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PrintableGenesia said: AshK said: Sometimes it's difficult to do that though if you have to see that person on a regular basis (socially or work related). Particularly if they haven't done anything wrong you just don't like them lol. Limited profile lessens the rejection. I have purged my list of everyone I work with. There were only a couple on there, but it just opens the door to all kinds of problems. "Nobody I work with" is just a blanket policy now. Makes it easy to explain why I ignored them. Yeah you're right about work, but it does feel by doing that you're saying I don't want a friendship with you ever; we're just colleagues. Some of my closest friends I met through work so I'm a little reluctant to reject some people on that basis. | |
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AshK said: HatrinaHaterwitz said: Not for me, it isn't! If I don't like you, I don't like you! If we see each other on a regular basis...you WOULD already KNOW that and wouldn't be trying to be MY friend on Facebook because you would know better.  Some people can be so dense though, or just lie lol. I deleted an ex once thinking they wouldn't notice and a month later they friend-requested me saying 'oh I accidentally deleted you', I wanted to say 'no fool I deleted your dumb ass' but didn't have the heart to do it, so just added them to my limited profile. I love that limited profile setting   We don’t mourn artists because we knew them. We mourn them because they helped us know ourselves. | |
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Number23 said: Audexia said: but isn't this the point of facebook?... to make new friends  No. It's to post pictures of yourself in flattering lighting and angles. Yes.  "I saw a woman with major Hammer pants on the subway a few weeks ago and totally thought of you." - sextonseven | |
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Why agonize over it? Click ignore. If you don't want to be friends with them then why do you give a shit what they think when you decline them? Unfortunately, people do take this Facebook shit personally. Why? Sometimes you have to  and move on. For instance, I recently got "unfriended" by someone on the org. While I like this person and I am curious to why, I'm sure they have their reasons and that's cool. I'm not getting too bent out of shape about it.Shake it til ya make it  | |
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Genesia said: ...when someone sends you a friend request on Facebook and, despite the fact that you have mutual friends, you really, really don't want to friend them?
I've gotten a lot of these lately. I keep ignoring them, but they keep sending them. Oh, for the days when you could be more or less invisible on Facebook!  I don't add them. I've had this happen 10 times in the last month alone. 3 of them are Prince fans of somekind that I don't know personally and couldn't figure who it was---if you're using Prince as your default picture on facebook, I'm probably not going to add you. 
But sometimes, I will add them just because I trust my other friend. I'll send our mutual friend an email asking for advice sometimes. Here's an example: Me to Johnart: Johnart, Genesia just sent me a friend request, but isn't she sort of mean? I mean, she's called me a dumbass at least 10 times this year alone. Johnart replying to me: She's very mean and combative, but she's also good people. I judge my friends based on their heart and not any other factors. That's why I'm friends with her now.... I mean, considering the way she dresses and all.
I added Genesia after that conversation. | |
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AshK said: HatrinaHaterwitz said: Not for me, it isn't! If I don't like you, I don't like you! If we see each other on a regular basis...you WOULD already KNOW that and wouldn't be trying to be MY friend on Facebook because you would know better. Some people can be so dense though, or just lie lol. I deleted an ex once thinking they wouldn't notice and a month later they friend-requested me saying 'oh I accidentally deleted you', I wanted to say 'no fool I deleted your dumb ass' but didn't have the heart to do it, so just added them to my limited profile. I love that limited profile setting See, that's where WE differ, because I have the HEART to say JUST THAT and not give a damn thing about it! If that's what I feel, then it is what it is and it's that way for a reason! So fuck being PC about it! Life is too short for that shit! I believe in making MY points as needed. I don't know when I'll be called home, so the way that I see it, I don't have the time to play around with what I'm feeling! Do you, while you still can!
. [Edited 4/21/10 17:31pm] I knew from the start that I loved you with all my heart. | |
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TheVoid said: Genesia said: ...when someone sends you a friend request on Facebook and, despite the fact that you have mutual friends, you really, really don't want to friend them?
I've gotten a lot of these lately. I keep ignoring them, but they keep sending them. Oh, for the days when you could be more or less invisible on Facebook! I don't add them. I've had this happen 10 times in the last month alone. 3 of them are Prince fans of somekind that I don't know personally and couldn't figure who it was---if you're using Prince as your default picture on facebook, I'm probably not going to add you.
