i am in my early 40s and i still dont understand how women work ?...i dont have a clue what i am supposed to do or not to do in general.........when it comes to sex....i dont know if i am supposed to know when my girlfriend wants sex or when i should just leave it ...she never actually asks for sex or says she doesnt....as a simple man....i am ready for sex just about all the time but i cant read women at all ?...she can be shy and almost withdrawn sometimes and other times.....she is like a sex mad lunatic !! ....

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i am confused...

Some (not all) women need an emotional connection to have sex It's like her mind has to be right otherwise it ain't happening. Unlike (most of us) men, we can just hump away.

Communicating with your woman is key. Pay attention to the tone of her voice, her body language etc. Talk.

And hey, most women are alot more horny around the time of their period, so, if she was like a sex mad lunatic one time it might have been that. Or maybe you're a don juan afterall.

blackbob said:

i am in my early 40s and i still dont understand how women work ?...i dont have a clue what i am supposed to do or not to do in general.........when it comes to sex....i dont know if i am supposed to know when my girlfriend wants sex or when i should just leave it ...she never actually asks for sex or says she doesnt....as a simple man....i am ready for sex just about all the time but i cant read women at all ?...she can be shy and almost withdrawn sometimes and other times.....she is like a sex mad lunatic !! ....

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i am confused...

join the club. the bastards need to issue an instruction manual

pay in advance. i find that it solves most problems.

Every time you have the urge for sex just go for it. If she wants it, cool. If she's seems distant, or 'shy' as you described it, back off.

NMuzakNSoul said:

Some (not all) women need an emotional connection to have sex It's like her mind has to be right otherwise it ain't happening. Unlike (most of us) men, we can just hump away.

Communicating with your woman is key. Pay attention to the tone of her voice, her body language etc. Talk.

And hey, most women are alot more horny around the time of their period, so, if she was like a sex mad lunatic one time it might have been that. Or maybe you're a don juan afterall.

Rite Rite Rite to all of the above.

Don't ask me. I'm a woman and I don't understand them either.

Vendetta1 said:

Don't ask me. I'm a woman and I don't understand them either.

women...yuck!

I find it interesting that I hear that a lot-on both ends. Men are not understood either and can be just as complicated. If people stop thinking about gender and realize that its all about issues that EVERYONE has then understanding eachother would be alot easier. And if both took the time to understand and openly communicate honestly on both ends to eachother their wants and needs the world would be a whole lot happier

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...really its trial and error, women dont always understand themselves let alone making you understand.....

There would have to be a manuel for each and every woman; since becoming an orger I have read alot of JustErin posts and I realize that some women are NOTHING at all like me and that is truly the way that they are.

I blame Eve... Here eat this ..... nah not hungry "Boyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy!!!!" ok ok i'll eat it. and look what happened.

I find that from time to time, speaking to them works.

I greatly prefer it if I need to wait for an answer while they remove my penis from their mouth.

blackbob said:

i am in my early 40s and i still dont understand how women work ?...i dont have a clue what i am supposed to do or not to do in general.........when it comes to sex....i dont know if i am supposed to know when my girlfriend wants sex or when i should just leave it ...she never actually asks for sex or says she doesnt....as a simple man....i am ready for sex just about all the time but i cant read women at all ?...she can be shy and almost withdrawn sometimes and other times.....she is like a sex mad lunatic !! ....

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i am confused...

Step one - never admit any of this. Step two - don't worry about any of this. Step three - never ask about any of this. Step four - pretend like all of the above doesn't bother you in the least. Step five - be amazed when everything is still exactly the same as when you admitted to it, asked and worried about it.

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Mars23 said:

I find that from time to time, speaking to them works.

I greatly prefer it if I need to wait for an answer while they remove my penis from their mouth.

I usually say " I know nothing I just live here"

IAintTheOne said:

I usually say " I know nothing I just live here"

You sound like the perfect man; I want one JUST like you !

Deadflow3r said:

IAintTheOne said:

I usually say " I know nothing I just live here"

You sound like the perfect man; I want one JUST like you !

