Ottensen said:

tinaz said:

She was on Miami Vice some 20 years ago and she looks this good!

I hate her..

Okay, why was I using the excuse "it's Memorial Day weekend in my home country!!!!!!!!!!!!!" to chow down as many bbq ribs and as much cake as I could this week starting on Friday night??

I'm looking at Garcelle, and just thinking, "oh f**k!%"&"!? ..."

So this bitch here in Europe needs to start drinking water and running....with the quickness. because all that fat and sugar is playing havoc with my body like you wouldn't believe. My forehead broke out and I feel bloated as HELL !!!

Damn you Garcelle, of toned body and flawless skin. I hereby repent from my gluttony and shall run my bloated ass through the park...starting tomorrow.

JustErin said:

Ottensen said:

But pathetic in which context? That in which arouses compassion and sympathy, or your scornful contempt? Somehow I think you mean the latter, and frankly it's easy to judge others when you haven't walked in their shoes, Erin.

Or maybe it's simply a scenario you just can't relate to... Still, I say that just because you're a hard ass (and I mean that lovingly) who wouldn't be affected the same way by that level of betrayal in a committed relationship does not mean that this woman's anguish should be disregarded so simply as her being pathetic. Was it tacky and childish to respond in that way to something so crushing? Okay, yeah. It offends our general sense of social graces to be sure. But at the onset, in the heat of devastation... in the fallout resulting from a crisis like this, a person will not always think rationally and clearly.

I've been there, so I know what it's like. I know what it's like to feel like someone kicked the wind out of your chest and your heart sits so heavy inside that you can't breathe properly for days, you live from moment to moment literally gasping for air. You cry your eyes out until they are bloodshot and your brain feels swollen- only to get get up and have a fucking mini- stroke in reaction to the hell you're going through from that betrayal... a fucking stroke.

Some people react to marriage betrayal differently than others. I have to say that I don't know of anyone who has actually been through this scenario that didn't have a primitive, non-graceful response on learning that their marriage covenant was broken. I know there are some couples that can eventually get to a point where they can be civil and work together to make the parting less...well, just less WHATEVER ...but that takes time to get to that point, and I can guarantee that humans, being not only creatures of ego, and intellect and rationale, but creatures of emotion and id- generally will not react in a Dr.Spock fashion to having their sense of emotional trust, safety, and life partnership blown to bits....if they were emotionally invested in the first place, that is.

Why is there an assumption that I haven't been through something very similar simply because I think her response was pathetic?

Au contraire, mon frere.

It's because I have been through something indeed the same (except I wasn't married - but was in a committed relationship for 10 years) that I think her childish, vindictive response was pathetic.

So I stand corrected, Sista-Girl..you have seen the inner messybloody-mucous-ness that involves non-sanctioned infidelity;

but still

You're asserting that just because she did not handle the situation as (I assume?) you did when you were in that scenario, that she is worthy of scornful attempt for her actions. I'm just asking, wouldn't it be more fair to recognize that in the heat of anger and hurt, some people don't have the capacity to jump right in the saddle as you do (I'm assuming ) and turn off all emotional knee jerk responses? That's all I'm asking. Everyone may not, cannot, will not be able to handle relationship crisis as you can,and I'm just asking isn't fair enough that a woman can be allowed a slip up (ok total fuck up) in action after the man who fathered her children and stood before family, friends, whatever spiritual entity they believe in, promising in lifelong covenant to love and cherish and blah blah blah without being well, y'anno, dismissed as pathetic? S'all I'm asking.

DesireeNevermind said:

Garcelle Beauvais-Nilon may drop a few letters from her name in the near future — TMZ has learned she’s filed for divorce from her husband Michael Nilon. Garcelle — who once graced the cover of Playboy Magazine — filed the documents in L.A. County Superior Court on May 10 — just two days before their 9-year wedding anniversary. Garcelle and Michael have 2-year-old twins together — she is seeking joint legal and physical custody. As for spousal support — Garcelle has requested that the judge not award anything to Michael.

http://bossip.com/252815/...r-husband/

WELL....can't say I'm that upset. Too bad for those lil babies. Can't people just wait till the kids are like 9 to 13 or something? That's a good age range cuz you don't really give a crap. It's the age between not realizing what's going on and feeling like your world is over. Age 0-8, you don't really know what's up or why it's happening. Age 14 to like 22...somebody is going to get hurt.

