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So what do YOU do... ...when someone sends you a friend request on Facebook and, despite the fact that you have mutual friends, you really, really don't want to friend them?
I've gotten a lot of these lately. I keep ignoring them, but they keep sending them. Oh, for the days when you could be more or less invisible on Facebook!  We don’t mourn artists because we knew them. We mourn them because they helped us know ourselves. | |
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Maybe change your settings so your name can't be searched out...? | |
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Can you do that again? Because you used to be able to...but then they changed it so you couldn't...? We don’t mourn artists because we knew them. We mourn them because they helped us know ourselves. | |
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Genesia said: ...when someone sends you a friend request on Facebook and, despite the fact that you have mutual friends, you really, really don't want to friend them?
why not?  | |
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Audexia said: Genesia said: ...when someone sends you a friend request on Facebook and, despite the fact that you have mutual friends, you really, really don't want to friend them?
why not? In most cases, it's because I was never friends (or even friendly) with them in real life - and would prefer that they not be privy to any part of my life now. 
Unfortunately, the tightest you can get your "friend attempt" controls on Facebook now is "friends of friends." Well, just because you're a friend of so-and-so doesn't mean you're a friend of mine, dumbass.  We don’t mourn artists because we knew them. We mourn them because they helped us know ourselves. | |
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Oh, life's tough. | |
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just hit "ignore"
no biggie. | |
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Genesia said: Audexia said: why not? In most cases, it's because I was never friends (or even friendly) with them in real life - and would prefer that they not be privy to any part of my life now.
Unfortunately, the tightest you can get your "friend attempt" controls on Facebook now is "friends of friends." Well, just because you're a friend of so-and-so doesn't mean you're a friend of mine, dumbass. but isn't this the point of facebook?... to make new friends  | |
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Audexia said: Genesia said: In most cases, it's because I was never friends (or even friendly) with them in real life - and would prefer that they not be privy to any part of my life now.
Unfortunately, the tightest you can get your "friend attempt" controls on Facebook now is "friends of friends." Well, just because you're a friend of so-and-so doesn't mean you're a friend of mine, dumbass. but isn't this the point of facebook?... to make new friends No. It's to post pictures of yourself in flattering lighting and angles. | |
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Audexia said: Genesia said: In most cases, it's because I was never friends (or even friendly) with them in real life - and would prefer that they not be privy to any part of my life now.
Unfortunately, the tightest you can get your "friend attempt" controls on Facebook now is "friends of friends." Well, just because you're a friend of so-and-so doesn't mean you're a friend of mine, dumbass. but isn't this the point of facebook?... to make new friends No. The point of facebook (for me, anyway) is to communicate with friends and acquaintances I already have or to re-connect with those I was friends with in the past, but have fallen out of touch with. And I do hit "ignore." But some of these idiots keep trying. We don’t mourn artists because we knew them. We mourn them because they helped us know ourselves. | |
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Ignore and/or block them. OR if you have to see this person a lot then accept them but only let them see your limited profile. I've set my limited profile so people who I accept can only see my basic info that they probably already know. That way you don't need to explain to them why you rejected them. | |
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Hit ignore and then send them a personal message saying that I don't want to be their friend. Harsh? Perhaps! Effective? Damn Skippy!  I knew from the start that I loved you with all my heart. | |
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HatrinaHaterwitz said: Hit ignore and then send them a personal message saying that I don't want to be their friend. Harsh? Perhaps! Effective? Damn Skippy!
I may have to employ that method with the jerk who sexually assaulted my sister in college - and thinks he's going to be my friend now. He's tried to "friend" me twice. Fucktard. We don’t mourn artists because we knew them. We mourn them because they helped us know ourselves. | |
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Click ignore.
Or leave their requests in your inbox, in 'limbo'. They can't re-request you and they can't see your profile. Or add them and then defriend them a couple of weeks later when they may not notice. (The success of this would probably depend on how many friends they have and the downside is that for that amount of time, they will get to see your profile.) Today a second cousin who was in my brother's class send me a friend request. I wasn't friends with her in high school, and in fact, I actively disliked her older sister, who was closer to my age. Argh. I will probably add her and then delete her in a month or so. It's probably easier to 'keep the peace' since she's family and all. The check. The string he dropped. The Mona Lisa. The musical notes taken out of a hat. The glass. The toy shotgun painting. The things he found. Therefore, everything seen–every object, that is, plus the process of looking at it–is a Duchamp. | |
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AshK said: Ignore and/or block them. OR if you have to see this person a lot then accept them but only let them see your limited profile. I've set my limited profile so people who I accept can only see my basic info that they probably already know. That way you don't need to explain to them why you rejected them.
Ooh, setting a limited profile is a great idea, maybe I'll do that. I do employ customized lists for some of my photo albums. The check. The string he dropped. The Mona Lisa. The musical notes taken out of a hat. The glass. The toy shotgun painting. The things he found. Therefore, everything seen–every object, that is, plus the process of looking at it–is a Duchamp. | |
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jone70 said: Click ignore.