But sometimes, I will add them just because I trust my other friend. I'll send our mutual friend an email asking for advice sometimes. Here's an example: Me to Johnart: Johnart, Genesia just sent me a friend request, but isn't she sort of mean? I mean, she's called me a dumbass at least 10 times this year alone. Johnart replying to me: She's very mean and combative, but she's also good people. I judge my friends based on their heart and not any other factors. That's why I'm friends with her now.... I mean, considering the way she dresses and all.
I added Genesia after that conversation. You friend requested me, buttmunch!  We don’t mourn artists because we knew them. We mourn them because they helped us know ourselves. | |
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Genesia said: TheVoid said: I don't add them. I've had this happen 10 times in the last month alone. 3 of them are Prince fans of somekind that I don't know personally and couldn't figure who it was---if you're using Prince as your default picture on facebook, I'm probably not going to add you.
But sometimes, I will add them just because I trust my other friend. I'll send our mutual friend an email asking for advice sometimes. Here's an example: Me to Johnart: Johnart, Genesia just sent me a friend request, but isn't she sort of mean? I mean, she's called me a dumbass at least 10 times this year alone. Johnart replying to me: She's very mean and combative, but she's also good people. I judge my friends based on their heart and not any other factors. That's why I'm friends with her now.... I mean, considering the way she dresses and all.
I added Genesia after that conversation. You friend requested me, buttmunch! "I saw a woman with major Hammer pants on the subway a few weeks ago and totally thought of you." - sextonseven | |
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Genesia said: AshK said: Sometimes it's difficult to do that though if you have to see that person on a regular basis (socially or work related). Particularly if they haven't done anything wrong you just don't like them lol. Limited profile lessens the rejection. I have purged my list of everyone I work with. There were only a couple on there, but it just opens the door to all kinds of problems. "Nobody I work with" is just a blanket policy now. Makes it easy to explain why I ignored them. Me too. | |
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Genesia said: ...when someone sends you a friend request on Facebook and, despite the fact that you have mutual friends, you really, really don't want to friend them?
I just ignore the request. I have also removed some people I've previously accepted (or even that I originally requested and they accepted). I give some people a go but then if they don't really ever interact with any of my posts or I find I really am not interested in seeing what they are up to, it's bye-bye. people who seem to remain "safe" from deletion are actual classmates/class friends (rather than people who just went to same school), childhood neighbourhood friends, family members and friends of the family, current and past work friends (rather than just colleagues who know you), and friends made in adult life. Friends seems to be the key word here which I guess is kind of the point!
I fluctuate around the 75-85 friends mark in this way. Just somewhere in the middle,
Not too good and not too bad. | |
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Dear God. I just got another one - from some guy I worked with for three months over 20 years ago. Dude - no.
Off to limbo he goes!  We don’t mourn artists because we knew them. We mourn them because they helped us know ourselves. | |
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I just ignore those friend requests. I don't even click on "ignore" I have 25 friend requests right now | |
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Ignore, usually, as I do with most group requests.
Sometimes I'm not sure so I give them a while to see if we interact much and see what it's like. MY COUSIN WORKS IN A PHARMACY AND SHE SAID THEY ENEMA'D PRANCE INTO OBLIVION WITH FENTONILS!! | |
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Fauxie said: Ignore, usually, as I do with most group requests.
Sometimes I'm not sure so I give them a while to see if we interact much and see what it's like. You removed me from your friend list!  | |
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HatrinaHaterwitz said: AshK said: Some people can be so dense though, or just lie lol. I deleted an ex once thinking they wouldn't notice and a month later they friend-requested me saying 'oh I accidentally deleted you', I wanted to say 'no fool I deleted your dumb ass' but didn't have the heart to do it, so just added them to my limited profile. I love that limited profile setting See, that's where WE differ, because I have the HEART to say JUST THAT and not give a damn thing about it! If that's what I feel, then it is what it is and it's that way for a reason! So fuck being PC about it! Life is too short for that shit! I believe in making MY points as needed. I don't know when I'll be called home, so the way that I see it, I don't have the time to play around with what I'm feeling! Do you, while you still can!
