chocolate1 said:

chocolatehandles said:

First of all ...........

Secondly this thread should be ending in a different direction... that would be for the best!

So did you like my shoes???? They r HOT! I know you would like them!!!!

In your avi?

Is that the cake topper? It reminds me of a picture I'd seen of a cake decorated like that.

Very cool!

Yes...Chocolate Shoes LOL!!!!

I was waiting for someone to notice that!!!!

chocolate1 said:

chocolate1 said:

I was going to answer the original question, but....

The thread started going in another direction...

A couple of months ago.

I loved him so much... still do.

But it became painfully obvious that it wasn't exactly mutual. He "cared", but didn't feel as deeply as I did.

The "just friends" he had, and some of his words/actions forced me to let go....

Intellectually, I know I did the right thing. Emotionally, it's been hard.

Time heals all...

[Edited 7/5/10 7:21am]

Genesia said:

chocolate1 said:

The thread started going in another direction...

A couple of months ago.

I loved him so much... still do.

But it became painfully obvious that it wasn't exactly mutual. He "cared", but didn't feel as deeply as I did.

The "just friends" he had, and some of his words/actions forced me to let go....

Intellectually, I know I did the right thing. Emotionally, it's been hard.

Time heals all...

Thank you...

chocolate1 said:

chocolate1 said:

I was going to answer the original question, but....

The thread started going in another direction...

A couple of months ago.

I loved him so much... still do.

But it became painfully obvious that it wasn't exactly mutual. He "cared", but didn't feel as deeply as I did.

The "just friends" he had, and some of his words/actions forced me to let go....

Intellectually, I know I did the right thing. Emotionally, it's been hard.

You did the right thing, sweetie. It wasn't meant to be. It will get better with time, and who knows. By the time you're over him he might come to his senses and realize he let a good thing slip away. By then, it won't matter. You can tell him, "Let's continue our friendship." Same thing happened to me years ago. I loved this man's last year's draws for over three years. I thought he felt the same and then he let me know through his actions that he did not really care. About a year later, after not hearing from him, he called me out of the blue. We chatted for a few minutes and I realized that I could care less. I ended the conversation by saying, "Well, Jesse. It was nice of you to call. I hope everytning is going with with you." He replied in a somewhat dejected voice, "Okay, Trish." I hung up the phone and hollered, "PRAISE JESUS! I'M FREE!"

Shyra said:

chocolate1 said:

The thread started going in another direction...

A couple of months ago.

I loved him so much... still do.

But it became painfully obvious that it wasn't exactly mutual. He "cared", but didn't feel as deeply as I did.

The "just friends" he had, and some of his words/actions forced me to let go....

Intellectually, I know I did the right thing. Emotionally, it's been hard.

You did the right thing, sweetie. It wasn't meant to be. It will get better with time, and who knows. By the time you're over him he might come to his senses and realize he let a good thing slip away. By then, it won't matter. You can tell him, "Let's continue our friendship." Same thing happened to me years ago. I loved this man's last year's draws for over three years. I thought he felt the same and then he let me know through his actions that he did not really care. About a year later, after not hearing from him, he called me out of the blue. We chatted for a few minutes and I realized that I could care less. I ended the conversation by saying, "Well, Jesse. It was nice of you to call. I hope everytning is going with with you." He replied in a somewhat dejected voice, "Okay, Trish." I hung up the phone and hollered, "PRAISE JESUS! I'M FREE!"

Thank you for that.

I keep hoping he'll realize that I was the "real deal" and the others were something to do.

But like I said, I know I did the right thing.

Just this week by someone that I thought was a close friend. Greed and selfishness brings out the worst in people.

My body gifted me with 2 major all night long, gallbladder attacks in 4 days ... so I am physically and mentally mending from that experience

any hurt like that may feel like it was just yesterday for a long time to come, tafnap. i know, if i haven't been "there," then i've sure been in that subdivision. but i think you'll make it. be well.

