oneself to light the fires in the loins

ZombieKitten said:

TD3 said:

Wait, wait, wait one damn mintue . . . back up the truck.

I sure in the hell don't think women have a monopoly on "crazy behavior". Truth be told many times men crazy behavior leaves with them with just their fingers and "mary" for pleasure. All of sudden we've flipped this to crazy ass women . . . give me a break. Save me the bullshit about men wanting "it" all the time anytime and anywhere, so many women would beg to differ with that perception. Many people aren't honest nor do they speak up about this or that concerning their sexual needs or what the need from their relationships. It's not always easy but not having those types of conversations only lends its self to mounting problems and misunderstandings. (IMO)

As far as Cerebus unfounded and ridiculous statement(s) that, "far fewer men wield the power of sex like a weapon against their partner the way women in a commited relationship". My God. Lease speak to facts. Less than 15 percent of United Nations States members have laws againts martial rape. In our country (United States of America) it's only been since the late 70's and 80's that all 50 States have refined and/or revised state laws to say marital rape is a crime. Twenty-Five percent of rapes in America are martial rapes. Still, the majority of women around the world don't have a say or any rights to say NO, don't have right or access to birth control, can be stoned and burned at the stake at the mere whispers by any man that she's had sexual relations outside or during marriage. Women are killed by male members of their families - when they've been the victims of rape - in order for the family to regain their "honor". I'm not sure what books you've read Cerebus, but you been grossly misinformed.

I find the wield the power of sex like a weapon very interesting choice of words.

[Edited 7/26/10 8:18am]

Why would you think anything I said had anything do with RAPE!?!? Talk about completely missing the point. Or projecting your own issues into the conversation, maybe. My comments had NOTHING to do with rape, which is disgusting on any and every level. They were about the way women use sex to their advantage, particularly in a committed relationship (much harder to do so in the dating game as it doesn't hold as much power at that point). There are MANY books that both discuss and INSTRUCT in this regard. I've sat in a room full of women on more than one occassion while they were discussing this very topic like talking about the weather. And the fact that no women repsonded to what I said (with a comment that makes sense) speaks VOLUMES!

TotalANXiousNESS said:

heybaby said:

Tell 'em to stop his whining man up and give it up

ok thats just me. just tell him whats on your mind. That is all.

I did. I did. It didn't help.

Maybe he has other things that are on his mind that are bothering him. Check with him and really communicate first before you dismiss it as whining, Scorpio

BklynBabe said:

PunkMistress said:

Also, if you want to know something about a bitch, ask her. If she has a hard time answering direct questions, she's fucked up. Dump her. Or stay and shut up your complaining.

Amen! Tell 'em!!

If I'm with a dude and he act all complicated, he gotta go!!!

This shit is not complicated

I love y'all, I really do

Ottensen said:

TotalANXiousNESS said:

I did. I did. It didn't help.

Maybe he has other things that are on his mind that are bothering him. Check with him and really communicate first before you dismiss it as whining, Scorpio

UGH, talking about it....................his feelings...................................ughhhhhhhhhhhhhh.

Alritttttttte.

TotalANXiousNESS said:

Ottensen said:

Maybe he has other things that are on his mind that are bothering him. Check with him and really communicate first before you dismiss it as whining, Scorpio

UGH, talking about it....................his feelings...................................ughhhhhhhhhhhhhh.

Alritttttttte.

Cerebus said:

TD3 said:

Wait, wait, wait one damn minute . . . back up the truck.

I sure in the hell don't think women have a monopoly on "crazy behavior". Truth be told many times men crazy behavior leaves with them with just their fingers and "mary" for pleasure. All of sudden we've flipped this to crazy ass women . . . give me a break. :loll: Save me the bullshit about men wanting "it" all the time anytime and anywhere, so many women would beg to differ with that perception. Many people aren't honest nor do they speak up about this or that concerning their sexual needs or what the need from their relationships. It's not always easy but not having those types of conversations only lends its self to mounting problems and misunderstandings. (IMO)

As far as Cerebus unfounded and ridiculous statement(s) that, "far fewer men wield the power of sex like a weapon against their partner the way women in a committed relationship". My God. Lease speak to facts. Less than 15 percent of United Nations States members have laws against martial rape. In our country (United States of America) it's only been since the late 70's and 80's that all 50 States have refined and/or revised state laws to say marital rape is a crime. Twenty-Five percent of rapes in America are martial rapes. Still, the majority of women around the world don't have a say or any rights to say NO, don't have right or access to birth control, can be stoned and burned at the stake at the mere whispers by any man that she's had sexual relations outside or during marriage. Women are killed by male members of their families - when they've been the victims of rape - in order for the family to regain their "honor". I'm not sure what books you've read Cerebus, but you been grossly misinformed.

I find the wield the power of sex like a weapon very interesting choice of words.

[Edited 7/26/10 8:18am]

Why would you think anything I said had anything do with RAPE!?!? Talk about completely missing the point. Or projecting your own issues into the conversation, maybe. My comments had NOTHING to do with rape, which is disgusting on any and every level. They were about the way women use sex to their advantage, particularly in a committed relationship (much harder to do so in the dating game as it doesn't hold as much power at that point). There are MANY books that both discuss and INSTRUCT in this regard. I've sat in a room full of women on more than one occasion while they were discussing this very topic like talking about the weather. And the fact that no women responded to what I said (with a comment that makes sense) speaks VOLUMES!

I haven't missed any point Sir, maybe your poor poor choice of words should be the issue. You should reread what your wrote. "But generally speaking, far fewer men wield the power of sex like a weapon against their partner the way women in a committed relationship do." I don't know of any man dying or been physically hurt if a woman turns him down or withholds sex for whatever reason. Have you? Forcing anyone to have sex against their takes power and causes harm, great harm, and it happens a lot. Power and the politics is a factor in everything and the bedroom /sex hasn't escaped those struggles. Your statement or your choice of words are inaccurate past and present. You've spoken with groups of women, good for you. If you had repeated what you've written here, this woman would've beg to differ with your perception, what books you've read, and your choice of words.

[Edited 7/27/10 22:21pm]

This thread is hilarious.

IAintTheOne said:

I usually say " I know nothing I just live here"