im 20 years old and i lost all my motivation to do anything

i dont like to go clubbing anymore

im not doing pageants anymore?

had a chance to work at a upscale daycare and pasted up on it (dummie)

i hate school i hate working and i dont know what i wanna do with my life

what the hell is wrong with me ?

could i be depressed ? if so i dont know what for?

damn girl, 20 is not the time to have a mid life crisis!

Do you have any idea of what your dreams are?

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

damn girl, 20 is not the time to have a mid life crisis!

Do you have any idea of what your dreams are?

i have dreams but they are not reachable

most of my dreams are things im terrible at

plus i dont know what im good at

PicklesMcMillan said:

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

damn girl, 20 is not the time to have a mid life crisis!

Do you have any idea of what your dreams are?

i have dreams but they are not reachable

most of my dreams are things im terrible at

plus i dont know what im good at

Well list the unthinkable for me.

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

PicklesMcMillan said:

i have dreams but they are not reachable

most of my dreams are things im terrible at

plus i dont know what im good at

Well list the unthinkable for me.

a singer...... however im tone deaf and i sound terrible

a good comedian .....im a girl and i think im fairly attractive .....it ended before it even started

a lawyer ......not good with confrontation

a vet.......... scared of 91% of birds and i dont like snakes by my feet

a celebrity make -up artist........i believe you have to go to school for this (which is alot of money,

i looked it up) however im already in school and im majoring in history... if i drop out of 4-

year university to go to a 9month beauty school my mom would be very upset and i dont have

the funds to do both

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PicklesMcMillan said:

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

Well list the unthinkable for me.

a singer...... however im tone deaf and i sound terrible

a good comedian .....im a girl and i think im fairly attractive .....it ended before it even started

a lawyer ......not good with confrontation

a vet.......... scared of 91% of birds and i dont like snakes by my feet

a celebrity make -up artist........i believe you have to go to school for this (which is alot of money,

i looked it up) however im already in school and im majoring in history... if i drop out of 4-

year university to go to a 9month beauty school my mom would be very upset and i dont have

the funds to do both

[Edited 7/13/10 11:47am]

You mentioned that you turned down a job at a daycare center. That tells me that you are pretty good with kids as well as with people. Why not hone in on that skill and build on it.

shorttrini said:

PicklesMcMillan said:

a singer...... however im tone deaf and i sound terrible

a good comedian .....im a girl and i think im fairly attractive .....it ended before it even started

a lawyer ......not good with confrontation

a vet.......... scared of 91% of birds and i dont like snakes by my feet

a celebrity make -up artist........i believe you have to go to school for this (which is alot of money,

i looked it up) however im already in school and im majoring in history... if i drop out of 4-

year university to go to a 9month beauty school my mom would be very upset and i dont have

the funds to do both

[Edited 7/13/10 11:47am]

You mentioned that you turned down a job at a daycare center. That tells me that you are pretty good with kids as well as with people. Why not hone in on that skill and build on it.

what are some good careers that deal with having good people skills

other than a teacher...i have no desire to be a teacher

PicklesMcMillan said:

im 20 years old and i lost all my motivation to do anything

i dont like to go clubbing anymore

im not doing pageants anymore?

had a chance to work at a upscale daycare and pasted up on it (dummie)

i hate school i hate working and i dont know what i wanna do with my life

what the hell is wrong with me ?

could i be depressed ? if so i dont know what for?

You're 20 of course you don't know what you want to do with your life. That's what your 20's are for, figuring all that out.

Start small. Downthread you say you're majoring in history. What made you choose that major?

Rather than focusing on what you're not good at or what is out of reach or unrealistic focus on what you're good at, what you enjoy. What are your hobbies? What do you like to do with your free time (when you're not feeling overwhelmed and unmotivated). What are you interested in? What are you passionate about?

Don't be afraid to try different things because you'll fail. Now is the time to do that! Now is the time to make those mistakes and grow from them. It's a great big world and you're just beginning your journey through it!