NMuzakNSoul said:

tafnap said:

hang on, how am i changing the subject??????? u r the 1 who mentioned snakes

do i know u????????????????????????????????

what does sex have 2 do with anything?????? r u asking 2 c my snake???????

i'm glad you found your question mark button but why??? you type like this???????

because when certain females talk 2 me, my finger gets excited....

then it goes hard.....

and then it just starts banging the keyboard

This is a weird thread, even for Org standards.

HamsterHuey said:

This is a weird thread, even for Org standards.

doesn't even come close to the Anal Douche thread... that thing was EPIC!

RenHoek said:

HamsterHuey said:

This is a weird thread, even for Org standards.

doesn't even come close to the Anal Douche thread... that thing was EPIC!

I kinda steer away from those threads. And I am sorry to Nick for turning his thread into a snowballing thread.

chocolate1 said:

chocolate1 said:

I was going to answer the original question, but....

The thread started going in another direction...

A couple of months ago.

I loved him so much... still do.

But it became painfully obvious that it wasn't exactly mutual. He "cared", but didn't feel as deeply as I did.

The "just friends" he had, and some of his words/actions forced me to let go....

Intellectually, I know I did the right thing. Emotionally, it's been hard.

Such a hard thing to do and I know how much you are suffering . If it is meant to be then you will be back with him one day when he appreciates you the way he should .

As for me apart from all these countless emotional hurts in the last weeks/months/years I hurt my ellbow really bad 2 days ago and this morning my toe. I hope I can wear high heels for the Prince concert without pain

Physically - when the hot-tub lid slipped and landed on my toe.

Emotionally - Probably my husband.

Serious said:

chocolate1 said:

The thread started going in another direction...

A couple of months ago.

I loved him so much... still do.

But it became painfully obvious that it wasn't exactly mutual. He "cared", but didn't feel as deeply as I did.

The "just friends" he had, and some of his words/actions forced me to let go....

Intellectually, I know I did the right thing. Emotionally, it's been hard.

Such a hard thing to do and I know how much you are suffering . If it is meant to be then you will be back with him one day when he appreciates you the way he should .

As for me apart from all these countless emotional hurts in the last weeks/months/years I hurt my ellbow really bad 2 days ago and this morning my toe. I hope I can wear high heels for the Prince concert without pain

You'll be fine by then, if it's not broken. And you would know if it was!

I hit my toe quite hard two days before my prom where I was supposed to wear heels and I was quite worried as I couldn't walk normally but I used some creams and sprays and it got better by then, thankfully!

chocolate1 said:

chocolate1 said:

I was going to answer the original question, but....

The thread started going in another direction...

A couple of months ago.

I loved him so much... still do.

But it became painfully obvious that it wasn't exactly mutual. He "cared", but didn't feel as deeply as I did.

The "just friends" he had, and some of his words/actions forced me to let go....

Intellectually, I know I did the right thing. Emotionally, it's been hard.

Awwww It will get better. I know how you feel.

[Edited 7/6/10 5:01am]

2004.

Aelis said:

Serious said:

Such a hard thing to do and I know how much you are suffering . If it is meant to be then you will be back with him one day when he appreciates you the way he should .

As for me apart from all these countless emotional hurts in the last weeks/months/years I hurt my ellbow really bad 2 days ago and this morning my toe. I hope I can wear high heels for the Prince concert without pain

You'll be fine by then, if it's not broken. And you would know if it was!

I hit my toe quite hard two days before my prom where I was supposed to wear heels and I was quite worried as I couldn't walk normally but I used some creams and sprays and it got better by then, thankfully!

You'll be able to get your sexy on....

missfee said:

chocolate1 said:

The thread started going in another direction...

A couple of months ago.

I loved him so much... still do.

But it became painfully obvious that it wasn't exactly mutual. He "cared", but didn't feel as deeply as I did.