Nah Not perfect just me

I think you maybe just don't understand your gf.

blackbob said:

i am in my early 40s and i still dont understand how women work ?...i dont have a clue what i am supposed to do or not to do in general.........when it comes to sex....i dont know if i am supposed to know when my girlfriend wants sex or when i should just leave it ...she never actually asks for sex or says she doesnt....as a simple man....i am ready for sex just about all the time but i cant read women at all ?...she can be shy and almost withdrawn sometimes and other times.....she is like a sex mad lunatic !! ....

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i am confused...

maybe she doesn t understand herself, so you ve got no chance.

Bob, allow me to give you The Secret of A Happy Marriage. Or, if you prefer, The Secret to A Happy Relationship of Any Kind With Any Woman.

There are three little words every man must learn, and must say several times a month.

These three little words really can't be overused, and they mean EVERYTHING to a woman.

Every man knows these three little words, but very few men have what it takes to say them out loud. But these few men are the men that are HAPPY. The rest of us are just sad sacks.

Do you want to know what these three little words are?

OK, here you go:

"I AM SORRY."

There are three other words that go along with those three words. They are:

"IT'S MY FAULT."

Say these three words at the first sign of distress. They cure EVERYTHING.

So there you go. You now understand women as well as any man in the universe.

blackbob said:

i am in my early 40s and i still dont understand how women work ?...i dont have a clue what i am supposed to do or not to do in general.........when it comes to sex....i dont know if i am supposed to know when my girlfriend wants sex or when i should just leave it ...she never actually asks for sex or says she doesnt....as a simple man....i am ready for sex just about all the time but i cant read women at all ?...she can be shy and almost withdrawn sometimes and other times.....she is like a sex mad lunatic !! ....

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i am confused...

Discuss what you'd like and what your needs are and ask her the same questions. Tell her what you've mentioned to use, 'you're not quite sure when to "make a move" ' and go from there. She's not a mind reader nor should you be. You are going to have to speak up.

Vendetta1 said:

Don't ask me. I'm a woman and I don't understand them either.

HUGE numbers of women are such a pain in the ass it isn't worth trying to understand them

Mach said:

Vendetta1 said:

Don't ask me. I'm a woman and I don't understand them either.

HUGE numbers of women are such a pain in the ass it isn't worth trying to understand them

Mach said:

Vendetta1 said:

Don't ask me. I'm a woman and I don't understand them either.

HUGE numbers of women are such a pain in the ass it isn't worth trying to understand them

That's basically what I was sayin'.

TotalANXiousNESS said:

Every time you have the urge for sex just go for it. If she wants it, cool. If she's seems distant, or 'shy' as you described it, back off.

Why do men make conversation so complicated?

What's so difficult about "wanna screw?"

(if your girl is romantic, ask "wanna make love?" if your girl is a freak "wanna fuck?")

You do understand the difference between yes and no, right?

This is why I don't understand men...... take simple shit and make it complicated....

Vendetta1 said:

Mach said:

HUGE numbers of women are such a pain in the ass it isn't worth trying to understand them

BklynBabe said:

Why do men make conversation so complicated?

What's so difficult about "wanna screw?"

(if your girl is romantic, ask "wanna make love?" if your girl is a freak "wanna fuck?")

You do understand the difference between yes and no, right?

This is why I don't understand men...... take simple shit and make it complicated....

you see, whenever i ask any of the birds in work "wanna screw", they go fucking nuts, and not in a good way. screaming sexual harrasment and all that shit, HR start moaning, my boss starts moaning, and thats just asking a bird out

and if you cop a feel of their tits or arse in the lift or something, you'd have thought you'd just let off the biggest fart in the world

BklynBabe said:

Why do men make conversation so complicated?

What's so difficult about "wanna screw?"

(if your girl is romantic, ask "wanna make love?" if your girl is a freak "wanna fuck?")

You do understand the difference between yes and no, right?

This is why I don't understand men...... take simple shit and make it complicated....

That's true. But there are cases where a woman can be just plain difficult. I used to have a girlfriend who I'd come on to whenever I was in the mood and she ALWAYS complied. At some point, she complained that we never spent time together without sex being involved. She said she missed just cuddling on the couch and talking. I took heed and decided to let her take more of an initiative in the sexual department. Eventually, she wound up complaining that I no longer found her attractive because I wasn't pawing all over her whenever we were alone.