PicklesMcMillan said:

im 20 years old and i lost all my motivation to do anything

i dont like to go clubbing anymore

im not doing pageants anymore?

had a chance to work at a upscale daycare and pasted up on it (dummie)

i hate school i hate working and i dont know what i wanna do with my life

what the hell is wrong with me ?

could i be depressed ? if so i dont know what for?

Depression is often chemical. You don't necessarily have to have a reason for it.

But you're young. Sometimes just the very thought of what lies ahead and having to make life choices can be overwhelming and make you feel unmotivated.

[Edited 7/13/10 12:32pm]

Shoewhore said:

PicklesMcMillan said:

im 20 years old and i lost all my motivation to do anything

i dont like to go clubbing anymore

im not doing pageants anymore?

had a chance to work at a upscale daycare and pasted up on it (dummie)

i hate school i hate working and i dont know what i wanna do with my life

what the hell is wrong with me ?

could i be depressed ? if so i dont know what for?

You're 20 of course you don't know what you want to do with your life. That's what your 20's are for, figuring all that out.

Start small. Downthread you say you're majoring in history. What made you choose that major?

Rather than focusing on what you're not good at or what is out of reach or unrealistic focus on what you're good at, what you enjoy. What are your hobbies? What do you like to do with your free time (when you're not feeling overwhelmed and unmotivated). What are you interested in? What are you passionate about?

Don't be afraid to try different things because you'll fail. Now is the time to do that! Now is the time to make those mistakes and grow from them. It's a great big world and you're just beginning your journey through it!

thanks ,i appreciate your advice

i think im gonna go try to find some new hobbies and see what im good at

i choose history Because i always did well in my history classes

and one of my high school history teachers suggested that i major in history

i dont know what i wanna do with this history degree

i 1st majored in physical therapy but found out it wasnt for me

i dont know if history is for me either

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johnart said:

PicklesMcMillan said:

im 20 years old and i lost all my motivation to do anything

i dont like to go clubbing anymore

im not doing pageants anymore?

had a chance to work at a upscale daycare and pasted up on it (dummie)

i hate school i hate working and i dont know what i wanna do with my life

what the hell is wrong with me ?

could i be depressed ? if so i dont know what for?

Depression is often chemical. You don't necessarily have to have a reason for it.

But you're young. Sometimes just the very thought of what lies ahead and having to make life choices can be overwhelming and make you feel unmotivated.

[Edited 7/13/10 12:32pm]

wow this really speaks to me

this maybe my issue

step 1...log off and get out into the real world...

I'm so thankful the internets weren't around in my younger days, the time I would have wasted...20 is not an age for making all of your premanent life decisions but rather for experiencing what life has to offer and building a future from those experiences...

be willing to step outside of your comfort zone...learn from your mistakes as well as your successes...don't be afraid to fuck up, it happens...

when it comes down to it, the only person that can really motivate you is YOU...sometimes the best thing you can do is kick yourself in the ass and snap out of your funk and realize that you hold the key to your success and happiness...

at this stage in your life, the ball is in your court...but you have to be willing to play, you can't just sit on the bench and hope for the best...

PicklesMcMillan said:

shorttrini said:

You mentioned that you turned down a job at a daycare center. That tells me that you are pretty good with kids as well as with people. Why not hone in on that skill and build on it.

what are some good careers that deal with having good people skills

other than a teacher...i have no desire to be a teacher

You could be a counsellor of some sort, a mentor. Like most have said on this board, your 20's is the time to explore who you are. Take what you like to do, and build on it. I work as a school counsellor, which gives me the chance to work with students of all ages. I love talking, learning and helping people. I have the best of all worlds.

thejason said:

step 1...log off and get out into the real world...