. [Edited 4/21/10 17:31pm] lol I understand what you're saying but for me it's not about being PC, it's just the difference between disliking someone (in that case I have no problem deleting/blocking/ignoring), versus feeling indifferent towards them. | |
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zaza said: Fauxie said: Ignore, usually, as I do with most group requests.
Sometimes I'm not sure so I give them a while to see if we interact much and see what it's like. You removed me from your friend list! No, surely not!
Just checked. I did too! Weird really, since you are quite active on there and I interact with you quite a bit here. I humbly ask you to consider my re-friending request. You obviously got lumped in with lazy facebooking orgers during my last cull. MY COUSIN WORKS IN A PHARMACY AND SHE SAID THEY ENEMA'D PRANCE INTO OBLIVION WITH FENTONILS!! | |
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Fauxie said: zaza said: You removed me from your friend list! No, surely not!
Just checked. I did too! Weird really, since you are quite active on there and I interact with you quite a bit here. I humbly ask you to consider my re-friending request. You obviously got lumped in with lazy facebooking orgers during my last cull. | |
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Genesia said: Dear God. I just got another one - from some guy I worked with for three months over 20 years ago. Dude - no.
Off to limbo he goes! Y'know what? I just realized I never worked with this guy. I worked with this brother. Okay, definitely no. We don’t mourn artists because we knew them. We mourn them because they helped us know ourselves. | |
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zaza said: Fauxie said: No, surely not!
Just checked. I did too! Weird really, since you are quite active on there and I interact with you quite a bit here. I humbly ask you to consider my re-friending request. You obviously got lumped in with lazy facebooking orgers during my last cull. ACCEPT MY FRIEND REQUEST! I'M FRIENDS WITH 20 OF YOUR FRIENDS!!  MY COUSIN WORKS IN A PHARMACY AND SHE SAID THEY ENEMA'D PRANCE INTO OBLIVION WITH FENTONILS!! | |
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Oh, you already did. MY COUSIN WORKS IN A PHARMACY AND SHE SAID THEY ENEMA'D PRANCE INTO OBLIVION WITH FENTONILS!! | |
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Fauxie said: zaza said: ACCEPT MY FRIEND REQUEST! I'M FRIENDS WITH 20 OF YOUR FRIENDS!! I accepted it 30 minutes ago..  | |
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Fauxie said: Oh, you already did.
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zaza said: Fauxie said: Oh, you already did.
Dude, my marriage is breaking down and I've got to put on 12 stoves worth of Rackasaurus Ribs on Cafe World so that they'll be ready in the morning when I wake up. You're going to have to cut me more slack if our FB friendship is going to stand a chance! MY COUSIN WORKS IN A PHARMACY AND SHE SAID THEY ENEMA'D PRANCE INTO OBLIVION WITH FENTONILS!! | |
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Fauxie said: zaza said: Dude, my marriage is breaking down and I've got to put on 12 stoves worth of Rackasaurus Ribs on Cafe World so that they'll be ready in the morning when I wake up. You're going to have to cut me more slack if our FB friendship is going to stand a chance! Oh, sorry to hear about your marriage  | |
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zaza said: Fauxie said: Dude, my marriage is breaking down and I've got to put on 12 stoves worth of Rackasaurus Ribs on Cafe World so that they'll be ready in the morning when I wake up. You're going to have to cut me more slack if our FB friendship is going to stand a chance! Oh, sorry to hear about your marriage It's alright. What about my ribs???? MY COUSIN WORKS IN A PHARMACY AND SHE SAID THEY ENEMA'D PRANCE INTO OBLIVION WITH FENTONILS!! | |
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Fauxie said: zaza said: Oh, sorry to hear about your marriage It's alright. What about my ribs???? I have this feeling you want more than I could offer! | |
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zaza said: Fauxie said: It's alright. What about my ribs???? I have this feeling you want more than I could offer! We are still talking about the Cafe World game on FB, right? Dude, I'm flattered, but, you know.  MY COUSIN WORKS IN A PHARMACY AND SHE SAID THEY ENEMA'D PRANCE INTO OBLIVION WITH FENTONILS!! | |
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Fauxie said: zaza said: I have this feeling you want more than I could offer! We are still talking about the Cafe World game on FB, right? Dude, I'm flattered, but, you know. Oh, those silly games 
I've never tried any. I saw my friends who are addicted to Farmville, Petville and Whateverville, but I think it's useless | |
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