Ok, I've become a statistic. This is the first time I've ever been laid off from a job. Yeah, it sucks to start all over again, but hey such is life and I'm open to a change. It's been a month or so, but I'm not panicking just yet.

But when I tell folks, they look at my like I just told them I had terminal cancer or something? I get all this sympathetic bullshit. When my mom died, I didn't get this much sympathy. I'm really surprised to hear this from my close friends and family. I use that term "close" loosely, because I'm starting to realize who my real friends really are. Sometimes I feel like I died in a strange sort of way, my phone has seemed to stop ringing, e-mails are not as plentiful, hell, I haven't had a facebook friend request in weeks!!

Did anyone else go through this?

It's just the 'crisis' getting close. It's something they are scared for themselves.

Yep, I've experienced that and it's really f*cked up.

Right when u need them the most, it's when they bail on your ass. Folks take their jobs for granted, and don't realize that it could happen to them too.

U really do find out who your TRUE friends are.....

You true friends will be less than a handful. I have noticed most people want to use you for money, sex, or social status. When your "friends" notice a shift in anyone of the 3 keys to their "friendship" with you they bail. The plus side you get to loose the friends that where really never your friends to begin with. Those are the same people who would talk bad about you to others when your not around.

Cheer up-It's a new start.

Yeah, it's like you have the plague or something. People think it's catchy. Like if they support you when you're down, it'll rub off on them. Don't even morn the loss of those so-called friends. Just sit back and wait to see who's next. Bet your phone will ring again with those wanting to commiserate. F*ckem! Good luck in finding something even better.

The odd thing is even this thread is being ignored. Coincidence?

kewlschool said:

The odd thing is even this thread is being ignored. Coincidence?

No. It isn't about sex nor does it have half nude Orger's pics on it. Plus Bulldog ain't really interactive... But that's okay.

Bulldog will get to know his/her true friends in this time, I think. And his/her own resilience.

Bulldog said:

Ok, I've become a statistic. This is the first time I've ever been laid off from a job. Yeah, it sucks to start all over again, but hey such is life and I'm open to a change. It's been a month or so, but I'm not panicking just yet.

But when I tell folks, they look at my like I just told them I had terminal cancer or something? I get all this sympathetic bullshit. When my mom died, I didn't get this much sympathy. I'm really surprised to hear this from my close friends and family. I use that term "close" loosely, because I'm starting to realize who my real friends really are. Sometimes I feel like I died in a strange sort of way, my phone has seemed to stop ringing, e-mails are not as plentiful, hell, I haven't had a facebook friend request in weeks!!

Did anyone else go through this?

When I became burned out and walked away from radio, my phone CEASED ringing. But I was prepared. People still will make slight contact, and ask me if I'm still in radio and then POOF! Never to be heard from. People are full of shit. But I had a good mentor that prepared me for that day.

But my job will be zoned out in November and I could give two shits. I hate that place so much! My family is more stressed out about it than me. Call me idealistic, but I'm trying to get all home business shit in order before the layoff happens. I'm really tired of working for someone. And that look I get when I say that is really funny!

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I think part of it might be because there often is a grieving process for both losses. Admittedly, they're different experiences. But, both can throw not only the person going through them but also the people who care about that person.

The emails and calls haven't slowed down but now that you're laid off, you are staring at your inbox and receiver

And most social activities incur some sort of cost. I would guess those friends assume you can't afford anything "extra" right now.

My lay off early last year was like saying goodbye to a sick relative....

i knew it was coming, thought id prepared myself, but when the time came, it was still hard.

15 mths later, and in a new job, i still get weekly reminders..."i tried to call the other store", "oh, i didnt know you were working here now", "im so glad you got another job", " did you know there is another book shop where you worked"

Good luck finding work

prb said:

My lay off early last year was like saying goodbye to a sick relative....

i knew it was coming, thought id prepared myself, but when the time came, it was still hard.

15 mths later, and in a new job, i still get weekly reminders..."i tried to call the other store", "oh, i didnt know you were working here now", "im so glad you got another job", " did you know there is another book shop where you worked" :roll:

thanks sux hun, for me even though i was the one who left ( boss was a piece of crap, treated those who didn't have a degree like shit) anyway everytime i walk past there it is a reminder of his ass...can't wait to move. Loove ur signature!

Good luck finding work