I’m not sure if I did something wrong or not. We’ll see, I guess.

So in the continuing saga of Carrie meets a guy she actually likes –

He and I were hanging out Saturday night and we were making out (and that’s as detailed as that’s gonna get, so don’t ask ) and we were sorta talking and joking around in between and at one point out of the blue he laughed and said “I’m gonna have to change my facebook status”.

Now, there was no context – it was just in the middle of making out and had nothing to do with anything we had been talking about. And I’m a girl. We were being cute and having a good time and so I’m thinking he’s talking about the “relationship” status. We haven’t really talked about that yet, we’ve been dating for 6 weeks, seeing each other about twice a week or so, and I’m pretty sure we both know we’re not seeing anyone else so I thought that was his silly way of bringing it up. So I say, “I think that’s a good idea.” And we continue on.

And then I totally laughed and said “I’m not changing mine, though.” I was trying to be funny.

And then he paused really weirdly. I couldn’t see his face and so I was all “I’m only joking!” ha ha he he ho ho and then he asked, very stiffly, “Um, can you just sort of blank it out?”
And I said, probably even more stiffly, “Er, yes, you can just blank it out.”
It was all very awkward but then we just went back to making out and let it go.

So the next day I had time to think about it and I start to wonder (as us girls are wont to do) – was he really offended that I said I wouldn’t change mine, totally didn’t get my humor and thought I was against the idea? Or was he just bringing up random conversation and was actually talking about his status “update” and then realized that’s not what I was thinking and freak out about it a little? Did I completely misread what he was talking about?

He didn’t log on to facebook again until a few days later. But I noticed that he did it. He has removed “single” from his relationship status. There’s a line on his page that says “XXXX is no longer listed as ‘single’” with the little heart next to it. But he also blanked out his regular status update as well. So I still have no idea which he was talking about or what might have freaked him out.

Did I inadvertently trick him into NOT advertising his single status on facebook, well before he was ready? Or did I piss him off by joking about his attempts to establish something about what we’re “doing” together?

Time will tell, I guess. I’m not worried about it. I think we’re doing well – we clearly like each other and are having fun together. I just find the whole thing kinda hilarious. Frickin’ facebook.

Incidentally – I changed mine as well. There’s a line on my wall that says “ Carrie is no longer listed as ‘single.’”

Why don't you just ask him? I know it'll feel awkward and all, but you need to communicate. I think he'll appreciate it.

PS I'm so happy for you

CarrieLee said:

Oh, I'm sure we'll chat about it eventually. I'm in no rush.

I just think it's really funny.

At first I thought you were going to tell us how he'd have to change "interested in: men" to "interested in: women" after making out with you.

wow...what's next, instead of marriage you put each first on your cell's speed dial and get a special ringtone??

CarrieMpls said:

Well I just say that because maybe you kind of did hurt his feelings. Guys are sensitive! I'd nip it in the bud now.

novabrkr said:

Thank gawd that's not it.

BklynBabe said:

He's already in my favorite list. And there's only 3 numbers in there.

facebook

"Ruining relationships since 2004"

Good to hear you're getting along great.
But seriously, I think your actions, to him, should speak louder than your FB status.

If he's hung up about that status than he's a bit of a tosser, really.

CarrieLee said:

Good point. I really was thinking it's leaning the other way, but if he WAS offended I do want to clear that up immediately.

JustErin said:

My favorite is when a couple breaks up and it says "So and so's relationship has ENDED"



So harsh!

MacDaddy said:

I think it lightens up the whole relationship discussion with some people.

My guy came right out and out of the blue says "Um, I think you should be my girlfriend now".

MacDaddy said:

Thanks!

And he’s not a tosser. I promise.

CarrieLee said:

Try "it's complicated" and explain that to your friends when they ask what the fuck is going on.

MacDaddy said:

I think that status is hysterical, and the couples that do post it are funny (and usually my friends)

CarrieLee said:

I agree. He may have lingering thoughts.

But on another note....

CarrieLee said:

Yeah, hysterical. Except I wasn't the one who changed that status

MacDaddy said:

Hahahahahhahaha!



Sorry.

Hey my douchebag of an ex had his myspace listed as 'divorced' the whole time we were together. I should have took that as an early warning sign

Back on topic!

Two for Carrie.
I know you're a lady and shit, but could you at least disclose some details about his bodily features?

MacDaddy said:

MacDaddy said:

He’s tall, broad shoulders, nice legs, nice lips, dreamy blue eyes.

...just as long as you don't do the whole flip flop relationship status changes in one day thing...

so and so is single
"" in a relationship
"" single
"" it's complicated
""...giving up and moving into a convent/monastery.

BklynBabe said:

MacDaddy said:

SEE?? facebook is poison to relationships.

Just leave that shit off there, people. No one cares about who is with who anyway.

JustErin said:

Gaydar is worse, believe you me

Is this the same guy you slaughtered pigs for?!