Or leave their requests in your inbox, in 'limbo'. They can't re-request you and they can't see your profile. Or add them and then defriend them a couple of weeks later when they may not notice. (The success of this would probably depend on how many friends they have and the downside is that for that amount of time, they will get to see your profile.) Today a second cousin who was in my brother's class send me a friend request. I wasn't friends with her in high school, and in fact, I actively disliked her older sister, who was closer to my age. Argh. I will probably add her and then delete her in a month or so. It's probably easier to 'keep the peace' since she's family and all. Okay...I wondered what just leaving them in limbo would do. Thanks! In some cases, I can refuse the request and tell them I've done it. Like with my 9-year-old nephew - who shouldn't be on there in the first place (don't get me started). We don’t mourn artists because we knew them. We mourn them because they helped us know ourselves. | |
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Genesia said: HatrinaHaterwitz said: Hit ignore and then send them a personal message saying that I don't want to be their friend. Harsh? Perhaps! Effective? Damn Skippy!
I may have to employ that method with the jerk who sexually assaulted my sister in college - and thinks he's going to be my friend now. He's tried to "friend" me twice. Fucktard. Oh hell to the naw! You should have BEEN told that Simple Son Of a Bitch, where to go and how to get there! If he keeps it up, orgnote me his name. He'll leave Facebook altogether by the time I'm through with his stankin' ass! I am so serious!  I knew from the start that I loved you with all my heart. | |
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Genesia said: Can you do that again? Because you used to be able to...but then they changed it so you couldn't...?
Oh, I thought you could. Maybe not now! | |
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Genesia said: ...when someone sends you a friend request on Facebook and, despite the fact that you have mutual friends, you really, really don't want to friend them?
I've gotten a lot of these lately. I keep ignoring them, but they keep sending them. Don't friend them. They'll eventually get the hint. Facebook is the perfect place to be passive/aggressive w/ those things. You can block the person. The blocking disables them from even SEEING you. You won't show up in searches, nor will they be able to get at you in any other fashion or way. I think you won't even show up on a Friends Of list should they look. | |
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HatrinaHaterwitz said: Hit ignore and then send them a personal message saying that I don't want to be their friend. Harsh? Perhaps! Effective? Damn Skippy!
Sometimes it's difficult to do that though if you have to see that person on a regular basis (socially or work related). Particularly if they haven't done anything wrong you just don't like them lol. Limited profile lessens the rejection. | |
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ernestsewell said: Genesia said: ...when someone sends you a friend request on Facebook and, despite the fact that you have mutual friends, you really, really don't want to friend them?
I've gotten a lot of these lately. I keep ignoring them, but they keep sending them. Don't friend them. They'll eventually get the hint. Facebook is the perfect place to be passive/aggressive w/ those things. You can block the person. The blocking disables them from even SEEING you. You won't show up in searches, nor will they be able to get at you in any other fashion or way. I think you won't even show up on a Friends Of list should they look. Can you give me the pathway for a block? Thanks! We don’t mourn artists because we knew them. We mourn them because they helped us know ourselves. | |
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Never mind - I found it. Thanks!  We don’t mourn artists because we knew them. We mourn them because they helped us know ourselves. | |
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Have them killed. | |
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Genesia said: Never mind - I found it. Thanks!
Just for those who don't know - you can find it in the left column under the person's profile you want to block. | |
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johnart said: Have them killed.
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Okay...one scuzzball blocked. I feel better now. We don’t mourn artists because we knew them. We mourn them because they helped us know ourselves. | |
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AshK said: HatrinaHaterwitz said: Hit ignore and then send them a personal message saying that I don't want to be their friend. Harsh? Perhaps! Effective? Damn Skippy!
Sometimes it's difficult to do that though if you have to see that person on a regular basis (socially or work related). Particularly if they haven't done anything wrong you just don't like them lol. Limited profile lessens the rejection. Not for me, it isn't! If I don't like you, I don't like you! If we see each other on a regular basis...you WOULD already KNOW that and wouldn't be trying to be MY friend on Facebook because you would know better.  I knew from the start that I loved you with all my heart. | |
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I only ever had trepidation about accepting one request and it was from a member in my own family. | |
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AshK said: HatrinaHaterwitz said: Hit ignore and then send them a personal message saying that I don't want to be their friend. Harsh? Perhaps! Effective? Damn Skippy!
Sometimes it's difficult to do that though if you have to see that person on a regular basis (socially or work related). Particularly if they haven't done anything wrong you just don't like them lol. Limited profile lessens the rejection. I have purged my list of everyone I work with. There were only a couple on there, but it just opens the door to all kinds of problems. "Nobody I work with" is just a blanket policy now. Makes it easy to explain why I ignored them. We don’t mourn artists because we knew them. We mourn them because they helped us know ourselves. | |
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HatrinaHaterwitz said: AshK said: Sometimes it's difficult to do that though if you have to see that person on a regular basis (socially or work related). Particularly if they haven't done anything wrong you just don't like them lol. Limited profile lessens the rejection. Not for me, it isn't! If I don't like you, I don't like you! If we see each other on a regular basis...you WOULD already KNOW that and wouldn't be trying to be MY friend on Facebook because you would know better. Some people can be so dense though, or just lie lol. I deleted an ex once thinking they wouldn't notice and a month later they friend-requested me saying 'oh I accidentally deleted you', I wanted to say 'no fool I deleted your dumb ass' but didn't have the heart to do it, so just added them to my limited profile. I love that limited profile setting  | |
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