desperate times call for desperate measures sometimes!

It is different.

It doesn't make sense to you...but it makes perfect sense to me.

And well, I'm just plain smarter than you so...

No, it's exactly like that. If cheating is cheating no matter what, then it's stupid to quibble about the form that made your partner stray, or act like it's any different. It's not.

"My man cheated on me. Bummer."

"My man cheated on me with a man. Die, asshole!"



Yeah, that makes sense.
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Well let's be frank shall we? The incidence of HIV is growing among the females and it gets worse when you break it down by race; black and hispanic females getting infected at a faster rate than white women. This is primarily because of DL and drug behavior among the men.

Good question. My wife recently fell kinda hard for a girl she knows. Young 20 year old, cute girl, it's not like I can lie and say certain things didn't cross my mind, but really I'm not cool with it the same way I wouldn't be if it were a guy. It was more of an emotional thing anyway, rather than sexual. In the end the missus was just at a bit of a low ebb and needed to think some things through. She didn't cheat, but she felt like she had strong feelings for the girl. I wasn't mad at her.

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Ahh I see.


Well let's be frank shall we? The incidence of HIV is growing among the females and it gets worse when you break it down by race; black and hispanic females getting infected at a faster rate than white women. This is primarily because of DL and drug behavior among the men. So for me being a female and a woman of color, I have to be extra careful plain and simple. I don't tolerate intravenous drug use at all but of course that's easier to spot than a man who gay cheats.

With men double dipping or gay cheating they are just increasing the risk of infection for themselves and their partners. Plus the activity in an of itself could be more high rish because a man is a lot more likely to hide his gay sex than his straight sex. He could possibly engage in sex with random strangers versus sex with a woman he actually has to pursue and seduce. Society is to blame for that. Guys can be womanizers and that's okay but let them chase man ass and it's a whole other animal so to speak. Now some folk are going to throw in "condom" use as this end all be all to protection from STDs. Let's be real...condoms break! There are millions of people in the world who were born because a condom broke. There thousands of folk every day getting diagnosed with HIV/AIDs because a condom broke. If I were to weigh the odds very carefully...I'd rather have to deal with an unplanned pregnancy (either mine or hers) than an incurable disease (all of us). Now the rates of HIV/AIDs transmission in comparison to other diseases like herpes is much much lower but again if one had a choice of diseases, I'm sure most people would choose the more treatable less compromising of the diseases.

And lastly, like a couple others have mentioned....if one is gay cheating then they have been lying to themselves and their partners and also they have created a situation in which the person they are with can never truly fulfill their needs simply because they lack the right equipment. This works both ways: men who cheat on women with other men and women who cheat on men with other women. I'm reminded of a guy I used to work with who was gay but cheated on his boyfriend with a woman because he wanted a child. Don't know whatever became of that guy or his relationship but this thread reminds me of it. This man came to work and spilled all the dirty goodies along with dumping a trash bag of clothes on to the lobby floor.