I'm so thankful the internets weren't around in my younger days, the time I would have wasted...20 is not an age for making all of your premanent life decisions but rather for experiencing what life has to offer and building a future from those experiences...

be willing to step outside of your comfort zone...learn from your mistakes as well as your successes...don't be afraid to fuck up, it happens...

when it comes down to it, the only person that can really motivate you is YOU...sometimes the best thing you can do is kick yourself in the ass and snap out of your funk and realize that you hold the key to your success and happiness...

at this stage in your life, the ball is in your court...but you have to be willing to play, you can't just sit on the bench and hope for the best...

im afraid of fucking up

i want to be perfect the first time i do it

this is my problem .... how do i get over this ?

its seems like im the only one thats fucking up all the time

everyone else seems to have there life together around me

[Edited 7/13/10 13:07pm]

PicklesMcMillan said:

thejason said:

step 1...log off and get out into the real world...

I'm so thankful the internets weren't around in my younger days, the time I would have wasted...20 is not an age for making all of your premanent life decisions but rather for experiencing what life has to offer and building a future from those experiences...

be willing to step outside of your comfort zone...learn from your mistakes as well as your successes...don't be afraid to fuck up, it happens...

when it comes down to it, the only person that can really motivate you is YOU...sometimes the best thing you can do is kick yourself in the ass and snap out of your funk and realize that you hold the key to your success and happiness...

at this stage in your life, the ball is in your court...but you have to be willing to play, you can't just sit on the bench and hope for the best...

im afraid of fucking up

i want to perfect the first time i do it

this is my problem .... how do i get over this ?

its seems like im the only one thats fucking up all the time

everyone else seems to have there life together around me

trust me, you're not the only one fucking up...everybody does...it's how they handle it, recover from and own their fuck ups that makes the difference...

and it doesn't matter how everyones life around you seems, you have to live your life, not theirs...you could possibly learn from their example but you need to concentrate on you and what affects you directly...

wanting to be perfect everytime is admirable but impossible...you can't spend your entire life being afraid, and the only person thats gonna be able to change that is you...you have to find that motivation...but it all starts by looking and doing...not sitting around and worrying...

PicklesMcMillan said:

thejason said:

step 1...log off and get out into the real world...

I'm so thankful the internets weren't around in my younger days, the time I would have wasted...20 is not an age for making all of your premanent life decisions but rather for experiencing what life has to offer and building a future from those experiences...

be willing to step outside of your comfort zone...learn from your mistakes as well as your successes...don't be afraid to fuck up, it happens...

when it comes down to it, the only person that can really motivate you is YOU...sometimes the best thing you can do is kick yourself in the ass and snap out of your funk and realize that you hold the key to your success and happiness...

at this stage in your life, the ball is in your court...but you have to be willing to play, you can't just sit on the bench and hope for the best...

im afraid of fucking up

i want to be perfect the first time i do it

this is my problem .... how do i get over this ?

its seems like im the only one thats fucking up all the time

everyone else seems to have there life together around me

[Edited 7/13/10 13:07pm]

First of all, give yourself a chance to fail, there is nothing wrong with fucking up....As long as you learn from it. Those people that seem to have their act together, I'm sure it did not start out that way for them. I am in my 40's and have screwed up many times, but I have learned that as long as I have learned from it, then I am good. Those that have not failed are really missing out on an adventure....

thejason said:

PicklesMcMillan said:

im afraid of fucking up

i want to perfect the first time i do it

this is my problem .... how do i get over this ?

its seems like im the only one thats fucking up all the time

everyone else seems to have there life together around me

trust me, you're not the only one fucking up...everybody does...it's how they handle it, recover from and own their fuck ups that makes the difference...

and it doesn't matter how everyones life around you seems, you have to live your life, not theirs...you could possibly learn from their example but you need to concentrate on you and what affects you directly...

wanting to be perfect everytime is admirable but impossible...you can't spend your entire life being afraid, and the only person thats gonna be able to change that is you...you have to find that motivation...but it all starts by looking and doing...not sitting around and worrying...