The "just friends" he had, and some of his words/actions forced me to let go....

Intellectually, I know I did the right thing. Emotionally, it's been hard.

Awwww It will get better. I know how you feel.

Thanks.

As for me, I'm kind of hurt now, but it's by my own doing. I have a bf, but somehow I found myself strongly attracted to someone whom I shouldn't have let myself get attracted to (and the feelings are mutual on his end). Now I'm trying to distance myself from him (the person I'm attracted to but shouldn't be attracted to) because its the right thing to do, but it's hard. I'm finding that to be a little more difficult than I thought it would be. Feels more like I'm going through withdrawal symptoms for this person... Oh what a tangled web we weave....

[Edited 7/6/10 5:45am]

chocolate1 said:

Aelis said:

You'll be fine by then, if it's not broken. And you would know if it was!

I hit my toe quite hard two days before my prom where I was supposed to wear heels and I was quite worried as I couldn't walk normally but I used some creams and sprays and it got better by then, thankfully!

You'll be able to get your sexy on....

I was wearing flat shoes today all day long and it didn't hurt bad, so I guess it will be okay.

Thank you Andrea and Lynn .

Last summer. I dated a girl that I slowly got to know for 4-5 months after she had initially after a couple of dates given me the "I don't think I want to be in a relationship right now" speech, before she really warmed up to me. She had a lot of the qualities I look for in a girl. In many ways, she was a "dream girl", of sorts. At first, she was really into me, and we had a lot of fun. The things she did, and on a few occasions, said showed me that she did really care for me at this point. The relationship lasted for two months or so, before she went to London for a week for a music course. Once she came back, we met up the next day... when I baked her a blueberry pie and just went to her house to meet her, because she hadn't answered my calls. Well, after our little meet-up, she walks me to the subway and tells me she's breaking up with me. I later found out she had met some Italian dude in London, whom as far as I know she is still seeing.

She was, well is, young and this was her first relationship, so I guess she didn't really appreciate what she had, the affection I gave her. What hurts me the most is her nonchalant approach to it all. She just didn't seem to care at all... and she never apologized for what she did, how she treated me. I however have forgiven after I confronted her later on about the Italian dude. Afterwards she has, occasionally, initiated Facebook chats and asked me how I do, but that's about it.

I don't think she appreciates the fact that I have, even after all this, treated her nice.

I haven't been out on a date since.

... and I have no freaking idea why I'm sharing this with you people.

LoveIsTheMessage said:

Last summer. I dated a girl that I slowly got to know for 4-5 months after she had initially after a couple of dates given me the "I don't think I want to be in a relationship right now" speech, before she really warmed up to me. She had a lot of the qualities I look for in a girl. In many ways, she was a "dream girl", of sorts. At first, she was really into me, and we had a lot of fun. The things she did, and on a few occasions, said showed me that she did really care for me at this point. The relationship lasted for two months or so, before she went to London for a week for a music course. Once she came back, we met up the next day... when I baked her a blueberry pie and just went to her house to meet her, because she hadn't answered my calls. Well, after our little meet-up, she walks me to the subway and tells me she's breaking up with me. I later found out she had met some Italian dude in London, whom as far as I know she is still seeing.

She was, well is, young and this was her first relationship, so I guess she didn't really appreciate what she had, the affection I gave her. What hurts me the most is her nonchalant approach to it all. She just didn't seem to care at all... and she never apologized for what she did, how she treated me. I however have forgiven after I confronted her later on about the Italian dude. Afterwards she has, occasionally, initiated Facebook chats and asked me how I do, but that's about it.

I don't think she appreciates the fact that I have, even after all this, treated her nice.

I haven't been out on a date since.

... and I have no freaking idea why I'm sharing this with you people.

