yet you feel so ungrateful and want them to stop.

case in point:

my 86 yr old aunt is trying to be nice and cook dinner every night. Problem is she cooks the same damn thing on a schedule with no variety!

Monday: spaghetti and corn (occasionally broccoli if I did not buy corn)

Tuesday: meat, mashed potatoes and carrots (today she cut up a bunch of potatoes to make them mashed because I didn't get the nasty boxed potatoes....I've never liked mashed potatoes like that anyway, especially with all the butter and whole milk she puts in them)

Wednesday: spaghetti leftovers

Thursday: rotini and kielbasa and corn or broccoli

Friday: Fish, fries, and salad

Saturday: Hamburgers, fires, and salad

Sunday: Chicken (occasionally porkchops or ribs for special occasion), rice and peas

Holiday: Turkey or ham, macaroni and cheese, sweet potato casserole, vegetable.....

For the past 3 years, there's like no variety. Except last summer when I had surgery so I could convince her not to cook for me, I ate pizza, and Sonic, and had no choice but to lay around, and weighed less than I do this summer.

I do wantto hurt her feelings but not only am I tired of eating the same shit on a schedule that never varies (like she could have made potato salad or baked the potatoes today but noooooo) but her cooking is not really all that good anymore either And I like bland and boring food so you know it's a problem if I'm like "ewwww" I do buy the groceries and try to buy other things for variety but she just ignores it! The other issue is she serves dinner at 5:30 pm..... so of course I end up hungry later when I shouldn't eat, and end up eating crap late at night.

I am so ungrateful

What about volunteering to cook a few nights a week?

your 86 year old aunt likely won't be here a whole lot longer. Enjoy her efforts and appreciate her in your life. It'll help you to look at the leftovers week after week a different way

Eat up and shut up.

PunkMistress said:

What about volunteering to cook a few nights a week?

can I borrow your mixer?

actually I don't say anything to her because it gives her something to do which I think keeps her going, she's really healthy for her age. I'm just being an ungrateful bitch on the internet and venting.

also my family doesn't believe I can cook as good as they can.....

I get what you're saying.

She's awesome to do all of that, especially at 86 years old, but it's not what you want.

Glad you're venting. and that you see how good it is for her to stay active.

Let Aunty do her thing and appreciate what she does while you're blessed to have her. There will be a day when you miss Spaghetti Monday.

BklynBabe said:

PunkMistress said:

What about volunteering to cook a few nights a week?

can I borrow your mixer?

actually I don't say anything to her because it gives her something to do which I think keeps her going, she's really healthy for her age. I'm just being an ungrateful bitch on the internet and venting.

also my family doesn't believe I can cook as good as they can.....

I figured you were just venting.

I remember when my grandmother started getting old and her cooking skills declined. It was kind of sad.

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besides, you don't offend the elderly!! It would hurt her feelings if I asked her to stop for no reason....

I just miss living by myself, dependent on no one and no one dependent on me, eating when and what I wanted.

PunkMistress said:

BklynBabe said:

can I borrow your mixer?

actually I don't say anything to her because it gives her something to do which I think keeps her going, she's really healthy for her age. I'm just being an ungrateful bitch on the internet and venting.

also my family doesn't believe I can cook as good as they can.....

I figured you were just venting.

I remember when my grandmother started getting old and her cooking skills declined. It was kind of sad.

Mine, too.

After a while my Dad had to turn the gas off to her stove. She started leaving it on.

BklynBabe said:

besides, you don't offend the elderly!! It would hurt her feelings if I asked her to stop for no reason....

I just miss living by myself, dependent on no one and no one dependent on me, eating when and what I wanted.

I hear you, babe.

She's 86 and healthy. You better eat what she eats/cooks

Someday she won't be with you anymore and you will be able to change your boring diet.

Pizza everyday!!!

my 100 year old grandma made me the same thing every night for a week boiled potatoes and beets from a jar, a couple of times with meatballs and once with a moose cutlet

BklynBabe said:

besides, you don't offend the elderly!! It would hurt her feelings if I asked her to stop for no reason....

I just miss living by myself, dependent on no one and no one dependent on me, eating when and what I wanted.

You'll eat that food and you'll like it!

