prb said:

The sad thing is that bride will one day show her kids that picture!? I can't even think what would grandma say?
I mean they are nice apples and all, but there is a time and a place. Just saying.

kewlschool said:

WHAT....THE.....FUCK.....her folks actually paid for that shit.....jesus...


The groom should have dressed as Bishop Don "Magic" Juan.

uPtoWnNY said:

That dress is sooooo not cute....

peacenlovealways said:

the dress is nice, just a tad small up top

maybe the dress shrunk when she washed it? it does look a tad polyester.

Fauxie said:

I thought of another reason this morning when my husband and I were getting ready together. I was putting on my makeup, and as usual we were joking around together, and he was making me laugh so hard I stuck my mascara wand in my eye.

Those are the indescribable moments that make marriage such a valuable thing to me. Having someone who just gets me, who is around all the time to make me laugh and just make me feel good with his presence.

The private jokes, the shared sense of humor, the songs we love to listen to in the car.

Knowing how he likes his sandwiches made, and watching him enjoy them.

Having all my laundry done because we've split up the household tasks fairly. I HATE doing laundry! I can't overstate to you guys how nice it is to have an in-house laundry service.

Watching our kids act like maniacs, and just looking at each other, not having to say anything because we know what the other is thinking. This is our family, this is our life, and nothing compares. If he were just my boyfriend, it wouldn't be the same, and I can't explain why, it just is.

I'm married, and yeah good question! ???

DesireeNevermind said:

I think she has it on backwards.

DesireeNevermind said:

Lmao. What about those old love songs from the 60's and 70's? I know I'm not gunna play something like "wanting to fuck the taste outta your mouth" when I'm getting married

I'm playing Smokey Robinson, Stevie Wonder, EWF. Dem artist make you believe marriage is possible

PunkMistress said:

Yeah, but you can have all that stuff without the piece of paper telling you you're married, right? (If you're not against co-habitation.) A grad school friend who got married last summer was recently visiting and she said essentially the same thing, "It's just different." I don't get it. If you trust someone enough to marry them and trust that you are not going to get divorced then why marry at all -- that trust should still be there without the paper, right? I mean, I get there are certain legal benefits (I guess) but I think you can do a will or power of attorney to grant them essentially the same rights and it's probably a lot easier to change.

I'm not trying to pick on you personally by asking this stuff, but you said the same thing as my friend and I am wondering what makes it different other than the piece of paper.

PunkMistress said:

I don't know about all that now.

PunkMistress said:

I want your relationship! Well, a relationship like yours!

JerseyKRS said:

It was inexpensive compared to the average American wedding by far! By our standards it was a lot to spend on one day, but we saved a ton of money on everything but the food - which is where the $$$ should go!


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PunkMistress said:

So true! The reception/food is the most important part. The wedding is for the bride/groom, but the reception is the party they HOST for their guests. It's what most people remember, for better or worse (pun intended).

jone70 said:

My simplistic answer is probably social conditioning. Getting married is what people do when they want to be together forever and raise a family together. It's a tradition with a long history and a lot of weight. It's not about "a piece of paper," but more wanting to be a part of that tradition and have that security.

It also has something to do with the way the world views your relationship. We all love to say we don't give a fuck what others think, but really, most of us do, to a degree. Why do gay people fight for their right to marry? As you said, marriage won't make their relationships more loving or trusting. But it does lend a validity and a seriousness to the relationship in other people's eyes that, in most societies, only a marriage gets.

TD3 said:

Sorry!

You can't knock the free gifts though. Best part of any wedding...that and the music and free drinks.

DesireeNevermind said:

Lawd!! What are we going to do with you.

You crash weddings don't you?

DesireeNevermind said:

And so he gets bored and tired of the new wife, she's all worn out, he finds someone new, and so this goes on and on till he dies. It's one vicious circle so why marry if you're gonna lose your looks, right?

TD3 said:

The economy is tough...besides I'm sure I'm on the list...I came with her!

tinaz said:

Ahhhh!!! Congrats to you!!!!

DesireeNevermind said:

Naw I'm not agreeing with you. You are asking "why do women get married" and your reasons are based on what on only what SOME women do or hold in high importance in order to get married. The first three reasons I listed were reasons in which most women that I've seen personally or been around have used marriage as an excuse but keep in mind that these women were either insecure or needy and dependable. Yes in this day and age most marriages end in divorce, but why would I let statistics deter me from getting married? That's silly to me. I have faith in marriage, but I also do believe that if you have tried in your heart and soul to make a relationship work when it just doesn't, then yes, divorce is an option, but it doesn't always have to be the SOLE option. Maybe you don't believe in soul mates and that's fine, but I do. I personally would love to marry my boyfriend in a ceremony before God while we are both proclaiming our love for one another. It is important to both of us. If you wish to stay single just because the divorce rate is high, then be my guest, it's your decision and your life and you chose to live it the way you see fit. I just don't base my opinions on statistics, I base them on personal experience and how much faith I hold in my heart. I really don't understand how you can say that men benefit more than women in a marriage though...could you elaborate a little?

Because Larry King tells them to
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DesireeNevermind said:

Naw I didn't, I grew up admiring the marriages of my parents and my grandparents. And trust me it all wasn't roses, when my parents married it was their 2nd marriage for both. They still had faith in finding love again and didn't let their first failed marriages deter them from "ever marrying again". And my grandparents have been married for 62 years. And trust me they have been through the ringer, infidelity and all, but they survived it and moved past it. Sure they could have given up, but didn't. It's about how much faith you have in it. Some people are content with just living together for 20+ years and thats fine as long as they are happy and it works for them. All I'm saying is, just because there is a high divorce rate, that's not a good enough reason for me to avoid marriage.
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missfee said:

Thanks so much for sharing their stories.

PunkMistress said:

I can relate to this.

Fauxie said:

I'm happy for you and Mon.

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PunkMistress said:

And we for you and Chris.

Isn't this nice.