JustErin said:

Why not take your son and go hang out there for a few days? He will have fun being with his cousins and you can check things out and see how you feel about it then.

If you can go to school in the new place, do it. The financial relief from your parents is worth the two-year swap to get your schooling goals done. If you work part time during that time, save every penny, or every bit of a living stipend you might quality for, so when you are done with school and want to move back to wherever, you have a financial jumping pad. Your son can still be around his grandparents, and you can be closer to your sibling(s) for a while too. Consider it an educational vacation. Nothing in life is permanent, including their offer.

personally, i've always been hell-bent on making my own way apart from my folks (they don't even live on the same continent!) and i'd rather die than revisit my past by living in some awful place i grew up in, but then i don't have a child to look after, either...

PANDURITO said:

I wish it was just that. I just couldn't deal with narrow minded people who had never even ventured out of city limits.

But my friends there now swear that it's grown and not the same.

whistle said:

My parents have good relationships with their kids and to be honest, they're all I have in terms of a support system when it comes to helping me with my son. I have made my own way the best I can already and they simply want to continue being my support. Knowing that I was trying to do better for myself (on my own) they just want to help more.

Go for it. Sounds like a good opportunity. As far as your surroundings and all that, surely you've got it in you to make the best of it. It's a challenge!

Fauxie said:

How will she survive on the Isle of Lesbos?

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

Wtf?

JustErin said:

Well if you go from 500,000 eligible men to just 50,000 it would the same thing as you becoming a dyke to satisfy your needs!

I would definitely give it a try. You never know...it could lead to LOTS of great opportunities

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

Honey, I'd be going down to like 5 men...it's not like my type of dude is common there.

I would try it out again hun.

JustErin said:

"Honey"

who knows, you might get into a 'scene', or a sense of 'camarardery'.

i live in a town of less than 40,000, and the only distraction is being 'part of the town', rather than so many peoples you don't know what to do with.

also, numbers are de-humanizing. I'm sure you'll readjust to your new environment.

Cx

Growing up in a small town fucking sucks and I wouldn't wish it on your kid.

But if you could just do it for a couple of years and then take off again. . .

Mars23 said:

hmm...it seems like an easy choice, and most people on this thread are saying to go for it. but i can understand your reasons for not wanting to. if you didn't get along with your family, then i would say NO WAY, DON'T DO IT! but since you do get along with your family, and you already have friends there. and you'll be going to college, then if i were you, i would so GO FOR IT! it's only for a few years and you can move after that if you aren't happy. and what's funny is, you think you won't meet a great guy who is your type there, but i have the feeling you will. i really do hope whatever choice you make will lead you to happiness. you and your son take care.

JustErin said:

Oh god, the absolute worst. I'm trying to get the fuck away from the same city as my parents and towns like that....so my opinion isn't helpful. lol

I moved away from my small home town when I was 17 or so. I Vowed never to return! Stayed in Glasgow then Edinburgh until early thirties.

Moved back for a few reasons, family all here (four grandparents for the girls!), education, cost of living/housing, etc, etc...

It's worked out pretty good so far. Girls are settled, school is good (went their myself), and we know who the bad families are so we can veto boyfriends!

Plus the usual city/country pros and cons.

So I'd say do it!

Wow, how exciting and scary!

If I were you I would go but I am always up for a change and new adventure.
I realise that it is harder to do that when you have a small person to think about.

At least you know that it might only be a temporary thing and a stepping stone to something better for you and your son.

Best of luck figuring out what you are going to do. It is really hard making the decision, once you decide and start making plans, it will be exciting!

mcmeekle said:

My, you're older than I thought. That's before the last Great War.

JustErin said:

I say go anyway. Just wait for me to visit before you move.

And prepare to possibly be celibate for the entire time you're there.

sextonseven said:

Ya, I think I will have to.

But it's really still 50/50 at this point and the more I thought about it last night the more I felt like going was a bad idea.

the jury is hung.

0x41414141 said:

if it was she'd have already moved!

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

My parents are taking me out to dinner to discuss things. This should be interesting. In the meantime their house went up for sale yesterday.

JustErin said:

So much for them moving without you

Good luck! Oh, can't they just help you out to live where you're living?

Oh, they are moving period. They want to downsize as they find their house to big for just the two of them. They just are not sure if they want to buy here or elsewhere.

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

you are very good at ||reading|| :p