SHOCKADELICA1 said:

Yeah....I thought about what it would be like getting back with my ex-husband......

But......then after I thought about how it would probably end up in a masacre of him and my in-laws in a bloody battle......I thought it probably wouldn't be a good idea

I HATE those fuckin people!!!

Too much?.....

No it's not too much My Mother-in-law was interesting also

babynoz said:

nursev said:

I like this response Sweet and to the point

I did it on and off with one guy for the better part of ten years...DON"T do it.

Wasted time and lots of regret.

My relationship lasted off and on for ten yrs too We got back together, moved to another state and the mess still didn't work! I don't know why I still wanna be with this fool-maybe it was the sex

BklynBabe said:

nursev said:

At least I'm not the only one who thinks what might have been

:raises hand to join the club:

unfortunately... but I have accepted it will never be.

I guess I'm kinda lingering between acceptance and denial right now-this club is lonely

veronikka said:

He always asks me to come back. We are just not meant to be together and I don't get why he doesn't see that! I deserve better

Great viewpoint Veronikka

FauxReal said:

In fleeting moments I think about it. But the most recent ex is too fake as I (re)discovered upon a chance encounter with her tonight. The other ex is too dependent.

[Edited 6/4/10 21:51pm]

Damn! Neither one could get it again?

Serious said:

Yes all the time. I still love him and we were very happy together. I love my new boyfriend so very much but things are so damn complicated with him and I very much wish I was still happy with my ex .

Aww this really gets me-I guess it boils down to the fact that I still love him no matter all the trials and tribulations-when will I learn.

florescent said:

Nah.

Been there and done it. Life's too short.

If it didn't work out then, it's best to leave it as it is.

I know, but I'm just not there yet

TheVoid said:

no.

Once I got through stages of grief or whatever, and come out the other side, I generally have little interest in ever knowing them again. I certainly have no interested in knowing anything about their current lives, etc. etc.

I actually had one try to add me to facebook and rejected it. This person got the hint I guess and didn't bother to followup with an email, which I would have just deleted without reading.

It's not that I hate these people. It's just that you can't fall back into traps, because these emotions of longing for someone else--well I felt them on and off for 6 years of my life and I know their nothing more than traps. Shit just ends up being the same as always.

So no. I don't have any interest both based on principle and on intrinsic disinterest. I don't even want to know if they've passed away when we're all good and old...it's a 'phase' and I'm currently loving the 'phase' I"m going through now in Bangkok.

Dammitt! I just added him on facebook

MrsMdiver said:

No. I did go back to an ex once. Bad idea. I learned from that mistake.

I wish them well in their life without me.

I guess I didn't learn I am hoping this is just a phase as Dan said-maybe the feeling will go away.

paintedlady said:

See, David left me shattered. I had two of his children, and we all adored that man. He was gentle, charismatic and funny, but he was a moocher.

He was like a con man that emptied my bank accounts and dwindled my savings. I gave him everything I had and lost myself in the process. Damn, I was whipped!

In my efforts to make David change, I ended up changing myself instead. I am a different person now.

He told me he has changed and is ready to be in our lives again, but I am not compatible with failure, so I can't be with him again. I need a person that's going to add to my life, not drain it.

Me & David = a miserable life for me and our children. No thanks.

I got over David.... Nurse, in time you'll get over your ex too.

This is understandable-sometime's enough is enough and certainly when one is being taken advantaged of it's time to call it quits. I am happy for you Paintedlady for being strong and coming out better on the other side

nursev said:

paintedlady said:

Think of why you broke up with that person. Loniness can be an awful beast to deal with, but its worth the time alone to work on self and remeber why you needed to leave that previous situation.

My ex recently asked me back. He dumped me for a 60+ yr. old woman and he was 36 and I was 35 at the time. He told me then that that older woman was better than me in every way. OUCH.

He dumped her possesive ass after she tried to stab him and slashed all his tires.

I reminded him that he found a woman that was "better than me in every way" and that he would find another woman that was better than me again.... so, he should keep on looking

Saying hell no to my past (my ex David) allowed me to say hello to my future, with someone new and better in a million ways. WHY? Because I chose a better man for me this time around since I learned from my mistake.

You will do the same, just be patient. It will happen.

[Edited 6/4/10 19:43pm]

If he let you go for a 60 yr old woman he obviously was questionable from the jump Actually, I'm hoping just to find someone to spend time with-I don't ever want to get married again it's just not for some people

hindsight is always 20/20. Attractive smooth talkers are not always good friendship/ boyfriend material.

nursev said:

MrsMdiver said:

No. I did go back to an ex once. Bad idea. I learned from that mistake.

I wish them well in their life without me.

I guess I didn't learn I am hoping this is just a phase as Dan said-maybe the feeling will go away.

I am sure that it is just a phase.

MrsMdiver said:

nursev said:

I guess I didn't learn I am hoping this is just a phase as Dan said-maybe the feeling will go away.

I am sure that it is just a phase.

I think most people go through this... its almost a right of passage in the realm of love.