BklynBabe said:

besides, you don't offend the elderly!! It would hurt her feelings if I asked her to stop for no reason....

I just miss living by myself, dependent on no one and no one dependent on me, eating when and what I wanted.

How's the boy doing?

PunkMistress said:

BklynBabe said:

besides, you don't offend the elderly!! It would hurt her feelings if I asked her to stop for no reason....

I just miss living by myself, dependent on no one and no one dependent on me, eating when and what I wanted.

How's the boy doing?

and what does he think of the food?

ZombieKitten said:

PunkMistress said:

How's the boy doing?

and what does he think of the food?

I think he's at a residential school now, he's escaping the food.

BklynBabe said:

besides, you don't offend the elderly!! It would hurt her feelings if I asked her to stop for no reason....

I just miss living by myself, dependent on no one and no one dependent on me, eating when and what I wanted.

Projections.

PunkMistress said:

ZombieKitten said:

and what does he think of the food?

I think he's at a residential school now, he's escaping the food.

ohhhhhhhhh, is that like boarding school?

PunkMistress said:

BklynBabe said:

besides, you don't offend the elderly!! It would hurt her feelings if I asked her to stop for no reason....

I just miss living by myself, dependent on no one and no one dependent on me, eating when and what I wanted.

How's the boy doing?

He's good! They take him lots of places and teach him current events in school. He still has an attitude though....so it's good that he is away. I must say I feel much much better not having to worry as much about him on a day by day basis.

PunkMistress said:

ZombieKitten said:

and what does he think of the food?

I think he's at a residential school now, he's escaping the food.

He told me he ate something and it was the best thing he ever ate, so I asked him to describe it and he said it was cheese, macaroni, and meat.

Sounds like Hamburger Helper!

And here grandma is cooking her lil self out trying to make him nutritious delicious meals

BklynBabe said:

PunkMistress said:

How's the boy doing?

He's good! They take him lots of places and teach him current events in school. He still has an attitude though....so it's good that he is away. I must say I feel much much better not having to worry as much about him on a day by day basis.

That's awesome! Kudos for being proactive enough to recognize his needs and get him into the kind of structured environment that can help him.

You have stepped in and done everything you possibly can to ensure this young man grows into a respectable person. From what I know, it seems you've done far more than his own mother was able or willing to do.

BklynBabe said:

PunkMistress said:

I think he's at a residential school now, he's escaping the food.

He told me he ate something and it was the best thing he ever ate, so I asked him to describe it and he said it was cheese, macaroni, and meat.

Sounds like Hamburger Helper!

And here grandma is cooking her lil self out trying to make him nutritious delicious meals

Like when you buy them an expensive toy for Christmas, and they're more interested in the box.

PunkMistress said:

BklynBabe said:

He told me he ate something and it was the best thing he ever ate, so I asked him to describe it and he said it was cheese, macaroni, and meat.

Sounds like Hamburger Helper!

And here grandma is cooking her lil self out trying to make him nutritious delicious meals

Like when you buy them an expensive toy for Christmas, and they're more interested in the box.

very cute

This all sounds yummy.

But I could see how it would get on your nerves. Sorry I have no advice tho.

Damn sounds kind of rough. Like you don't want to say anything to her risking hurting her feelings and seeming unappreciative...but at the same time, you tired of eating that shit week in and week out. I would do this, when she does the cooking next time, jump in the kitchen with her. In fact before you come home, buy some things from the grocery store that you and everybody else would like and then cook it with her. Suggest the changes in a smooth way as opposed to just saying "well i think we need to start eating something different because I'm tired of your menu". Just jump in and tell her that you appreciate her cooking so much that you would like to start helping out and even ask her tips on how you should prepare the food that you have bought to cook. Older folks love feeling useful. This method could help your situation.

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well she got me good today because she's cooking something different (that only she will eat) and it smells like dog shit

seriously....cuz the dogs have had diarrhea the past 4 days and I was about to yell at them and then I realized there was no shit....it was something cooking

guess I'll shut my mouth then LOL....Imma bout to go to Punk's house for some muffins....so what it's only a 12 hour drive!!

You ungrateful hussy!

Shyra said:

You ungrateful hussy!

Why not just say, "You know what would be good with this...?" and make an extra dish? That way, you get some variety and she still gets to do her thing.