Fauxie said:

Ahh I see.


Well let's be frank shall we? The incidence of HIV is growing among the females and it gets worse when you break it down by race; black and hispanic females getting infected at a faster rate than white women. This is primarily because of DL and drug behavior among the men. So for me being a female and a woman of color, I have to be extra careful plain and simple. I don't tolerate intravenous drug use at all but of course that's easier to spot than a man who gay cheats.

With men double dipping or gay cheating they are just increasing the risk of infection for themselves and their partners. Plus the activity in an of itself could be more high rish because a man is a lot more likely to hide his gay sex than his straight sex. He could possibly engage in sex with random strangers versus sex with a woman he actually has to pursue and seduce. Society is to blame for that. Guys can be womanizers and that's okay but let them chase man ass and it's a whole other animal so to speak. Now some folk are going to throw in "condom" use as this end all be all to protection from STDs. Let's be real...condoms break! There are millions of people in the world who were born because a condom broke. There thousands of folk every day getting diagnosed with HIV/AIDs because a condom broke. If I were to weigh the odds very carefully...I'd rather have to deal with an unplanned pregnancy (either mine or hers) than an incurable disease (all of us). Now the rates of HIV/AIDs transmission in comparison to other diseases like herpes is much much lower but again if one had a choice of diseases, I'm sure most people would choose the more treatable less compromising of the diseases.

And lastly, like a couple others have mentioned....if one is gay cheating then they have been lying to themselves and their partners and also they have created a situation in which the person they are with can never truly fulfill their needs simply because they lack the right equipment. This works both ways: men who cheat on women with other men and women who cheat on men with other women. I'm reminded of a guy I used to work with who was gay but cheated on his boyfriend with a woman because he wanted a child. Don't know whatever became of that guy or his relationship but this thread reminds me of it. This man came to work and spilled all the dirty goodies along with dumping a trash bag of clothes on to the lobby floor.

JoeTyler said:

I don't know why.

Genesia said:

Nah, I just thought that 80% of the answers would be like "hmm, as long as he/she cheats me with a gay/lesbian, I could forgive him/her..."


but nooooo

JoeTyler said:

apparently, it's much worse...

JoeTyler said:

apparently, it's much worse...

cborgman said:

I don't think it's worse. I'm in the "cheating is cheating" camp.

Genesia said:

have we overdone the SGF lines? i have the urge to use one now, but dont want to overuse them.

Hell, I'll hold the video camera.

Zombiekitten, Erin, go to it..lol lick

Well let's be frank shall we? The incidence of HIV is growing among the females and it gets worse when you break it down by race; black and hispanic females getting infected at a faster rate than white women. This is primarily because of DL and drug behavior among the men.

DesireeNevermind said:

Not to mention black and hispanic women are less likely to demand that their male sex partners wear condoms.

kitbradley said:

Yep. Why? Because they trust these fools and don't bother to check the background. If they knew what their men were up to then they might be more apt to use a condom or better yet....NOT FUCK THESE LOW LIFE HOs!

DesireeNevermind said:

But, why would a woman trust a man she's not married to and who has no intention of marrying or committing to her??? I mean, is a few moments of raw pleasure really worth it? He's a man! If a woman is foolish enough to believe or trust that she's the only one in his life, then she's an idiot.

Good question. My wife recently fell kinda hard for a girl she knows. Young 20 year old, cute girl, it's not like I can lie and say certain things didn't cross my mind, but really I'm not cool with it the same way I wouldn't be if it were a guy. It was more of an emotional thing anyway, rather than sexual. In the end the missus was just at a bit of a low ebb and needed to think some things through. She didn't cheat, but she felt like she had strong feelings for the girl. I wasn't mad at her.

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[Edited 5/2/10 17:22pm]

JoeTyler said:

anybody who cheats on me would get the boot...up the ass. and if they gay cheated then I might have to throw some hot grits on them. if they gay cheated on me while i was married to them then I would probably have to cut off an ear and wipe out their bank account; maybe even post that shit on facebook.

