Serious said:

paintedlady said:

Heck that might be MY problem too!

I don't understand that either... I need time to heal my heart otherwise I bring that baggage into my new relationship. I don't know how the guys I dealt with do it.

That's what both me and my bf did .

Time doesn't heal all wounds, sometimes counseling helps. I am glad I was able to talk to a good person about my personal issues, I was able to help me stop some bad habits I had.

I tend to become infatuated easily, and then I did dumb stuff like put the guys needs first over my own too much only to become resentful after.

I no longer do that, so I am in a better position to be in a relationship now. You and your guy can still be OK if you two have someone to talk to to work out any issues that may lead to repeating past mistakes made. If you both are willing, you two can work anything out.

paintedlady said:

Serious said:

That's what both me and my bf did .

Time doesn't heal all wounds, sometimes counseling helps. I am glad I was able to talk to a good person about my personal issues, I was able to help me stop some bad habits I had.

I tend to become infatuated easily, and then I did dumb stuff like put the guys needs first over my own too much only to become resentful after.

I no longer do that, so I am in a better position to be in a relationship now. You and your guy can still be OK if you two have someone to talk to to work out any issues that may lead to repeating past mistakes made. If you both are willing, you two can work anything out.

Thank you . I have people I talk to, I don't think he does. Or he would have, but probably is not willing to share things with them. We are facing loads of other problems too, but we love each other, so I hope it will work somehow .