JoeTyler said:

60 minutes my ass. Somebody needs to get a nut in 30 minutes.
That's all i'm giving her. Then i'll make a sammich and go
another 30 minutes later.

I'd take that sammich!

Whomever says the "safety" word first.

phunkdaddy said:

well, the coitus lasts like 20 minutes, sure, but you have other 40 minutes of foreplay, oral, or whatever...

I don't thing there's some "standards" when it comes to hw long sex shoud last.. depends on both the 'giver' and 'receiver' :
Many dudes think pounding a vagina for 2hours à la porn star is the way to go, while many women think it gets boring, tiresome (hey, it probably aint no fun having ur legs spread for 50 minutes !!) and painful (boredom + being tired = no more horny, so the coochie dries up and the friction and the strokes become unbearable )
On the other hand, some dudes think spitting the yogurt after a few minutes (seconds? ) is okay, as long as they're having fun... And some girls wish it could last longer..

So its quite hard for both partners to cum at the same time : Actually most people would agree that the perfect duration is when sexual partner cum/reach their climax at the same time... Good luck!! It happens quite rarely, from what I know (and been told)...

I don't wanna sound sexist or 'selfsh', but its not essential for a woman to have an orgasm during sexual intercourse. yeah i said it.. As long as she is enjoying having GOOD sex with her partner, thats ok. she should reach orgasm every now and then, but guyz, pleeeaaase stop being obsessed with "making a girl" cum.. It aint that easy, unless U r a comfortably settled couple who know each other well or u r that girl's #1 fantasy

whistle said:

I don't know-how long does the commercial last?

Sex itself I can keep going and going if I am able to ride the orgasms the right way.
Oral sex is trickier.
Cunnilingus begins to hurt me after an orgasm, I can hang on while cumming but once I let it all go and the spray ends I can't get the sensation back because the clitoris is just too sore from the activity.

Is it the same for a guy?

I usually suck my guy off for a long time, it takes him about 40 minutes to cum, I can do it easily because his shape allows it to feel good for me and I enjoy it, but does it not feel good for him if it takes 30-40 minutes or does he hold back (mentally) so he gets done longer?

Do men try not to cum quick during fellatio?

FrenchGuy said:

you are wrong.

wrong wrong wrong wrong wrong.

How would you feel about only having an orgasm "every now and then" with your partner?

FrenchGuy said:

Excellent point. I'm not trying to have no damn heart attack sexing 60
straight minutes. Yes i understand foreplay and all that making it longer.
What female is gonna lay there and let you pound away at them for an hour
straight especially if she just got her hair done.
I understand wanting to prolong that nut because the coochie feel so good
but damn after 30 minutes man i got to let it go. I ain't trying to get
blue balls.

CarrieMpls said:

actually I know a guy like that, an orgasm is not ab essential thing for him to have to still enjoy, but he likes to make sure the lady leaves satisfied

I would not want to be with a guy who wasn't considerate of my pleasure I might not always get mine but you had best try!
[Edited 5/2/10 19:15pm]

paintedlady said:

... Yeah same thing 4 me. Won't let a woman touch my dick after i cum cause the gland is tooooo sensitive afterwards.. Whats the point of licking/sucking/touching it anyway? it gets limp!!



.. wat!! pretty muscled jaws u must have!!

Maybe... but since I'm not a nig fan of fellatio, I never cum no matter how "good" or how long (even 40 min ) the girl doesnt. I need the tightness and the warmth of a pussy and watching the facial expression while I'm inside... Theres something missing in fellatios

FrenchGuy said:

Sex is ideal IMO when both partners climax together, if she cums a few times before he does is even better!
But honestly you sound like a selfish lover (you bust a nut and you're good ), a good lover would want to get off after he gets his partner off first. He gets a mental boost that way.
Also, when women cum they preform better also. So its usually a win-win for both parties.

