LoveIsTheMessage said:

... And now I'm regretting replying to this thread in the first place

why???? is she an orger?

ZombieKitten said:

LoveIsTheMessage said:

... And now I'm regretting replying to this thread in the first place

why???? is she an orger?

No

LoveIsTheMessage said:

missfee said:

Because you still feel some type of way about it. You are still hurt. She was, in your words, your "dream girl" someone who had most of the qualities you are looking for in a woman, however she didn't feel that you possessed all the qualities she is, isn't looking for in a man. Seems like she's young and still wants to have fun. The reason why she's contacting you on facebook is to make sure you are okay because deep down she probably is sorry for how she treated you, but know this, you aren't on her mind though. I suggest you get up out of your funk and get to dating other women out here who will be worth your while. Good Luck

Thank you. Well, I am mostly over the deal now, compared to say how I felt for the latter part of 2009. I'm okay, though I still refrain from communicating with her that much, because I am afraid it would just end up with me hurt again. About the "dream girl" part, I have to clarify that she had her faults as well, but she was the closest to being one out of all the girls I have ever met thus far. Yes, I realize that I wasn't what she was after, at least not at this point, and yes, she did say on several occasions that she definitely wants to keep in touch afterwards, and I guess I have to give her credit for at least trying (the occasional Facebook chats, oh and she actually wished me a happy birthday on there as well just a couple of days ago). And yes, I realize I'm not on her mind. It is unfortunate that I had her on mine for so long. Well, not that I regret the relationship, because the summer I spent with her was one of the happiest times in my life.

I'm not really in a "funk" at the moment. My post might give that impression though, which is a bit misleading. Yes, I still do think about it from time to time, I guess the thread just sort of triggered the memories, but mostly I'm doing fine

I'm glad you don't regret it having the relationship with her, which is most important. I hate it when people try to say they regret wasting so much time with a person when it doesn't work out. Apparently there were feelings there, but it just didn't work out, that's life. So kudos to you for not having any regrets, you recognize that you enjoyed your moments with her but perhaps you two met at the wrong time and that happens all the time. I understand what you mean about memories...sometimes I go back down memory lane remembering about my ex whom I loved very deeply and although I know he loved me, the type of love I felt for him wasn't the same as what he felt for me. But you live and you learn. You seem like you have a good head on your shoulders. The right person will come along for you sooner or later. I'm glad you are doing fine now regarding the whole experience I definitely know what it feels like to be lovesick.

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LoveIsTheMessage said:

The whole "haven't been on a date since" part is also just partially her "fault", so to speak. Yes, I was hurt for a long time and didn't want to date anyone, but I am also quite picky, when it comes to dating. I love being around women, talking to them, looking at them... heck, I just generally love women, but when it comes to dating, I don't just date anybody. I try to carefully discern whether or not we are compatible before even making a move. And yes, I know that is kinda dumb, but I am a romantic idealist of sorts, and I'm not looking to date dozens of women - I always want it to be special, and not just another run-of-the-mill date, and that's why I put extra effort into it.

LoveIsTheMessage said:

Last summer. I dated a girl that I slowly got to know for 4-5 months after she had initially after a couple of dates given me the "I don't think I want to be in a relationship right now" speech, before she really warmed up to me. She had a lot of the qualities I look for in a girl. In many ways, she was a "dream girl", of sorts. At first, she was really into me, and we had a lot of fun. The things she did, and on a few occasions, said showed me that she did really care for me at this point. The relationship lasted for two months or so, before she went to London for a week for a music course. Once she came back, we met up the next day... when I baked her a blueberry pie and just went to her house to meet her, because she hadn't answered my calls. Well, after our little meet-up, she walks me to the subway and tells me she's breaking up with me. I later found out she had met some Italian dude in London, whom as far as I know she is still seeing.

She was, well is, young and this was her first relationship, so I guess she didn't really appreciate what she had, the affection I gave her. What hurts me the most is her nonchalant approach to it all. She just didn't seem to care at all... and she never apologized for what she did, how she treated me. I however have forgiven after I confronted her later on about the Italian dude. Afterwards she has, occasionally, initiated Facebook chats and asked me how I do, but that's about it.

I don't think she appreciates the fact that I have, even after all this, treated her nice.

I haven't been out on a date since.

... and I have no freaking idea why I'm sharing this with you people.

Your story sounds so very familiar. Poor baby... You were "Princeified."

Going through it right now. I love him and I know he loves me as much as he's capable of but it's not enough.

missfee said:

LoveIsTheMessage said:

The whole "haven't been on a date since" part is also just partially her "fault", so to speak. Yes, I was hurt for a long time and didn't want to date anyone, but I am also quite picky, when it comes to dating. I love being around women, talking to them, looking at them... heck, I just generally love women, but when it comes to dating, I don't just date anybody. I try to carefully discern whether or not we are compatible before even making a move. And yes, I know that is kinda dumb, but I am a romantic idealist of sorts, and I'm not looking to date dozens of women - I always want it to be special, and not just another run-of-the-mill date, and that's why I put extra effort into it.