I'm 41 and I'm STILL fucking up! Frequently!! That's how you learn. I'd be afraid if I didn't fuck up every now and then. We don't learn from the things that are easy or that go smoothly. The lessons are in the fuck ups. Fucking up = growth.

Ok, I might be talking to myself about now....

Lesson number 1, don't beat yourself up. There are plenty of people in the world more than happy to do it for you. Be your own best friend, not your own worst enemy!

PicklesMcMillan said:

thejason said:

step 1...log off and get out into the real world...

I'm so thankful the internets weren't around in my younger days, the time I would have wasted...20 is not an age for making all of your premanent life decisions but rather for experiencing what life has to offer and building a future from those experiences...

be willing to step outside of your comfort zone...learn from your mistakes as well as your successes...don't be afraid to fuck up, it happens...

when it comes down to it, the only person that can really motivate you is YOU...sometimes the best thing you can do is kick yourself in the ass and snap out of your funk and realize that you hold the key to your success and happiness...

at this stage in your life, the ball is in your court...but you have to be willing to play, you can't just sit on the bench and hope for the best...

im afraid of fucking up

i want to be perfect the first time i do it

this is my problem .... how do i get over this ?

its seems like im the only one thats fucking up all the time

everyone else seems to have there life together around me

[Edited 7/13/10 13:07pm]

GET OVER THAT OCD SHIT. It will ruin your life and make you miserable forever. The rich have it all and still they can be miserable too. Do the best you can, forget about what other people think and just do what the hell you do!

.

[Edited 7/13/10 13:18pm]

PicklesMcMillan said:

thejason said:

step 1...log off and get out into the real world...

I'm so thankful the internets weren't around in my younger days, the time I would have wasted...20 is not an age for making all of your premanent life decisions but rather for experiencing what life has to offer and building a future from those experiences...

be willing to step outside of your comfort zone...learn from your mistakes as well as your successes...don't be afraid to fuck up, it happens...

when it comes down to it, the only person that can really motivate you is YOU...sometimes the best thing you can do is kick yourself in the ass and snap out of your funk and realize that you hold the key to your success and happiness...

at this stage in your life, the ball is in your court...but you have to be willing to play, you can't just sit on the bench and hope for the best...

im afraid of fucking up

i want to be perfect the first time i do it

this is my problem .... how do i get over this ?

its seems like im the only one thats fucking up all the time

everyone else seems to have there life together around me

[Edited 7/13/10 13:07pm]

In the 23 years since I was 20, I've F'd up many times- in relationships, in school (I took my Qualifying exams TWICE!), and in my career. It happens while you're living life. No one is perfect- even the ones who try to make you believe they are.

I think that if you want to be makeup artist, then you should follow that dream. Going to a 4-year school to please someone else- although I understand parental pressure- seems like a waste, esp. if you hate what you're doing. What would you do with your law degree if you don't want to be a lawyer or teacher (2 occupations that involves managing other people's lives)?

I understand how you feel. I've been there.

PicklesMcMillan said:

its seems like im the only one thats fucking up all the time

everyone else seems to have there life together around me

[Edited 7/13/10 13:07pm]

I feel that way and I'm almost twice your age! I do suffer from anxiety/depression and probably have since I was a little girl. It is getting worse as I age though I have no energy these days

a singer...... however im tone deaf and i sound terrible *You can consider DJing, songwriting, something in the music industry if you like to be around music

a good comedian .....im a girl and i think im fairly attractive .....it ended before it even started

*can you think of good jokes? writing, blogs, working in a comedy club, joke tester

a lawyer ......not good with confrontation *business law, entertainment law, forensics (you like history, how about criminal detective work)

a vet.......... scared of 91% of birds and i dont like snakes by my feet *most vets don't do birds or snakes, LOL...you can also do research, pharmacology

a celebrity make -up artist........i believe you have to go to school for this *I bet you can work in a store at a makeup counter and practice

much of life and success happens to people who learn to think outside the box. You can also double major, learn another language is a good idea in this day and age, stay openminded! good luck

Really great advice there!