Damn...Garcelle was on the cover of Playboy? She do got a bangin' bod!

I think I have a crush on U.

JustErin said:

chocolate1 said:

But why would anyone point out if someone is agreeing with him/her?

Well, exactly. Seems everyone thinks their opinion and judgment is the rightone, and everyone else's is wrong.

But how can we, when only yours is right?

Oh wait... I guess I'm too dumb to realize it since I wear glasses.

(I'm STILL tryin' to figure THAT one out! )

TD3 said:

That old saying, weddings and funerals bring out the worst in people maybe marriage should be added to that list.

Agreed!

And anyone who seriously thinks sending an e-mail after finding out your spouse has cheated on you for years is on the same level as purposely lying and cheating to a spouse for 5 years of a 9 year marriage got urshers.

Giovanni777 said:

DesireeNevermind said:

Garcelle Beauvais-Nilon may drop a few letters from her name in the near future — TMZ has learned she’s filed for divorce from her husband Michael Nilon. Garcelle — who once graced the cover of Playboy Magazine — filed the documents in L.A. County Superior Court on May 10 — just two days before their 9-year wedding anniversary. Garcelle and Michael have 2-year-old twins together — she is seeking joint legal and physical custody. As for spousal support — Garcelle has requested that the judge not award anything to Michael.

http://bossip.com/252815/...r-husband/

WELL....can't say I'm that upset. Too bad for those lil babies. Can't people just wait till the kids are like 9 to 13 or something? That's a good age range cuz you don't really give a crap. It's the age between not realizing what's going on and feeling like your world is over. Age 0-8, you don't really know what's up or why it's happening. Age 14 to like 22...somebody is going to get hurt.

Damn...Garcelle was on the cover of Playboy? She do got a bangin' bod!

I think I have a crush on U.

SCNDLS said:

TD3 said:

That old saying, weddings and funerals bring out the worst in people maybe marriage should be added to that list.

Agreed!

And anyone who seriously thinks sending an e-mail after finding out your spouse has cheated on you for years is on the same level as purposely lying and cheating to a spouse for 5 years of a 9 year marriage got urshers.

I wanna know who this trick is that hubby has been bangin' for 5 years. Talk about issues! #1 the chick's pussy aint bomb enough to leave Garcelle for

#2 the chick herself doesn't seem to mind bein' a side piece for 5 years!

We have a third victim in this scenario. Her name is Lowla Esteema.

Ottensen said:

JustErin said:

Why is there an assumption that I haven't been through something very similar simply because I think her response was pathetic?

Au contraire, mon frere.

It's because I have been through something indeed the same (except I wasn't married - but was in a committed relationship for 10 years) that I think her childish, vindictive response was pathetic.

So I stand corrected, Sista-Girl..you have seen the inner messybloody-mucous-ness that involves non-sanctioned infidelity;

but still

You're asserting that just because she did not handle the situation as (I assume?) you did when you were in that scenario, that she is worthy of scornful attempt for her actions. I'm just asking, wouldn't it be more fair to recognize that in the heat of anger and hurt, some people don't have the capacity to jump right in the saddle as you do (I'm assuming ) and turn off all emotional knee jerk responses? That's all I'm asking. Everyone may not, cannot, will not be able to handle relationship crisis as you can,and I'm just asking isn't fair enough that a woman can be allowed a slip up (ok total fuck up) in action after the man who fathered her children and stood before family, friends, whatever spiritual entity they believe in, promising in lifelong covenant to love and cherish and blah blah blah without being well, y'anno, dismissed as pathetic? S'all I'm asking.

No, what I said was emailing his work and saying what she said was pathetic. I didn't say anything else about how she reacted because I don't know how she reacted, other than this act.

I can absolutely empathize with being pissed off and hurt because I have totally been there, I have done things in my youth that I wouldn't do now (nothing like emailing his workplace though) and I did not say anything that indicated that I was totally ok with what happened or that I just dealt with it right away like a stone cold bitch that feels nothing.