You could say I'm looking for the one, instead of just someone. Admittedly, that leads to extended periods of no physical intimacy, but I can deal with it. I don't want to settle for just anything

ZombieKitten said:

PaisleyPark5083 said:

I had 2 rootcanals done this morning, ouch!!

Thanks Charlotte

I was sore for 2 days.

RenHoek said:

sqwooshed a teste in the elastic of my briefs while driving stickshift on Friday... now THAT hurts!!!

Boxer-briefs are not only sexier, they are safer.

LoveIsTheMessage said:

missfee said:

Because you still feel some type of way about it. You are still hurt. She was, in your words, your "dream girl" someone who had most of the qualities you are looking for in a woman, however she didn't feel that you possessed all the qualities she is, isn't looking for in a man. Seems like she's young and still wants to have fun. The reason why she's contacting you on facebook is to make sure you are okay because deep down she probably is sorry for how she treated you, but know this, you aren't on her mind though. I suggest you get up out of your funk and get to dating other women out here who will be worth your while. Good Luck

Thank you. Well, I am mostly over the deal now, compared to say how I felt for the latter part of 2009. I'm okay, though I still refrain from communicating with her that much, because I am afraid it would just end up with me hurt again. About the "dream girl" part, I have to clarify that she had her faults as well, but she was the closest to being one out of all the girls I have ever met thus far. Yes, I realize that I wasn't what she was after, at least not at this point, and yes, she did say on several occasions that she definitely wants to keep in touch afterwards, and I guess I have to give her credit for at least trying (the occasional Facebook chats, oh and she actually wished me a happy birthday on there as well just a couple of days ago). And yes, I realize I'm not on her mind. It is unfortunate that I had her on mine for so long. Well, not that I regret the relationship, because the summer I spent with her was one of the happiest times in my life.

I'm not really in a "funk" at the moment. My post might give that impression though, which is a bit misleading. Yes, I still do think about it from time to time, I guess the thread just sort of triggered the memories, but mostly I'm doing fine

I'd post the last time I went through something hurtful, but it would really sound like I was plagiarizing you. I spent the latter part of 09 doing the same after one of the best summer's ever.

if we talking about the heart 2 many times 2 mention

While carrying a window A/C unit a couple days ago, I cut my thumb on its back metal grate. It was the kind of injury, though, that shocked more than it actually hurt or bled. Just 15 minutes later, I was embarrassed by the fuss I'd made.

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Lammastide said:

While carrying a window A/C unit a couple days ago, I cut my thumb on its back metal grate. It was the kind of unjury, though, that shocked more than it actually hurt or bled. Just 15 minutes later, I was embarrassed by the fuss I'd made.

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Please don't talk about cutting thumbs because I think of the story that was told {I think by you} about someone in the family cutting their thumb/finger and they didn't go to the hospital for it, then later yanked what was thought to be a hair from the wound which actually turned out to be a nerve.

I got my ass kicked ROYALLY in a kick box class last month in front of a room full of people.

My physical pain is cured, but my ego will remain injured until my revenge takes place,,,,hopefully soon when I master this thing

I had a friendship end just two days ago but I realize it is the best thing for both of us. He was kind enough to give me closure and I will look back at it with nothing but fond memories.

Vendetta1 said:

I had a friendship end just two days ago but I realize it is the best thing for both of us. He was kind enough to give me closure and I will look back at it with nothing but fond memories.

I've had to do this a lot in the last couple of years.

I know it's a part of growing and changing, but it still feels kind of sad.

And a relief too.

chocolate1 said:

Shyra said:

You did the right thing, sweetie. It wasn't meant to be. It will get better with time, and who knows. By the time you're over him he might come to his senses and realize he let a good thing slip away. By then, it won't matter. You can tell him, "Let's continue our friendship." Same thing happened to me years ago. I loved this man's last year's draws for over three years. I thought he felt the same and then he let me know through his actions that he did not really care. About a year later, after not hearing from him, he called me out of the blue. We chatted for a few minutes and I realized that I could care less. I ended the conversation by saying, "Well, Jesse. It was nice of you to call. I hope everytning is going with with you." He replied in a somewhat dejected voice, "Okay, Trish." I hung up the phone and hollered, "PRAISE JESUS! I'M FREE!"

Thank you for that.

I keep hoping he'll realize that I was the "real deal" and the others were something to do.

But like I said, I know I did the right thing.

I know it's hard to hear, honey, but stop hoping that. Please.

I can say from experience that if he didn't have that spark for you then, he very likely won't acquire it in the future. You are the real deal, but you are probably meant for someone else. You're someone else's real deal. It in no way means there's anything wrong with you at all. But I think you're awesome and would hate to see you spending your time wishing on someone who isn't the one. If he was, he'd have been kissing your feet the whole time! You'll find the one who kisses your feet. Wait for him.

