evenstar3 said:

evenstar3 said:

No it isn't

Yeah I Do

Dave1992 said:

You stupid!

Cinnie said:

helloooo, if you like geeky boys it is

Shoewhore said:

Thanks!
I'm still hoping... I guess I just fall for the wrong kinds of guys.

Shoewhore said:

My ex has been my very best friend for 20 years, words cannot describe how much it hurts to see that he hardly cares about me anymore . He still means so much to me and he seems to wish I never existed . I had 17 happy years with him, but those are not worth the pain that I am going through now having lost his love. I don't think that pain will ever go away. He left me about 1 1/2 years ago and I am with somebody else who I love so very, very much, still it doesn't hurt any less than it did back then .

Dave1992 said:

Gawd, yer a step ahead of me.

Serious said:

I completely understand.

TheVoid said:

Yep. I have had a small number of wonderfully close friendships that would probably qualify as 'soul-mates' Although there was a sexual aspect to each of them (that had nothing to do with their genders or orientation), there was never any actual sex.

chocolate1 said:

Thank you . I just wish that pain would go away one day . For nearly 3 years since I first met the man who is now my bf my life has been a constant never ending nightmare .

Serious said:

seeingvoices12 said:

Thank you a lot . I have been trying since then to find a way to be happy again but it seems like a battle I cannot win. And somehow I already knew that that day, but was just hoping I was wrong. When I was flying back home from the vacation where I met him I just wished that plane would crash into the sea and looking back I still wish that would have happened if it was not for all the other people inside who I would not want to be hurt/killed .

Serious said:

You WILL win that battle and things WILL get better! Maybe not today or tomorrow or even next month, but eventually little by little things will improve until one day that ache will just be a little twinge and then the next thing you know you'll wonder why you ever believed it mattered.

Shoewhore said:

Thank you for your words . But I guess I am just different and it will take me at least some more years to get over that and I don't know how much strength I have left. My "new life" and my new relationship are extremely complicated in so many ways and we probably will only see each other some weeks/months each year . And My ex-bf was my everything. My best friend, my family, my lover, my other half. We were so very close I remember a friend once said it appeared to him as if we had almost become one person instead of 2 individuals. A part of me died when he left .

insatiable3 said:

No and no.

Do you believe in love at first sight? No. Impossible. But I believe in lust at first site.

Do you believe in soul mates? I don't even know what that means...like someone that is so good with you that they compliment you who you are (but not complete you). If so, then sure....I guess. But it's not like I believe in some silly BS about there being one perfect person for you.

have you ever experienced something like my story? No

JustErin said:

JustErin said:

It may be impossible for you, but I have experienced it. It was so much more than lust at first sight. I knew within minutes that he would be the only man on earth who I could imagine to have children with. And I never ever could have imagined to have a child in my life before. If he would have asked some minutes after we met to marry him I would have said yes if I was not in a very happy relationship at that time.

Serious said:

Oh, ok.

We definitely have different definitions of "love" then.

JustErin said:

I don't know if our definitions would be so different, I guess we mostly fall in love differently.

Serious said:

I don't "fall in love". I either grow to love someone or I don't. I personally don't believe in romantic love - it's infatuation or obsession that may lead to love - which by definition (to me) is just really caring about someone very, very deeply.

So without knowing someone, I see it as impossible to truly love someone.

There is a really strong natural bond that (most) parents feel towards their children - guess that's the closest being "in love" in my opinion.

JustErin said:

That's what I always say.

Lust at first sight yes!
Love at first sight, NO

Love and sex are very seperate things! You can't love somebody when you don't know them.

you see nice looking guy and it's love at first sight? U WUVS HIM?

.....oh by the by, he was verbally abusive to his ex wife and is a dead beat dad. You still love him? ReallY?

joseph8 said:

Exactly.

joseph8 said:

JustErin said:

If I fall in love at first sight I care about that person very deeply from the very beginning even though I don't know him. I have never in my life fallen in love with somebody and some weeks later found out he was not all that. And I have never grown to love someone who I wasn't fascinated one way or another from the first moment. It's just an instinct, a special connection I feel, it's not about the man being hot or not. It's just like I loved my niece and nephew from the minute they were born without knowing them. No matter if my nephew might one day hit his future wife, I will still love him. It's the same when I fall in love with a man. The sexual attraction is just an additional aspect of it. But I know that I am different to most people when it comes to that.

JustErin said:

Totally disagree. There's also a line of being "in love" and "loving" someone at first sight.

I think you can love someone at first sight, easily. God gives us that ability. As far as being "in love"....well even that starts with love.

I was in love with Twinkies the moment I saw one.

joseph8 said:

That's true but they also say love is "blind"