My husband has passed away now for 2 months, and I have had a lot of things playing on my mind and in my heart about our marriage and everything, and I have a lot of regrets over a lot of things and also I feel that theres a lot of things I really wished I could have said in forms of apologies and heart openings 2 my husband before he died!!

My husbands ashes are with my husbands nephew and neice-in-law in Minnesota as sometime this summer they are going down 2 Texas where my husbands parents are buried and they are gonna scatter my husbands ashes on their graves so that they can be together again!!

Anyway, the thing is, I was gonna write a lot of letters 2 my husband and mail them to his nephew so that they can keep them all together in the same box where his ashes are!!

The thing is, my parents think I am stupid and think that what I am doing is senseless(considering they are JWs and their beleifs on death and everything), yet I beleive that doing this would b very cathartic and will ultimately bring about a peaceful conclusion to everything in our marriage!!

What do u guys think???

sorry 4 your loss.

The letter writing part I get, because it truly can be cathartic and everybody grieves loss in their own way.

Now the mailing them to the nephew part to be put in the box with the ashes, I don't get

But if that makes u feel better, then I say cool, do it.

I think it's a lovely idea,nothing wrong with it at all. If it feels good for you, then who cares what others think....aw bless

It doesn't matter what other people think. What do you think is right? What do you feel you need to do?

Each person grieves and handles death differently. You do what you need to do to get through this (aside from hurting yourself).

Desire2006 said:

My husband has passed away now for 2 months, and I have had a lot of things playing on my mind and in my heart about our marriage and everything, and I have a lot of regrets over a lot of things and also I feel that theres a lot of things I really wished I could have said in forms of apologies and heart openings 2 my husband before he died!!

My husbands ashes are with my husbands nephew and neice-in-law in Minnesota as sometime this summer they are going down 2 Texas where my husbands parents are buried and they are gonna scatter my husbands ashes on their graves so that they can be together again!!

Anyway, the thing is, I was gonna write a lot of letters 2 my husband and mail them to his nephew so that they can keep them all together in the same box where his ashes are!!

The thing is, my parents think I am stupid and think that what I am doing is senseless(considering they are JWs and their beleifs on death and everything), yet I beleive that doing this would b very cathartic and will ultimately bring about a peaceful conclusion to everything in our marriage!!

What do u guys think???

I can't imagine what you have been through and all the emotions you must feel. I think you need to do what you feel is right. I would not listen to my parents regardless of their religious beliefs. If this is something you feel you need to do, then do it. Don't let anyone stop you. You just might find writing down your thoughts and feelings will help you get through your grief. Good luck.

Desire2006 said:

yet I beleive that doing this would b very cathartic and will ultimately bring about a peaceful conclusion to everything in our marriage!

What do u guys think?

THAT's what matters ...and ONLY that !

Sowhat said:

It doesn't matter what other people think.

It's amazing how many people run their lives base on that.

Get your healing. If other people object, too bad.

JWS believe that when we die we are nothing. We have no soul, we have no memories, we just are dead and return to dust. Yet they have funerals. I recently told a family member who said he didn't want any funeral and wanted to be cremated and didn't care what happened to his ashes...he said why should he care about it if he was dead? ...

I told him that funerals are not for the dead. They are for the living to come together and remember the life of the one gone. To grieve and cry and laugh and say goodbye. So Desire...do what makes you feel better and get over the grieving process. I think writing letters is a beautiful thing. Writing heals.

And no matter what religion teaches about the afterlife or lack thereof...the living will never know what comes "after" until we go there. So who knows??? Your husband could read them after all.

noimageatall said:

JWS believe that when we die we are nothing. We have no soul, we have no memories, we just are dead and return to dust. Yet they have funerals. I recently told a family member who said he didn't want any funeral and wanted to be cremated and didn't care what happened to his ashes...he said why should he care about it if he was dead? ...

I told him that funerals are not for the dead. They are for the living to come together and remember the life of the one gone. To grieve and cry and laugh and say goodbye. So Desire...do what makes you feel better and get over the grieving process. I think writing letters is a beautiful thing. Writing heals.

And no matter what religion teaches about the afterlife or lack thereof...the living will never know what comes "after" until we go there. So who knows??? Your husband could read them after all.

Very well stated.

Do what's right for you, babe.

I agree with others...do what you feel you need to do to heal. That is all that really matters.

noimageatall said:

And no matter what religion teaches about the afterlife or lack thereof...the living will never know what comes "after" until we go there. So who knows??? Your husband could read them after all.

That's a lovely thing to say...

do what you feel you need to do. . Personally, I think it a very sweet thing.

Chile, you can start by stop posting racist flame bait on threads like these: http://prince.org/msg/7/3...t-magazine

or the other posts that took place 2 days after his death (which you didn't report until almost 2 weeks after). If you're so shook up, why are you posting flame baits on the org after such key events? It's strange.

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TheVoid said:

Chile, you can start by stop posting racist flame bait on threads like these: http://prince.org/msg/7/3...t-magazine

or the other posts that took place 2 days after his death (which you didn't report until almost 2 weeks after). If you're so shook up, why are you posting flame baits on the org after such key events? It's strange.

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TheVoid said:

Chile, you can start by stop posting racist flame bait on threads like these: http://prince.org/msg/7/3...t-magazine

or the other posts that took place 2 days after his death (which you didn't report until almost 2 weeks after). If you're so shook up, why are you posting flame baits on the org after such key events? It's strange.

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noimageatall said:

TheVoid said:

Chile, you can start by stop posting racist flame bait on threads like these: http://prince.org/msg/7/3...t-magazine

or the other posts that took place 2 days after his death (which you didn't report until almost 2 weeks after). If you're so shook up, why are you posting flame baits on the org after such key events? It's strange.

.

[Edited 6/25/10 19:55pm]

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http://prince.org/msg/7/338808

WTH? thats really odd cuz when I type that link in my browser it takes me to the thread he's talking about

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tinaz said:

noimageatall said:

http://prince.org/msg/7/338808

WTH? thats really odd cuz when I type that link in my browser it takes me to the thread he's talking about

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[Edited 6/27/10 7:11am]

I tried it again and still got this weird computer page...crazy

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tinaz said:

ComputerWorld article on Lawsuits

ComputerWorld industry mag article on the lawsuits



http://www.computerworld....3055artist

I tried it again and still got this weird computer page...crazy

I think you have to type it in manually. That's what I did and it worked.

PurpleRighteous1 said:

noimageatall said:

I tried it again and still got this weird computer page...crazy

I think you have to type it in manually. That's what I did and it worked.

eff that. Too much trouble. Off to P&R.

If it makes u feel better.......go 4 it.

Sorry 4 your loss.