Fauxie said:

Because it is. Sure, the whole 'cheating is cheating no matter who' thing is true...but when they cheat with someone that has assets that you don't...well, that's just not fair and I'm gonna be ending it pretty quick.

Fauxie said:

Ahh I see.


Well let's be frank shall we? The incidence of HIV is growing among the females and it gets worse when you break it down by race; black and hispanic females getting infected at a faster rate than white women. This is primarily because of DL and drug behavior among the men. So for me being a female and a woman of color, I have to be extra careful plain and simple. I don't tolerate intravenous drug use at all but of course that's easier to spot than a man who gay cheats.

With men double dipping or gay cheating they are just increasing the risk of infection for themselves and their partners. Plus the activity in an of itself could be more high rish because a man is a lot more likely to hide his gay sex than his straight sex. He could possibly engage in sex with random strangers versus sex with a woman he actually has to pursue and seduce. Society is to blame for that. Guys can be womanizers and that's okay but let them chase man ass and it's a whole other animal so to speak. Now some folk are going to throw in "condom" use as this end all be all to protection from STDs. Let's be real...condoms break! There are millions of people in the world who were born because a condom broke. There thousands of folk every day getting diagnosed with HIV/AIDs because a condom broke. If I were to weigh the odds very carefully...I'd rather have to deal with an unplanned pregnancy (either mine or hers) than an incurable disease (all of us). Now the rates of HIV/AIDs transmission in comparison to other diseases like herpes is much much lower but again if one had a choice of diseases, I'm sure most people would choose the more treatable less compromising of the diseases.

And lastly, like a couple others have mentioned....if one is gay cheating then they have been lying to themselves and their partners and also they have created a situation in which the person they are with can never truly fulfill their needs simply because they lack the right equipment. This works both ways: men who cheat on women with other men and women who cheat on men with other women. I'm reminded of a guy I used to work with who was gay but cheated on his boyfriend with a woman because he wanted a child. Don't know whatever became of that guy or his relationship but this thread reminds me of it. This man came to work and spilled all the dirty goodies along with dumping a trash bag of clothes on to the lobby floor.

DesireeNevermind said:

The spread of disease is not because of DL or bisexual men. It's because of unsafe sexual behaviour i.e fucking without protection.

I am tired of hearing bisexual people, especially men, used as a scapegoat for rising HIV rates and rates of other disease when anyone with an ounce of common sense knows disease is spread by not covering your ass, literally or figuratively.

It's stupid, it's homophobic, and it flies in the face of reality.

JustErin said:

That makes about as much sense as saying cheating with a woman with a different body type than you isn't fair.

meow85 said:

No, it's nothing like that at all.

Cinnie said:

I live alone...

cborgman said:

I don't think it's worse. I'm in the "cheating is cheating" camp.

JustErin said:

No, it's exactly like that. If cheating is cheating no matter what, then it's stupid to quibble about the form that made your partner stray, or act like it's any different. It's not.

"My man cheated on me. Bummer."

"My man cheated on me with a man. Die, asshole!"



Yeah, that makes sense.
[Edited 5/3/10 23:51pm]

meow85 said:

It is different.

It doesn't make sense to you...but it makes perfect sense to me.

And well, I'm just plain smarter than you so...

Yeah, but if you can't compete with a penis, that shouldn't bother you, since you can't do nothing about it; but that doesn't mean that your husband wants a penis only, he wants a penis and a pussy!

on the other hand, if a husband cheats his wife with another woman, hey, that's the dangerous situation, since he's implying that he's looking for a better pussy/tits...

I can understand why so many people could not get used to this kind of situation (cheating bisexual wife/husband), but I fail to understand why it has to be worse or just as worse as the "normal" cheating...

JoeTyler said:

or perhaps less nagging or more attention or

totally variable

I've seen guys totally downgrade, because their ex was a psychotic bitch and they couldn't stand it a minute longer! and along came a plane jane who was NICE, accommodating, tolerant, a good cook etc etc whatever whatever

who knows, maybe it was someone really NICE with a DICK

ZombieKitten said:

Serious said:

desperate times call for desperate measures sometimes!