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General question for the day What if you had a good bf or gf who was, out of all of the people you dated, very nice, attractive, and treated you well, but you knew deep down that you were trying to force yourself to love them with everything you had. Or in other words, you love them, but you know that you have loved more deeply before and that you know that this type of love just isn't there for this particular person. Also you feel that this person loves you more than you love them. What do you do? Do you stay in the relationship because it's hard to find good people to date? Or do let them go because they deserve to be loved with the same intensity that they love you with????  [Edited 5/20/10 5:11am] I will forever love and miss you...my sweet Prince. | |
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ugh, they deserve better
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ZombieKitten said: ugh, they deserve better
Yeah, that's the "morally" thing to do. That was my answer to this question as well which was asked to me by somebody else. I was just wondering if I was the one the being realistic or not. I will forever love and miss you...my sweet Prince. | |
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missfee said: ZombieKitten said: ugh, they deserve better
Yeah, that's the "morally" thing to do. That was my answer to this question as well which was asked to me by somebody else. I was just wondering if I was the one the being realistic or not. depends totally on you. Right thing to do vs what feels good right now. I know it feels awesome for your ego initially, that you won't be the loser in the break-up and how modern it is to take advantage of all the perks, but ultimately, their feelings feel heavy on you. | |
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I agree with ZK. 
I find it hard to be with someone if the feeling isn't mutual. I start to resent the attention and feel smothered. I also know the feeling of being the one who loved more, so I try to get out of it before it gets out of hand. I don't want to hurt the person the way I've been hurt by being led on.  "Love Hurts. Your lies, they cut me. Now your words don't mean a thing. I don't give a damn if you ever loved me..." -Cher, "Woman's World" | |
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Break it off asap. The longer you wait the harder its gonna be for that person. I've reached in darkness and come out with treasure
I layed down with love and I woke up with lies Whats it all worth only the heart can measure It's not whats in the mirror but what's left inside | |
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There's nothing wrong with just seeing where things go even if you don't feel the same way. Everyone experiences love differently. The idea that two people should fall in love with one another at the same time and in the same way seems a little silly to me. As long as you both are enjoying yourselves, and you don't take advantage of the other person or are actively looking for another relationship then it's OK.It probably won't last but what's not say you won't have a meaningful relationship with them even if it doesn't last? | |
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