now for the guys who are happily married...congrats keep it up

for the single guys...why would u do it? over half end in divorce, you usually get kicked out your own house, lose half of whatever you achieved while you were married, have to pay alimony/child support, and everything will be your fault.
women are brought up to get ready for marriage, whereas men are taught to avoid it until you have to do it...
whyyyyy?

Fury said:

I'm a woman, so I can't speak on behalf of the men, but I suppose that, like women they get married bacause they love their partner and hope that they don't end up as one of the divorce statistics.

Not every man is brought up to fear marriage - I guess it may have something to do with their own family dynamics, growing up: if their parents are happily married, then they're more likely to be less fearful of saying 'i do' than those whose parents can't be in the same postcode/zip code as each other

Because i'm stoopid.
Now, I just clarify that i've never been married.
I've been engaged twice now.
The older i get, the less likely it seems. And i'm totally fine with it.
So my head says that I wouldn't, but if i met someone and got all caught up then who knows what might happen?

I think society makes it the norm for people who are single to want to get married, so it makes sense, a lot of guys would feel the same way. Though some do like to mess around. Personally, i think the idea of someone understanding you and helping you eventually build a family is one of the most unique and cool things that could happen in a person's life... so there!

CoolTarik1 said:

Fury said:

People ask me all the time why I'm single4life. I tell them, I'd rather be alone than miserable for the rest of my life. I love the women, but I can't live with 'em - don't need the drama. Plus I have no desire to be a father, and I'm not losing 'HALF'!

As far as I'm concerned marriage is very cool. It's fun, rewarding, a real challenge. With the right person it's just all so engaging, so interesting, that I could never wish to be single again.

Fauxie said:

Mega dittoes.

[sarcasm]Plus you get sex whenever you want! [/sarcasm]

Fauxie said:

As it should be.

But speaking about some of the men I know, they married because their families expected them to and most of them were simply not ready for it.

But other men I know married because they truly wanted to spend the rest of their lives with their wives.

I forced my husband to marry me and if he ever trys to leave me i'll kill him


that's just how I roll

Mach said:

kewlschool said:

kewlschool said:

I think some men get married because they actually want to.

I think others (maybe the majority) get married & have kids because the woman wants to--and they love the woman & want to please her & not lose her. They might not have any specific desire to get married, but maybe they don't have major objections, so they go along with it.

I think other people just do stuff without thinking about consequences--like Larry King. The option is there, they just do it. I am the opposite. I don't do anything. And I am not married!

NDRU said:

...and Tiger Woods.

Men marry because they don't want some other dude getting his grubby little hands on what is supposed to be theirs. Plain and simple.

Society is set up to help men achieve and prosper so a divorce, although financially devastating at first, is just a temporary set back. Most divorced men will likely marry again. Plus you got somebody to cook for you, do your laundry, clean your house, birth your brats and fuck you when your girlfriend is on the rag.



**losing faith with every passing day**

DesireeNevermind said:

DesireeNevermind said:

jeez! so maybe women shouldn't get married I'm not married and I cook for my gf all the time & don't cheat.

NDRU said:

don't let the single ladies hear you say that.

I think, it's best to be honest with others and yourself about what you want, don't want, and how you wish to live your life. I'm always amazed when married people pepper single people with 50 f'in questions about why they aren't married. Most never seem to satisfied with, because I don't won't to be married. A lot of people get themselves in trouble when they aren't honest about their motives and/or haven't seriously thought about the required responsibility of married life and children. Men don't have a monopoly on this type of self-deception / deception. Marriages fall to pieces for numerous reasons, in many instances it's not the fault of one person.

Having said that....

I would think a significant number of men get married because they want to. If you come in with a mindset this is mine, this is yours, I bought this, you didn't buy that, or if you get a divorce and some of your income (gasp) has to go to support your children.... your selfish.

Wonder why it went south.....

TD3 said:

The story of my life.

pressure. No other reason. Oh, to have a guaranteed sex partner. That's it though

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

Are you kidding me?? Most married men I know complain that they never get any from their wives!

JustErin said:

You get a sex partner, just no sex

JustErin said:

Those dudes are lying to you so they can get your goodies. I mean would you willingly fuck a dude who claimed his wife was the best thing since sliced bread, he just wants to sex you up but you don't mean a thing to him and he would never leave her and his kids for you? Come on....guys need a sob story to get at that extramarital pussy. We dames almost always fall for it too.

DesireeNevermind said:

I'm not fucking any of them, nor are they trying to get me to fuck them.

JustErin said:

**side eye** you are too attractive for me to buy into this.

NDRU said:

exactly

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

Here we go!

Spoken from experience, no doubt.