PunkMistress said:

Vendetta1 said:

I had a friendship end just two days ago but I realize it is the best thing for both of us. He was kind enough to give me closure and I will look back at it with nothing but fond memories.

I've had to do this a lot in the last couple of years.

I know it's a part of growing and changing, but it still feels kind of sad.

And a relief too.

I wish him nothing but a happy and healthy life without me.

PunkMistress said:

Vendetta1 said:

I had a friendship end just two days ago but I realize it is the best thing for both of us. He was kind enough to give me closure and I will look back at it with nothing but fond memories.

I've had to do this a lot in the last couple of years.

I know it's a part of growing and changing, but it still feels kind of sad.

And a relief too.

I think Karma is knocking on my door these days

Sometimes I'm confrontational with people when it comes to cutting them off from my life, but mostly, its silently understood esp if they're sharp enough to get the signals.

These days, a friend of mine seems to be cutting me off from her life(in a non-confrontational way) even though I'm hurt by it, I'm content with whatever will happen, I'll respect her decision and continue to love her from a distance if she choose to go on her way, and if she wants to continue this friendship, my door will always be open.

My sister is asking me "don't you at least wanna know why?", but to be honest, no I don't. I figure if they made up their minds and didn't confront me about it to tell me why, then I wouldn't force it out of them.

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I've had a jacked jaw since I had a fight in the 4th grade but it didn't give too much trouble and it only bothered me on the left side. I never thought to tell my mom "I want to go to the doctor". This year all of a sudden it's giving me more problems and my brother decided to bust me in it with his heavy hand when we were playing some weeks ago, now the pain is getting more intense and it's hurting on the right side. I can't close my mouth properly and when I do it feels stiff, when it starts to act up the whole right side of my face starts to hurt and I feel pressure in my temple. It's really turning into a bitch and I hope it doesn't get any worse.

KidaDynamite said:

I've had a jacked jaw since I had a fight in the 4th grade but it didn't give too much trouble and it only bothered me on the left side. I never thought to tell my mom "I want to go to the doctor". This year all of a sudden it's giving me more problems and my brother decided to bust me in it with his heavy hand when we were playing some weeks ago, now the pain is getting more intense and it's hurting on the right side. I can't close my mouth properly and when I do it feels stiff, when it starts to act up the whole right side of my face starts to hurt and I feel pressure in my temple. It's really turning into a bitch and I hope it doesn't get any worse.

Hope it gets better soon babe.

Today.

How can someone so academically intelligent be so emotionally idiotic?

KidaDynamite said:

Lammastide said:

While carrying a window A/C unit a couple days ago, I cut my thumb on its back metal grate. It was the kind of unjury, though, that shocked more than it actually hurt or bled. Just 15 minutes later, I was embarrassed by the fuss I'd made.

[Edited 7/10/10 6:43am]

Please don't talk about cutting thumbs because I think of the story that was told {I think by you} about someone in the family cutting their thumb/finger and they didn't go to the hospital for it, then later yanked what was thought to be a hair from the wound which actually turned out to be a nerve.

That was, indeed, me. My father-in-law did it a while back. And it was also on an air conditioner. Funny -- I didn't even think of that before you mentioned it. Thank GOD my cut was pretty superficial.

I have a nice scar on my knee thanks to a window A/C. That shit took forever to heal. I was 8 when it happened and had to cry quietly because I was jumping on the bed like I wasn't supposed to so crying would've brought punishment more than sympathy probably.

Well, my wife has a horrible habit of just not answering her phone, and that hurts. The last time I felt really hurt was probably the times over this last few months when I've thought about a friend of ours who it seems has cut ties with us for good. It's not her fault or ours, and I understand it, but it still hurts.

I went weightlifting for the first time last week. Stupidly I didnt stretch off properly. I did bench presses well above the weight I should have and Ive been suffering ever since.

chocolate1 said:

Today.

How can someone so academically intelligent be so emotionally idiotic?

Lammastide said:

KidaDynamite said:

Please don't talk about cutting thumbs because I think of the story that was told {I think by you} about someone in the family cutting their thumb/finger and they didn't go to the hospital for it, then later yanked what was thought to be a hair from the wound which actually turned out to be a nerve.

That was, indeed, me. My father-in-law did it a while back. And it was also on an air conditioner. Funny -- I didn't even think of that before you mentioned it. Thank GOD my cut was pretty superficial.

Yes....YES! I wouldn't have been able to handle anything much more then that.

JDInteractive said:

I went weightlifting for the first time last week. Stupidly I didnt stretch off properly. I did bench presses well above the weight I should have and Ive been suffering ever since.

i dont do much weights, i do boxing, but i find the 2nd day is the worst, but its a good type of pain because even though t hurts and sometimes i can hardly move, i know im doing my body good