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Question For the Parents in the Crowd I have this theory (based more or less just on anecdotal evidence, but a theory nonetheless) that more first-born children than not are "surprise" babies rather than planned.
So, if you don't mind divulging, for those of you who are parents: How many kids do you have? How many of these were planned versus "oops" kids? Did birth order have anything to do with it? Full disclosure: Though my parents were married for 5 years before having me, I was most definitely the result of, shall we say, a protection failure. My younger sister was planned, since they figured, "Hell, we already have one. Can't have an only child now, can we?"  "A Watcher scoffs at gravity!" | |
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My parents pretty much told me I was an oops. I was the 2nd of 3.
The 3rd was was planed to the point of my mom was baby sitting and realized she was ovulating so she called my dad to knock her up on the bathroom floor. [Edited 5/28/10 16:07pm] "Keep on shilling for Big Pharm!" |
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I'm the baby of 10 children, half ended put up for adoption....and I was still an oops. Birfmama was a rolling stone.... | |
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We've got one daughter, born seven years into our marriage. She was planned. Ὅσον ζῇς φαίνου
μηδὲν ὅλως σὺ λυποῦ πρὸς ὀλίγον ἐστὶ τὸ ζῆν τὸ τέλος ὁ χρόνος ἀπαιτεῖ.” | |
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One son.
Was a major oops at age 30. I do not plan to have any more...I'm too old anyway. | |
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We didnt try to avoid getting pregnant the first time... Just didnt use protection, but we werent "trying"
The second time, we had decided we wanted to try to get pregnant again, then one day at the library our daughter was acting up and so we thought we'd wait a little longer so she would be a little older so it would be easier to handle 2 children....exactly 9 months later we had a boy!
They are only 19 months apart... ~~~~~ Oh that voice...incredible....there should be a musical instrument called George Michael... ~~~~~ | |
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BklynBabe said: I'm the baby of 10 children, half ended put up for adoption....and I was still an oops. Birfmama was a rolling stone....
My parents concieved me both they were married and 7 months within their marriage, I came along. | |
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i'm not a parent, but the fear of 'accidents' pretty much explains why i never get it on with ms. whistle. everyone's a fruit & nut case | |
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How many kids do you have? 4 ~ the first 2 were his from his 1st marriage that I started to help raise at ages 5 & 6
How many of these were planned versus "oops" kids? Both of ours ( the second 2 ) were birthcontrol failure babies, never considered as "oops" children though and never regreted ~ they made it past the pill and condom use so they were meant to be !  I got "fixed" after Jess was born because I was proof positive BC does NOT work 100% and we already had 4
Did birth order have anything to do with it? Nope | |
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My parents were married for 4 years before they had me. They were enjoying the childless life- my Dad drag raced and they did all kinds of fun stuff.
I was kind of planned, tho, because my uncle and aunt started talking about starting a family, so my Mom became determined to have the 1st grandchild.
My cousin wasn't actually born until 2 and a half years later- 3 weeks before my sister. 
I have an older brother who was my Dad's "oops" a year before my parents married... he kinda had 2 gfs.  "Love Hurts. Your lies, they cut me. Now your words don't mean a thing. I don't give a damn if you ever loved me..." -Cher, "Woman's World" | |
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If were talking bout our parents,
My parents got married and 8 months later I came along...
They told my grandma i was premature..  weighing in at 8 1/2 pounds.. AND grandma was an RN...
Now who do you think they fooled!! ~~~~~ Oh that voice...incredible....there should be a musical instrument called George Michael... ~~~~~ | |
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I have one son, he was planned. decided NOT to have any more (long story)
I am the youngest of 3...my dad wanted another kid, my mom...not so much. & she told me this often... 
My sister (first born) was un-planned, but a happy surprise. | |
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Got married
Tried for 9 months before success with first 17 months later: Tried for one month with second 33 months later: Tried two months with third All 3 planned very much planned | |
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My sister and I were both accidents, or as my dad put it "mistakes"
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ZombieKitten said: My sister and I were both accidents, or as my dad put it "mistakes"
Yea, I've always thought "accident" sounded better than "mistake", even "unplanned" is better than both of those. Accident implies "we didn't mean to do it" but Mistake implies "we didn't mean to do it and we regret it. Damn, wish we had a time machine or a genie or something" I graduated bitches!!! 12-19-09   | |
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PurpleRighteous1 said: ZombieKitten said: My sister and I were both accidents, or as my dad put it "mistakes"
Yea, I've always thought "accident" sounded better than "mistake", even "unplanned" is better than both of those. Accident implies "we didn't mean to do it" but Mistake implies "we didn't mean to do it and we regret it. Damn, wish we had a time machine or a genie or something" yup, the regret aspect sure puts a sting in it | |
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I have super control over my junk....
Both of our kids were planned. Wife got off the pill in both instances and she was pregnant within a few months. Our youngest is 12 and we haven't used any form of BC since she's been born. Yep, super control over my junk. Thanks for the laughs, arguments and overall enjoyment for the last umpteen years. It's time for me to retire from Prince.org and engage in the real world...lol. Above all, I appreciated the talent Prince. You were one of a kind. | |
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my first son i knew was gonna be here even before i got pregnant
my second son was the surprise..we were trying but.. he was 16 weeks along before they spotted him on ultrasound.. i had no syptoms to speak of for a pregnancy not even the most obvious one.  'why y'all trying to say goodbye? I didn't go anywhere, I'm right here, im all around you,always..'
in a line from my dream, I heard a voice and saw a silhouette in a chair.. | |
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PurpleRighteous1 said: ZombieKitten said: My sister and I were both accidents, or as my dad put it "mistakes"
Yea, I've always thought "accident" sounded better than "mistake", even "unplanned" is better than both of those. Accident implies "we didn't mean to do it" but Mistake implies "we didn't mean to do it and we regret it. Damn, wish we had a time machine or a genie or something" 
There is a BIG difference between unplanned/surprise/oops/accident and mistake. "A Watcher scoffs at gravity!" | |
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Thanks for the replies everyone. "A Watcher scoffs at gravity!" | |
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I love my son, but he was definitely a "whoopsy"
He's my only child thus far. I plan to be married and prepared for the next one 
Smooches;) | |
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Two girls, both very planned...
I, however, am an IUD survivor... A working class Hero is something to be ~ Lennon |
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moderatorI have 2 sons....both planned. "not a fan"  yeah...ok | |
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I have one son. Planned but thought I would have more time trying.
Old women can get pregnant quick apparently.
He is going to be an only child like me (though I do not think I was planned, if so, it was a last ditch effort to save a marriage, or something stupid like that) unless we adopt a girl in the future.
I am always fascinated by child order and how it effects ppl.
I was not the typical spoiled only child.
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Two kids. First wasn't planned, but we weren't using protection either. We decided if it happened, fine. The second one (born 2.5 years after the first) was an oops in a way, but again, we weren't using protection, so I'm not sure I could say he was an oops. Second one was still a surprise, though. | |
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We have three beautiful daughters.
Every one was "planned".
Birth order had nothing to do with it. "Always blessings, never losses......"
Ya te dije....no manches guey!!!!!  I'm a guy!!!!
"....i can open my-eyes "underwater"..there4 i will NOT drown...." - mzkqueen03  | |
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Both of my daughters were planned.
My youngest just took her sweet time coming. I'm firmly planted in denial |
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