I made the mistake of giving my "whateverthemowas" a chance. In less than 2 months, total recall

came a bitting my rear. !WEPA!

Nursev, I understand the lust\sex part. I still feel lust for this mo. Difference now is I

myself, back to the real world. "Tela de arana" (spider web) ain't about to run my life.

nursev said:

Serious said:

Yes all the time. I still love him and we were very happy together. I love my new boyfriend so very much but things are so damn complicated with him and I very much wish I was still happy with my ex .

Aww this really gets me-I guess it boils down to the fact that I still love him no matter all the trials and tribulations-when will I learn.

For me it's not that I miss the sex like it seems to be for most people on this thread, but I miss the very best friend I've ever had and I will miss him for the rest of my life . And also contrary to most people here my relationship was happy and not trouble and I don't think I will ever find somebody again who I will be together for such a long time again and get along so fine .

Serious said:

nursev said:

Aww this really gets me-I guess it boils down to the fact that I still love him no matter all the trials and tribulations-when will I learn.

For me it's not that I miss the sex like it seems to be for most people on this thread, but I miss the very best friend I've ever had and I will miss him for the rest of my life . And also contrary to most people here my relationship was happy and not trouble and I don't think I will ever find somebody again who I will be together for such a long time again and get along so fine .

erm...why did the relationship end then?

nursev said:

babynoz said:

I did it on and off with one guy for the better part of ten years...DON"T do it.

Wasted time and lots of regret.

My relationship lasted off and on for ten yrs too We got back together, moved to another state and the mess still didn't work! I don't know why I still wanna be with this fool-maybe it was the sex

OMG, I did the moving out of state thing too...

Ended up leaving him, (again) and moving back home with a bun in the oven....only valuable thing he ever gave me.

whistle said:

Serious said:

For me it's not that I miss the sex like it seems to be for most people on this thread, but I miss the very best friend I've ever had and I will miss him for the rest of my life . And also contrary to most people here my relationship was happy and not trouble and I don't think I will ever find somebody again who I will be together for such a long time again and get along so fine .

erm...why did the relationship end then?

Because I fell in love with somebody else at first sight and even though nothing happened as I would never cheat on somebody I love and even though I did not stay in conctact with that guy I could not forget him. I was so very sad and desperate and struggling so much trying to be happy again. We kinda grew apart and my boyfriend did not fight for our love like I would have done if it would have been the other way round, but suddenly decided to go even though he admitted that we could save our relationship if we tried . I could have never ever imagined that . I miss him every single day .

Serious said:

whistle said:

erm...why did the relationship end then?

Because I fell in love with somebody else at first sight and even though nothing happened as I would never cheat on somebody I love and even though I did not stay in conctact with that guy I could not forget him. I was so very sad and desperate and struggling so much trying to be happy again. We kinda grew apart and my boyfriend did not fight for our love like I would have done if it would have been the other way round, but suddenly decided to go even though he admitted that we could save our relationship if we tried . I could have never ever imagined that . I miss him every single day .

i don't get it. you've explained it and i still don't get it....

does the new man know how much time you spend thinking about the first man?

Going back to the old usually isn't a wise idea. There's a reason you seperated.

whistle said:

Serious said:

Because I fell in love with somebody else at first sight and even though nothing happened as I would never cheat on somebody I love and even though I did not stay in conctact with that guy I could not forget him. I was so very sad and desperate and struggling so much trying to be happy again. We kinda grew apart and my boyfriend did not fight for our love like I would have done if it would have been the other way round, but suddenly decided to go even though he admitted that we could save our relationship if we tried . I could have never ever imagined that . I miss him every single day .

i don't get it. you've explained it and i still don't get it....

does the new man know how much time you spend thinking about the first man?

I don't get it myself . We should still be together, but we are not and we probably will never be together again .

He knows I am thinking about my ex a lot and that I try my very best to stay best friends with him. But I am not telling him how much I miss my ex as I don't want to hurt him even though he knows how very much I love him. I probably would not miss my ex so very much if my new man was living in the same country I do, but I did not see him since February .

if circumstances massively changed, perhaps. but i doubt they ever will. that's life. right now i'd rather be doing exactly what i am.

Serious said:

whistle said:

i don't get it. you've explained it and i still don't get it....

does the new man know how much time you spend thinking about the first man?

I don't get it myself . We should still be together, but we are not and we probably will never be together again .

He knows I am thinking about my ex a lot and that I try my very best to stay best friends with him. But I am not telling him how much I miss my ex as I don't want to hurt him even though he knows how very much I love him. I probably would not miss my ex so very much if my new man was living in the same country I do, but I did not see him since February .

MarySharon said:

Serious said:

I don't get it myself . We should still be together, but we are not and we probably will never be together again .

He knows I am thinking about my ex a lot and that I try my very best to stay best friends with him. But I am not telling him how much I miss my ex as I don't want to hurt him even though he knows how very much I love him. I probably would not miss my ex so very much if my new man was living in the same country I do, but I did not see him since February .

Thank you sweetie . I hope you are doing okay !