I've known this chick for over 10 years and I guess I've always considered her a good friend.

Yet my wife and I haven't answered the phone in years, because we're afraid it's her and she'll go on and on for an hour.

We hope she never shows up in the driveway because she might stick around and not get the hint - you're a pest, please leave.

In recent years I've been thinking - what the hell do I ever talk to this person for? We don't have that much in common. She's a certifiable weirdo. She's got no goals or ambition. Her flaky-ass behavior embarrasses me when we go out in public. I think her other friends are reprehensible, soulless assholes. She's got no religion besides the Colbert Report and her only music is the Blue Man Group. Her car is like an episode of Hoarders on wheels. She wears super baggy Carhart shit and mens' cologne, yet is deeply offended and mystified when strangers - and her parents - assume she's a lesbian.

Anybody got a friend like this?

I have broken off relationships with almost all of my past friends minus a very select few.

It's not their fault though. People drift. Sometimes, it's my fault. Shit happens.

YES.

She's rude, moody, obnoxious, dumb as a fence post, and she kinda smells.

Why am I still friends with her? Who the fuck knows.

I have a friend (I wouldn't call her a good friend, though we've known each other for years) who is so sand-poundingly boring that I really try to limit my time with her. She went back to school in the last couple years, which one would have thought would have made her slightly more interesting. But nope! She's even more boring than before.

I feel bad saying that...sort of. She's not a bad person and lord knows, she's had a lot to deal with in her marriage (her husband is another friend of mine, an addict whose sobriety is tenuous, at best). And we have mutual friends, so it's kind of hard to avoid her. But I do try to limit my contact, to save my own sanity.

There's another woman with whom I was friends in college, who I just cut loose completely. This person (for reasons I've never been able to figure out) apparently sees herself as being in competition with me. And she's just nasty about it - puts down what I do for a living, etc. So after she made a nasty comment to something I'd posted on Facebook, I defriended her there...and on LinkedIn...and everywhere else I could think of. I know it makes for an awkward situation for our mutual friends, but that's too bad. I'd rather not see all of them than have to put up with her in any context.

Yes. I have a friend with whom I have NOTHING but history in common anymore, and, frankly, I flat-out don't like who he's become.

He's the type who'd have a place in my life only for the sake of loyalty and only in instances of some dire need on his part. But unfortunately he's now the husband of my wife's best friend... so I must interact with him to some degree. I try my damnedest to keep it to bare minimum.

I have a lot of women friends that love me to death, but when we get into relationships they usually get mad because i'm not that compromising or accomodating to their ideals of marriage and family. Its hard to be close to someone who always thinks their right, will date your man and leave you for him, dont care if you got gas or not... always wants you to feed 'em. Im just not that complicated!

I have a few friends that I love a lot

BUT when they start drinking ... just ick

a drink or 2 they are okay but when they cross that line ( and usualy do ! ) into drunk not just a sligt buzz

Foolishness ...

I sure haven't been able to stand some of the friends of my friends.

I feel like this about most everyone.

I love my friends/family to death.

But that doesn't neccessarily mean I wanna have anything to do them.

No I don't have friends that I can't stand because, if I can't stand you then you aren't a friend. And therefore, I don't lead you on in believing that you are my friend because I don't want to be bothered with you.

Mach said:

I have a few friends that I love a lot

BUT when they start drinking ... just ick

a drink or 2 they are okay but when they cross that line ( and usualy do ! ) into drunk not just a sligt buzz

Foolishness ...

How many times do I have to apologize?

missfee said:

No I don't have friends that I can't stand because, if I can't stand you then you aren't a friend. And therefore, I don't lead you on in believing that you are my friend because I don't want to be bothered with you.

I don't like talking to people in general.

Like, I still like them and they are still my friends.

But if its not life or death, I hate getting phone calls.

Unless, its someone I havent talked to in a long time or whatever.

I'd rather a quick text.

I just hate when people call when they have absolutely nothing to say.

Genesia said:

Mach said:

I have a few friends that I love a lot

BUT when they start drinking ... just ick

a drink or 2 they are okay but when they cross that line ( and usualy do ! ) into drunk not just a sligt buzz

Foolishness ...

How many times do I have to apologize?

hehehe

If can't stand someone I won't be friends with them in the first place........

I love my real friends very much..........

*sends someone a message*

I'm really trying to eliminate those people from my life. Life's too short.

seeingvoices12 said:

If can't stand someone I won't be friends with them in the first place........

I love my real friends very much..........

*sends someone a message*

You're how old?

Trust me, your taste in friends can (and probably will) change over time.

