ZombieKitten said:

I have always been told "nothing good is ever easy".

MrsMdiver said:

possibly

I live by this one:
luck is equal parts opportunity and preparedness

MrsMdiver said:

Awww thanks for the encouragement you two . It sure ain't easy at all, but I am very willing to try my best to make it work .

ZombieKitten said:

I guess I am still trying to get fully prepared for the whole situation even though I am already in the very middle of it .

Serious said:

I think you have been mentally prepared for anything all along though

ZombieKitten said:

(emotionally is always another story )

ZombieKitten said:

I guess mentally and emotionally I am prepared for a lot, but that doesn't make it any easier if bad things might happen. When it comes to the practical side of how to organise our future together it is really hard to be prepared as there are a thousand things that would need to be organised and put into consideration and I have to do that all on my own as he is not of any help at all.

don't know the guys i've been meeting have been faking alot of the funk
i'll chill and go to a bbq but as soon as something sets me off in that r.ship im out. but im back home here with my dog
:

omg hahahaaaaa my bike was locked up somewhere for a week and it done got a flat. i couldn't git back home cuz they the busses where pushing folx off the bus and no one could get on that night.....it was crazy
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Serious said:

no, I know, but it helps you make decisions - what happens next you can only make an educated guess sometimes

ZombieKitten said:

yeah I guess that's true

Serious said:

all is fair in love and war
both fuck you up

ZombieKitten said:

Oh yes!!!!!

Serious said:

It'll be great...
You're going to be so happy!

JustErin said:

purplehippieonthe1 said:

what about you David, have you ever been in love?

chocolate1 said:

Awww thank you, I hope you are right . You are always really encouraging and uplifting !

chocolate1 said:

Paintedlady said:

Agree with this wholeheartedly. That's all I've ever wanted him to do. Show me I'm not acting in vain. Give me a reason to keep doing what I do, other than out of fear of losing you. Sometimes he did, most of the time he didn't. I hope if love ever comes my way again I will be as open and willing as I was now.

ZombieKitten said:

Yes I have (two times that I remember), but unfortunately both times it was unrequited love. The first one I became friends with and while I've had on-and-off feelings for her during the 14 years I've known her, it was only in 2007 that I finally told her how I felt, but by then she was studying in another country and she told me she wanted to stay just friends and that I was like a brother to her.

The second one, well that was just a mess.
I was starting my final semester at the uni studying political science and she was an exchange student from Italy. We quickly became friends and spent alot of time together, both at the uni and just partying and stuff, for the next 2 weeks. I was so obsessed with her, I remember being in the library walking past a girl I'd known for 15 years without saying hi, simply because I was looking for Alice (the Italian exchange student).
My birthday was coming up and I wasn't planning on celebrating, since it wasn't a big birthday, but Alice encouraged me to throw a party at my place. I was so in love with her that I was willing to overlook such things as her being a smoker, her being the least punctual person I've EVER met and the fact that she was about the same height as Prince while I'm 6'1" (186 cm.).

So in the week before my birthday she met this guy at a bar and she told me she wanted to bring a friend with to the party since she didn't know the bus system in my city. Then came the birthday party and she brought the dude and HIS friend with and she was practically making out with the guy in MY kitchen!

They quickly started dating. I tried to be her friend but then she just started to use me, i.e. she wouldn't meet me just to hang out but she would call me late at night to ask me about some work for the course we were both attending.
Then, about a month before the exams, she stopped showing up to class and her phone number stopped working and I never saw her again.

To make things even worse, in the weeks after my birthday, the radio station that was on in my workplace was always playing that damn Smokie song, "Living Next Door To Alice".. it kept reminding me of her!

chocolate1 said:

I was waiting for "him" for quite some time to get himself together and I was always afraid and in a way still am that I love him more than he loves me even though I now think that he truly loves me too. But love is probably something different for him than it is to me and sometimes he says or does things that make it really hard for me to trust him. So I know your pain and I hope you stay strong and trust that a brighter future is ahead of you, with or without him .

purplehippieonthe1 said:

those two sound like awful awful crushes

ZombieKitten said:

The one with the Italian chick was the worst, because I was hoping I could hook up with her around my birthday party, plus I could introduce her to my friends. But no, she was in my party as the girl I just knew but happened to be sitting in my kitchen in the lap of some douchebag with bleached hair and a fake tan.

purplehippieonthe1 said:

ugh,

this is for her

anyway, I liked the one who bought you a drink with the cool hair

17369.08 kilometers or 10792.64 miles.

I am from New Zealand, and my wif is from Lithuania. We lived in London for some years, then we lived in Lithuania for a while. I needed to come back to New Zealand and she came out with me.We had a lot of trouble getting her a visa to come here, and after three months she had to go back to Europe. We were apart for seven months until she was given another visa to come here. But she found it very hard here, it is very different from Europe and we had some problems and she had no one to support her. So now she has gone back to Lithuania and I am still here. We don't know what to do next, there is no future for us in her country, and New Zealand is too far from home for her. We think maybe somewhere in between. We were Ok in London, but its no place to get old together.
She wants to try Paris, and I want to try Sydney.
Hard being apart, we have been together for six years, but since we got married we have only been together 5 months out of 2 years

mostbeautifulboy said:

zaza said:

Yeah, listening to Joy Division - Atmosphere is helping

ZombieKitten said:

This one?


That was in 2006, soon after I lost contact with the Italian chick.
I haven't met the cool-hair chick since I graduated.
I think I remember what drink she bought me though, a Jack Daniels on the rocks.
I don't think I was cool enough for her, which is a shame because she's really into music just like me. It would have been so cool to hang at her place just playing records, drinking and then having wild sex on the floor.


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mostbeautifulboy said:

My bf and I are in a similar situation . It's so hard to find a way to spend time together or even live together. Visas make it pretty much impossible for us to live together all the time I guess .

purplehippieonthe1 said:

All at the same time - hell yeah!

purplehippieonthe1 said:

yeah she looks awesome!