As long as I can remember I wanted to design clothes. Only problem is I can't sketch to save my life and I have zero creativity when it comes to that sort of thing. Can sew a lick either. But I can sell like a motherfuck. So I got into marketing and now I work for DKNY. I'm up to my eyeballs in fashion and couldn't love my job more. Hell my career is the one aspect of my life where I am completely happy.

if the box you have looks like beef jerky because you've been trying to force things to fit, get a new box!

Think outside the box

BklynBabe said:

PicklesMcMillan said:

its seems like im the only one thats fucking up all the time

everyone else seems to have there life together around me

[Edited 7/13/10 13:07pm]

I feel that way and I'm almost twice your age! I do suffer from anxiety/depression and probably have since I was a little girl. It is getting worse as I age though I have no energy these days

a singer...... however im tone deaf and i sound terrible *You can consider DJing, songwriting, something in the music industry if you like to be around music

a good comedian .....im a girl and i think im fairly attractive .....it ended before it even started

*can you think of good jokes? writing, blogs, working in a comedy club, joke tester

a lawyer ......not good with confrontation *business law, entertainment law, forensics (you like history, how about criminal detective work)

a vet.......... scared of 91% of birds and i dont like snakes by my feet *most vets don't do birds or snakes, LOL...you can also do research, pharmacology

a celebrity make -up artist........i believe you have to go to school for this *I bet you can work in a store at a makeup counter and practice

much of life and success happens to people who learn to think outside the box. You can also double major, learn another language is a good idea in this day and age, stay openminded! good luck

i hope you find peace in your life... i understand

sometimes my anxiety causes me to do irrational things

i dont think about what im doing and my thoughts are pretty much scattered and unfocused

i turn somewhat weckless

[Edited 7/13/10 13:41pm]

thanks everyone ..

i think i have a plan.............. now i just have to go through with it

now im ready

PicklesMcMillan said:

BklynBabe said:

I feel that way and I'm almost twice your age! I do suffer from anxiety/depression and probably have since I was a little girl. It is getting worse as I age though I have no energy these days

a singer...... however im tone deaf and i sound terrible *You can consider DJing, songwriting, something in the music industry if you like to be around music

a good comedian .....im a girl and i think im fairly attractive .....it ended before it even started

*can you think of good jokes? writing, blogs, working in a comedy club, joke tester

a lawyer ......not good with confrontation *business law, entertainment law, forensics (you like history, how about criminal detective work)

a vet.......... scared of 91% of birds and i dont like snakes by my feet *most vets don't do birds or snakes, LOL...you can also do research, pharmacology

a celebrity make -up artist........i believe you have to go to school for this *I bet you can work in a store at a makeup counter and practice

much of life and success happens to people who learn to think outside the box. You can also double major, learn another language is a good idea in this day and age, stay openminded! good luck

i hope you find peace in your life... i understand

sometimes my anxiety causes me to do irrational things

i dont think about what im doing and my thoughts are pretty much scattered and unfocused

i turn somewhat weckless

[Edited 7/13/10 13:41pm]

Glad you recognize that irrationality is ruling the day. Tell it to

PicklesMcMillan said:

thanks everyone ..

i think i have a plan.............. now i just have to go through with it

now im ready

i hope you find peace in your life... i understand

it's taking a long time for me to know what I want and what I don't want my life to be. Life is gonna shit on you no matter what you do, so you need to be prepared with TP at all times so you don't get caught sitting on the toilet assed out!

BklynBabe said:

i hope you find peace in your life... i understand

it's taking a long time for me to know what I want and what I don't want my life to be. Life is gonna shit on you no matter what you do, so you need to be prepared with TP at all times so you don't get caught sitting on the toilet assed out!

Reframing!

Now watch pickles will be making more money in 6 months than all of us put together