Because you still feel some type of way about it. You are still hurt. She was, in your words, your "dream girl" someone who had most of the qualities you are looking for in a woman, however she didn't feel that you possessed all the qualities she is, isn't looking for in a man. Seems like she's young and still wants to have fun. The reason why she's contacting you on facebook is to make sure you are okay because deep down she probably is sorry for how she treated you, but know this, you aren't on her mind though. I suggest you get up out of your funk and get to dating other women out here who will be worth your while. Good Luck

missfee said:

LoveIsTheMessage said:

Last summer. I dated a girl that I slowly got to know for 4-5 months after she had initially after a couple of dates given me the "I don't think I want to be in a relationship right now" speech, before she really warmed up to me. She had a lot of the qualities I look for in a girl. In many ways, she was a "dream girl", of sorts. At first, she was really into me, and we had a lot of fun. The things she did, and on a few occasions, said showed me that she did really care for me at this point. The relationship lasted for two months or so, before she went to London for a week for a music course. Once she came back, we met up the next day... when I baked her a blueberry pie and just went to her house to meet her, because she hadn't answered my calls. Well, after our little meet-up, she walks me to the subway and tells me she's breaking up with me. I later found out she had met some Italian dude in London, whom as far as I know she is still seeing.

She was, well is, young and this was her first relationship, so I guess she didn't really appreciate what she had, the affection I gave her. What hurts me the most is her nonchalant approach to it all. She just didn't seem to care at all... and she never apologized for what she did, how she treated me. I however have forgiven after I confronted her later on about the Italian dude. Afterwards she has, occasionally, initiated Facebook chats and asked me how I do, but that's about it.

I don't think she appreciates the fact that I have, even after all this, treated her nice.

I haven't been out on a date since.

... and I have no freaking idea why I'm sharing this with you people.

Because you still feel some type of way about it. You are still hurt. She was, in your words, your "dream girl" someone who had most of the qualities you are looking for in a woman, however she didn't feel that you possessed all the qualities she is, isn't looking for in a man. Seems like she's young and still wants to have fun. The reason why she's contacting you on facebook is to make sure you are okay because deep down she probably is sorry for how she treated you, but know this, you aren't on her mind though. I suggest you get up out of your funk and get to dating other women out here who will be worth your while. Good Luck

Thank you. Well, I am mostly over the deal now, compared to say how I felt for the latter part of 2009. I'm okay, though I still refrain from communicating with her that much, because I am afraid it would just end up with me hurt again. About the "dream girl" part, I have to clarify that she had her faults as well, but she was the closest to being one out of all the girls I have ever met thus far. Yes, I realize that I wasn't what she was after, at least not at this point, and yes, she did say on several occasions that she definitely wants to keep in touch afterwards, and I guess I have to give her credit for at least trying (the occasional Facebook chats, oh and she actually wished me a happy birthday on there as well just a couple of days ago). And yes, I realize I'm not on her mind. It is unfortunate that I had her on mine for so long. Well, not that I regret the relationship, because the summer I spent with her was one of the happiest times in my life.

I'm not really in a "funk" at the moment. My post might give that impression though, which is a bit misleading. Yes, I still do think about it from time to time, I guess the thread just sort of triggered the memories, but mostly I'm doing fine

I don't think anyone is ever going to be 100% perfect is accepting that fact "settling" or just being realistic? –––––> new thread idea!

The whole "haven't been on a date since" part is also just partially her "fault", so to speak. Yes, I was hurt for a long time and didn't want to date anyone, but I am also quite picky, when it comes to dating. I love being around women, talking to them, looking at them... heck, I just generally love women, but when it comes to dating, I don't just date anybody. I try to carefully discern whether or not we are compatible before even making a move. And yes, I know that is kinda dumb, but I am a romantic idealist of sorts, and I'm not looking to date dozens of women - I always want it to be special, and not just another run-of-the-mill date, and that's why I put extra effort into it.

I had 2 rootcanals done this morning, ouch!!

PaisleyPark5083 said:

I had 2 rootcanals done this morning, ouch!!

... And now I'm regretting replying to this thread in the first place