I simply said that her action in regards to her emailing his work was pathetic. I can see a 21 year old doing something like that, but she's 42 years old, with 2 babies from this man. I get being really angry, being hurt and wanting to lash out...but I think a mature person would know how to or at least attempt to deal with it without embarrassing the shit out of herself.

But I was totally wrong, and ya...to me, that's pathetic.

It's just an opinion.

DesireeNevermind said:

SCNDLS said:

Agreed!

And anyone who seriously thinks sending an e-mail after finding out your spouse has cheated on you for years is on the same level as purposely lying and cheating to a spouse for 5 years of a 9 year marriage got urshers.

I wanna know who this trick is that hubby has been bangin' for 5 years. Talk about issues! #1 the chick's pussy aint bomb enough to leave Garcelle for

#2 the chick herself doesn't seem to mind bein' a side piece for 5 years!

We have a third victim in this scenario. Her name is Lowla Esteema.

You don't know anything about Garcelle (or maybe you do?). I'm not defending anyone...but we really don't know anything other than she is accusing him of cheating on her.

chocolate1 said:

JustErin said:

Well, exactly. Seems everyone thinks their opinion and judgment is the rightone, and everyone else's is wrong.

But how can we, when only yours is right?

Oh wait... I guess I'm too dumb to realize it since I wear glasses.

(I'm STILL tryin' to figure THAT one out! )

Sorry, I just don't follow what you're saying now.

You think you're judgment is right, and it is for you...just as mine is right for me. I'm not going to question your judgment of someone...I'm only going to state mine.

And I wear glasses too...guess sarcasm is lost on some. Unless of course you got that and are just being sarcastic now too.

JustErin said:

DesireeNevermind said:

I wanna know who this trick is that hubby has been bangin' for 5 years. Talk about issues! #1 the chick's pussy aint bomb enough to leave Garcelle for

#2 the chick herself doesn't seem to mind bein' a side piece for 5 years!

We have a third victim in this scenario. Her name is Lowla Esteema.

You don't know anything about Garcelle (or maybe you do?). I'm not defending anyone...but we really don't know anything other than she is accusing him of cheating on her.

What else do we need to know other than this is a sad situation all around? Couples with small children can't make it work. People have affairs and embarass their spouses rather than just growing some brass balls and saying "I'm no longer invested in this relationship I think we should call it quits". She didn't just accuse him of cheating....she put him on blast at his workplace. That's some raw emotion right there.

uPtoWnNY said:

Did y'all read the responses to that article? Damn, mfers are cold....

"self-hating black woman....sista who swirls.....bed-wench....sell-out bitch...."

Folks sure talk a lot of smack from behind their keyboard, that's for sure.

PREACH!

[Edited 6/3/10 8:18am]

missfee said:

uPtoWnNY said:

Did y'all read the responses to that article? Damn, mfers are cold....

"self-hating black woman....sista who swirls.....bed-wench....sell-out bitch...."

Folks sure talk a lot of smack from behind their keyboard, that's for sure.

PREACH!

[Edited 6/3/10 8:18am]

That's the beauty of the internet. It lets geeks pretend they're rough. But we know what'll happen out in the street.

chocolate1 said:

ernestsewell said:

Absoutely correct. She's not famous to me.

Oh Ernest...

She is famous. You just didn't know who she is...

It's okay to not know everything.

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NO, this guy thinks he knows everything which is cetainly not the case.

chocolate1 said:

ernestsewell said:

Absoutely correct. She's not famous to me.

Oh Ernest...

She is famous. You just didn't know who she is...

It's okay to not know everything.

Not if you think you know everything

chocolate1 said:

ernestsewell said:

Absoutely correct. She's not famous to me.

Oh Ernest...

She is famous. You just didn't know who she is...

It's okay to not know everything.

Not if you think you know everything

Garcelle is a queen. I don't get why any man would cheat on her. How are you going to do better?

2freaky4church1 said:

Garcelle is a queen. I don't get why any man would cheat on her. How are you going to do better?

right. guess he needed dick on the side.