What it would be like to get back with your ex-husband or ex-boyfriend/girlfriend? I'm just saying I've been having some thoughts and I need a reality check You know that person who put you through hell and high water but deep down you still love em Anybody ever wonder about that kinda thing?

Okay...Maybe it's just me

maybe sexually, so i could show them i've improved. other than that...

whistle said:

maybe sexually, so i could show them i've improved. other than that...

so honest

Hell.No.

Genesia said:

Hell.No.

I knew Genesia would bring some reality

nursev said:

Genesia said:

Hell.No.

I knew Genesia would bring some reality

There were damn good reasons for those break-ups. I ain't goin' back there.

Genesia said:

nursev said:

I knew Genesia would bring some reality

There were damn good reasons for those break-ups. I ain't goin' back there.

So true...He took me to a place I never want to go again:-o So yeah ur right

They are an ex for a reason. If u get back with them within minutes u will know why they are an ex. Trust me I know ha ha.

mayrain said:

They are an ex for a reason. If u get back with them within minutes u will know why they are an ex. Trust me I know ha ha.

I like this response Sweet and to the point

Good god ...lord almighty

NO

Mach said:

Good god ...lord almighty

NO

The thought gives you convulsions Mach?

No love for ex's in here

Yup, several of them. Every time I talk to them, I want them back.

JustErin said:

Yup, several of them. Every time I talk to them, I want them back.

At least I'm not the only one who thinks what might have been

nursev said:

Mach said:

Good god ...lord almighty

NO

The thought gives you convulsions Mach?

No love for ex's in here

Oh I love my ex's ... for sure

I am not in love /lust with them at all anymore ~ and have zero desire to go there with them again

we're friend ...we talk and visit but "get back together "

hell no man

Think of why you broke up with that person. Loniness can be an awful beast to deal with, but its worth the time alone to work on self and remeber why you needed to leave that previous situation.

My ex recently asked me back. He dumped me for a 60+ yr. old woman and he was 36 and I was 35 at the time. He told me then that that older woman was better than me in every way. OUCH.

He dumped her possesive ass after she tried to stab him and slashed all his tires.

I reminded him that he found a woman that was "better than me in every way" and that he would find another woman that was better than me again.... so, he should keep on looking

Saying hell no to my past (my ex David) allowed me to say hello to my future, with someone new and better in a million ways. WHY? Because I chose a better man for me this time around since I learned from my mistake.

You will do the same, just be patient. It will happen.

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Yeah....I thought about what it would be like getting back with my ex-husband......

But......then after I thought about how it would probably end up in a masacre of him and my in-laws in a bloody battle......I thought it probably wouldn't be a good idea

I HATE those fuckin people!!!

Too much?.....

nursev said:

mayrain said:

They are an ex for a reason. If u get back with them within minutes u will know why they are an ex. Trust me I know ha ha.

I like this response Sweet and to the point

I did it on and off with one guy for the better part of ten years...DON"T do it.

Wasted time and lots of regret.

nursev said:

JustErin said:

Yup, several of them. Every time I talk to them, I want them back.

At least I'm not the only one who thinks what might have been

:raises hand to join the club:

unfortunately... but I have accepted it will never be.

He always asks me to come back. We are just not meant to be together and I don't get why he doesn't see that! I deserve better

In fleeting moments I think about it. But the most recent ex is too fake as I (re)discovered upon a chance encounter with her tonight. The other ex is too dependent.

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veronikka said:

He always asks me to come back. We are just not meant to be together and I don't get why he doesn't see that! I deserve better

Y'all are smarter than I was.

Yes all the time. I still love him and we were very happy together. I love my new boyfriend so very much but things are so damn complicated with him and I very much wish I was still happy with my ex .

Nah.

Been there and done it. Life's too short.

If it didn't work out then, it's best to leave it as it is.

Yeah, I'm at that stage now with my last ex.

It probably won't work but we both want eachother back.

no.

Once I got through stages of grief or whatever, and come out the other side, I generally have little interest in ever knowing them again. I certainly have no interested in knowing anything about their current lives, etc. etc.

I actually had one try to add me to facebook and rejected it. This person got the hint I guess and didn't bother to followup with an email, which I would have just deleted without reading.