BklynBabe said:

... Dont get me wrong. I'm don't actually mean the man shouldnt care about female orgasm. What I'm saying is, its no crime if the girl doesnt come, cause no matter what U say, making a girl climax is not as easy as a man... Waaay harder... Its not a matter of sexing her 'long' enough... Some women may cum after a few minutes if the foreplay is done right. Some may require 2h of intense stroking... i'd say 95% of orgasm factors are in the womans mind: Being in love, being loved, the atmosphere, the setting, the context, the mood, stress, the 'right moment'... Whereas the average man can ejaculate lke 99% of the time!!Theres no magic potion for it. Just do ur best, bros!! She'll cum or she won't, its no perfect science

CarrieMpls said:

why is it essential that a guy comes?

I agree that it would be impossible for a guy to engage in actual intercourse without being aroused, whilst a girl can do that standing on her head (and probably literally too, from what I have seen on the internet )

FrenchGuy said:

I get what you're saying, guys, don't beat yourself up if you can't do it for her, it's complicated but that doesn't mean you shouldn't try!!

paintedlady said:

Let me say this one mo' 'gain: I'M NOT A SELFISH LOVER, its the opposite actually... I always do my best to make the girl cum first: Emphasise on foreplay, oral sex (yeh, i HATE fellatios, but i LOVE cunnilingus), caressing, sweet whispered words, kissing, massaging, cuddling... I know a woman has got to feel desired, confident, kind of unique and beautiful in order to truly let herself go. And I work at it.. But still some may cum, some wont... It depnds o the girl. Just like some men can have an erection by just touching a girl, others may need more, some may last 30 seconds, others 2 hours, big dicks/small dicks, submissive/dominant, etc... There are sooo many lovers profiles.. Once again: THERES NO MIRACLE SOLUTION, just some tips, but U may not make 100% of ur partners reach orgasm...
Clearer?

FrenchGuy said:

you're

love has ZERO to do with whether i can get off or not. it's half me, half the person i'm sleeping with. if you can't get most women off clearly you're doing something wrong it's never optional to not get your partner off.

FrenchGuy said:

That's how my guy was. He told me he didn't like getting his dick sucked.
So after a few failed tries, I learned how to touch him properly (every guy is different) and he started to cum after like an hour or so... I now got that time down a bit. He's not cut and he's well endowed so he gets soft quick.
I've noticed larger men tend to need a more aggressive touch. Now he likes it He does still prefer putting it in me instead though. Which is fine for me.

The nice thing about sucking a dick for a long time, my lips look like Sade's the next day. All plump and pretty, so that's a plus for me. Win win

evenstar3 said:

Geeez, y'all dont get me rite?? It can be love or anything else, but please, I really hate how women complain they can reach orgasm cause the "guy aint doin IT right", like its 100% his fault...
At least u admit there's a 50/50 responsability!!
Some girls just think laying ur ass on the bed and let the guy work and sweat on U will get U to Cloud 9... If U dont then its because the guy i a sucker, obviously...Wrong, wrong wrong too!!

FrenchGuy said:

Yes sir

well if I can't have an orgasm, I better at least get a sammich!!!

BklynBabe said:

I settle for a massage if my mind isn't on the job which is the only thing that would usually prevent me from reaching my big O

BklynBabe said:

Shhiiieeeettttt, he'd better break out the apron and hook it up like Emeril :fukkasammich: no orgasm= ya better be a chef!

BklynBabe said:

... With sausage?

ZombieKitten said:

YES!!! Oh that's so nice when a man rubs you body scalp to the4 soles of your feet. OMG!

paintedlady said:

Thanx

FrenchGuy said:

i did say it's 50-50!

evenstar3 said:

Yeah, I know !! re-read my post... (bold)

Well, for me it should last long enough to make one of my women cum like a geyser while I'm eating her pussy while the other woman rides my dick like the Matterhorn at Disney World. And after they both cum several times and are reduced to shaking uncontrollably in ecstasy while moaning something unintelligible, then its on to the next girl!




















Seriously though, it's not about any set time, act, or position. It's really about enjoying some really amazing sexual pleasure with your partner and both people getting off from it. Some days are great for all-day lovemaking sessions of foreplay, oral, deep fucking, sex toy play, etc., while on other days a two-minute quickie can leave both partners panting and weak in the knees all day or all night long. So whatever gets me and my lover/fuck buddy hot, horny, and happy is good enough for me.

I dont think there is a time limit.. Quickies can be great, longies can be great.. You just have to be in tune with your partners body and read the signals...