If i cant stand to be around them, I too cut them outta my life..

Not really, although recently a close friend showed me just how sneaky and selfish she can be. It's a shame really, I think of her differently now but it's certainly not like I suddenly can't stand her.

Yep.

I used to work with her years ago, and I thought she was lovely. She still is lovely, but I notice more and more that all she ever does is complain that her life is not what she wants it to be.

You can give her all the advice and help in the world, but she never seems to want to help herself.... it's like she just likes to have shit to moan about.

I don't make any kind of effort to see her anymore, but I see her 3 or 4 times a year when we're out with mutual friends. They can't seem to be able to tollerate her any more either.

friends go...and friend go...no big deal, people change, thats the way it goes

missfee said:

No I don't have friends that I can't stand because, if I can't stand you then you aren't a friend. And therefore, I don't lead you on in believing that you are my friend because I don't want to be bothered with you.

End of

If I can't stand having a fraud facade by somebody who calls me a friend, then I sure as hell won't put them in that same predicament. Why bother?

Life is TOO short to consume whats left of it with bullshit.

Its not that I can't stand them I just feel that deep down they dont wish me well with happiness so I keep contact to a minimum if none at all.

my husband has a friend like that, she keeps calling and we don't answer and when she does show up, she likes nothing better than a sleep-over I told her husband we love her dearly, and please come and visit, but NO SLEEPOVERS we just aren't into them as much as she so clearly is!!!

I grew up in a extremely dysfunctional home, so I made a life decision to not keep friends that were toxic to me in one way or another.

So many friends I grew out of and grew to distrust, or dislike I just told them that I couldn't be their friends anymore. Once I feel like I don't like you, I must tell you so. I don't like being insincere and putting on a fake smile when I see people.

Its funny too, since in all of these cases I realized that they were never really friends to me in the first place. These people just had me in their life for their own purpose or agendas. They were all selfish, in one way or another.

My family memebers are bad enough (can't stand them, but I learn to love them in their own ways regardless), I must deal with them since they are the only family I have, but my friends are a choice, and I choose only those I can respect, like to share with and enjoy to help them.

Fake friends are expendable and a waste of time. I have few friends, but I love and respect them all. They enrich my life, tell me the truth about my shit, love me regardless and that's what its all about.

not really friends- don't have many to begin with, but fam or "fam"- manipulative, using, pieces of shit, smile in ur face when they want something, bitch to the max behind ur back to save their own asses, think they top shit cause they earn over 100,000...with some people, they cut me out for stupid ass reasons, with others i cut them out- lying fucks, who the fuck they think they r lying 2 me when i fuckin helped them out is beyond me, they can kiss my ass, i try to avoid them , haven't seen them in years, thankfully.

Steve and I have been friends since 7th grade..so it's going on around 38 years of friendship now.

In jr high and high school we were inseparable. we'd hang together, do everything together, talk on the phone 4 or 5 times a day, double date together...it lasted through college, and after

one day we were away on a singles weekend in Connecticut, and we had a fight. We didn't talk to each other for about 10 years, until I bumped into his mom at the supermarket. she told me that he was getting married in two weeks. I sent him a congrats card, and we went out one night and talked about what happened.

we kind of picked up our friendship from there, talking on the phone a couple of times a day, getting together with our families, etc.

He was invited to my daughter's bat mitzvah, and (as usual) he got drunk. He said rude things to my guests.

I stopped talking to him.

for about 3 months. he called me and asked "what happened"

I said, I didn't like the way you acted. He said "I always act that way". I said, you made a comment about my best friend's wife, in front of him. He said, "I did?..wow!...I was just kidding"

long story short, i forgave him. We talk once a day. see each other once a year or so....he's still someone I can talk to, but I can't stand the stuff he does.

thanks for asking, and for listening

Acrylic said:

YES.

She's rude, moody, obnoxious, dumb as a fence post, and she kinda smells.

Why am I still friends with her? Who the fuck knows.

Sometimes we need to have "friends" like these to remind ourselves we are not all that bad

scandalousalan said:

Acrylic said:

YES.

She's rude, moody, obnoxious, dumb as a fence post, and she kinda smells.

Why am I still friends with her? Who the fuck knows.

Sometimes we need to have "friends" like these to remind ourselves we are not all that bad

Maybe that's why.

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scandalousalan said:

Acrylic said:

YES.

She's rude, moody, obnoxious, dumb as a fence post, and she kinda smells.

Why am I still friends with her? Who the fuck knows.

Sometimes we need to have "friends" like these to remind ourselves we are not all that bad

I like that thought...we all have to tolerate as well as be tolerated ..most times.