It's not that I hate these people. It's just that you can't fall back into traps, because these emotions of longing for someone else--well I felt them on and off for 6 years of my life and I know their nothing more than traps. Shit just ends up being the same as always.

So no. I don't have any interest both based on principle and on intrinsic disinterest. I don't even want to know if they've passed away when we're all good and old...it's a 'phase' and I'm currently loving the 'phase' I"m going through now in Bangkok.

No. I did go back to an ex once. Bad idea. I learned from that mistake.

I wish them well in their life without me.

paintedlady said:

Think of why you broke up with that person. Loniness can be an awful beast to deal with, but its worth the time alone to work on self and remeber why you needed to leave that previous situation.

My ex recently asked me back. He dumped me for a 60+ yr. old woman and he was 36 and I was 35 at the time. He told me then that that older woman was better than me in every way. OUCH.

He dumped her possesive ass after she tried to stab him and slashed all his tires.

I reminded him that he found a woman that was "better than me in every way" and that he would find another woman that was better than me again.... so, he should keep on looking

Saying hell no to my past (my ex David) allowed me to say hello to my future, with someone new and better in a million ways. WHY? Because I chose a better man for me this time around since I learned from my mistake.

You will do the same, just be patient. It will happen.

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Wait a minute.....

After all the stuff you described?

the fuck is his problem?!

bboy87 said:

paintedlady said:

Think of why you broke up with that person. Loniness can be an awful beast to deal with, but its worth the time alone to work on self and remeber why you needed to leave that previous situation.

My ex recently asked me back. He dumped me for a 60+ yr. old woman and he was 36 and I was 35 at the time. He told me then that that older woman was better than me in every way. OUCH.

He dumped her possesive ass after she tried to stab him and slashed all his tires.

I reminded him that he found a woman that was "better than me in every way" and that he would find another woman that was better than me again.... so, he should keep on looking

Saying hell no to my past (my ex David) allowed me to say hello to my future, with someone new and better in a million ways. WHY? Because I chose a better man for me this time around since I learned from my mistake.

You will do the same, just be patient. It will happen.

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Wait a minute.....

After all the stuff you described?

the fuck is his problem?!

The problem was that he wanted to play video games all day and not be responsible to help keep the bills paid. We fought over finances all the time, with his non-rent paying ass.

I gave that man my all, but I couldn't change him... and that was MY mistake.

He found a woman who would put up with his crap, instead she ended trying to stab him .

Now he wants me back.

Sorry David... I'm climbing a new beau now, and my new guy is delish! He's a hard working man that pays his bills too. Not looking back, ever! Lesson learned.

See, David left me shattered. I had two of his children, and we all adored that man. He was gentle, charismatic and funny, but he was a moocher.

He was like a con man that emptied my bank accounts and dwindled my savings. I gave him everything I had and lost myself in the process. Damn, I was whipped!

In my efforts to make David change, I ended up changing myself instead. I am a different person now.

He told me he has changed and is ready to be in our lives again, but I am not compatible with failure, so I can't be with him again. I need a person that's going to add to my life, not drain it.

Me & David = a miserable life for me and our children. No thanks.

I got over David.... Nurse, in time you'll get over your ex too.

paintedlady said:

Think of why you broke up with that person. Loniness can be an awful beast to deal with, but its worth the time alone to work on self and remeber why you needed to leave that previous situation.

My ex recently asked me back. He dumped me for a 60+ yr. old woman and he was 36 and I was 35 at the time. He told me then that that older woman was better than me in every way. OUCH.

He dumped her possesive ass after she tried to stab him and slashed all his tires.

I reminded him that he found a woman that was "better than me in every way" and that he would find another woman that was better than me again.... so, he should keep on looking

Saying hell no to my past (my ex David) allowed me to say hello to my future, with someone new and better in a million ways. WHY? Because I chose a better man for me this time around since I learned from my mistake.

You will do the same, just be patient. It will happen.

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If he let you go for a 60 yr old woman he obviously was questionable from the jump Actually, I'm hoping just to find someone to spend time with-I don't ever want to get married again it's just not for some people