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PrintableNo and no. Soulmate is a term people give their relationship to make it feel special or unique  but relationships are what you make of them, not what destiny has created for you.Shake it til ya make it  | |
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peacenlovealways said: Cinnie said: That's just the thing with life.. you can't "wait" on fate to bring "your king" to you. Don't "wait"; get looking! And while you're looking, you will find that actually you're compatible with more than just (The) One. I have like a description of him in my head...it's pretty sad really. His body type, height, back ground, clothing style, hair color, facial features. His personality...no wonder I'm single.  I know exactly what you mean, lol. In my case, it's like a standard/ideal man that doesn't exist outside of movies.  I don't feel sad about it though, and being single doesn't bother me either.  I'd rather get exactly what I want or remain single forever than be desperate and settle for the sake of "being with somebody."  [Edited 4/16/10 21:59pm] "You put water into a cup, it becomes the cup...Now water can flow or it can crash. Be water, my friend." - Bruce Lee
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WaterInYourBath said: peacenlovealways said: I have like a description of him in my head...it's pretty sad really. His body type, height, back ground, clothing style, hair color, facial features. His personality...no wonder I'm single. I know exactly what you mean, lol. In my case, it's like a standard/ideal that doesn't exist outside of movies. I don't feel sad about it though, and being single doesn't bother me either. I'd rather get exactly what I want or remain single forever than be desperate and settle for the sake of "being with somebody." your needs have to be met by a combination of physical characteristics though? | |
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Cinnie said: WaterInYourBath said: I know exactly what you mean, lol. In my case, it's like a standard/ideal man that doesn't exist outside of movies. I don't feel sad about it though, and being single doesn't bother me either. I'd rather get exactly what I want or remain single forever than be desperate and settle for the sake of "being with somebody." your needs have to be met by a combination of physical characteristics though? Uhh...well, yes. Physical (appearance), mental, emotional, spiritual, all of those characteristics. Also, he would have to be 100% loyal/monogamous to me like I would be to him. 
They say everyone has a certain "type." Well, I rarely ever see mine. And if I do, he's either with someone else, or I'm not his type. Maybe in the future this "dream man" for me will come along, who knows, but I'm not worried about it. Being single is very easy, at least for me. And also, it's not really my "need." I don't "need" to be in a relationship, you know? Some folks just HAVE to be with someone for various reasons, or, they succumb to pressure to be with a person, but I don't. However, I congratulate people, like insatiable3, who do find a perfect [Teddy Pendergrass voice] "50-50 love" match to marry and to love/be loved faithfully forever. That's nice news, and not very common.  "You put water into a cup, it becomes the cup...Now water can flow or it can crash. Be water, my friend." - Bruce Lee
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johnart said: I believe in "Wanna Fuck" at first sight. Not Love.
That comes with knowing a person. True. >> | |
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HamsterHuey said: johnart said: I believe in "Wanna Fuck" at first sight. Not Love.
That comes with knowing a person. True. Wanna fuck? | |
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I believe in pheromones. a psychotic is someone who just figured out what's going on | |
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I don't believe in love anymore. I hope love will come out and show me I'm wrong one day. | |
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Cinnie said: HamsterHuey said: True. Wanna fuck? Sure, come on over! >> | |
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HamsterHuey said: johnart said: I believe in "Wanna Fuck" at first sight. Not Love.
That comes with knowing a person. True. I would have to agree with these two handsome men on this one. I fell in love with my hubby before I knew what he looked like. I had an image of him from only seeing a small photo of him in his avie. I thought he was some young punk kid trying to be all that. SOOOOO not my type. I was not teh least bit interested in being any more than friends with him at first. I usually find that love finds us when we least expect it. I do not fall in love with just the looks of a person but their entire package. When I was a lot younger I only focused on looks, that was never a good thing for me. I used to believe in soul mates but not so much anymore. I have my one true love now, we are as one. Not just the soul is connected this time. | |
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I fell in love with my bf at first sight  . Without talking on word I was already completely blown away . And when we first talked some minutes later I fell for him even more . I was in a very happy relationship at that time and he was in a relationship too. Now after all kind of troubles and drama we are finally together a long time after we first met and it ain't easy at all because he lives at the other end of the world and our personalities and backgrounds don't match at all. But we love each other like crazy and yes to me it feels like if it was my destiny to meet him. Even if it won't last I know that he will always be the love of my life. The one person you meet that changes the way you look at life completely. The one man who I only knew for some minutes whose kids I could have imagined to have even though I never ever thought about having kids in my life before for one second and I was 39 when I met him. It sounds crazy, but true love is crazy anyway IMO.
I usually always fall in love at first sight, but with him it was the most intense of all the cases when it happened in my life. If I am not completely fascinated by someone immediately it is very likely I won't be later either. And I hardly ever see somebody who I just wanna fuck. I am extremely picky. With a very special thank you to Tina: Is hammer already absolute, how much some people verändern...ICH hope is never so I will be! And if, then I hope that I would then have wen in my environment who joins me in the A.... | |
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You can never tell if something is forever because you can never get to forever.
I can tell u that I saw a girl on the very first day of university and it was as if another persn spoke in my head and told me "you are going to go out with that girl", sure enough 2 weeks later we became an item, 5 years later we bought a house, a fe year later married. Few more tears and we had kids... Not spent more than 4 days apart in all that time whAtever it was it was at first sight, seemed inevitable and is still gong strong | |
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TheVoid said: I believe we have several soulmates, and a fraction of those involve sexual feelings towards each other.
I consider many of my closest friends soulmates. Hell, I have soulmates I'e met here on the org. But if the specific context of "the one perfect person" for you, I don't really believe that--I believe there are many...perhaps thousands of 'perfect' people for you. And I believe that sometimes you have the perfect person but the timing is just not right---it's a crap shoot, but I'm starting to see it as quite beautiful. i totally agree with this. 
for me, attraction only intensifies once i get to know someone's personality- i used to see the guy i'm currently seeing on a daily basis and never thought of him beyond "oh, he's cute", and now i can't even look at him without my pulse going crazy. | |
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insatiable3 said: I took a trip down memory lane today.... my client wanted to know the story about how I met my husband. to make a long story short .. I told her I new I was meant to be with him because I had met him when I was six months into my very first long term relationship.. and at the time thought he was sweet and cute but was so into my first love I never really looked into it. needless to say after that I never saw him again till 4yrs later... when I got invited to a party and he was the host.. we both had just gotten out of long term relationships within the last 5 months.. that night we reminisced about the first time we met and I knew from that moment on that we would be inseparable and he was the one for me... now I have been with him for 5 years and married a year and I couldn't imagine life without him by my side . he is everything anyone could hope for in a person! hes my husband, my lover ,my best friend...
So now since I told my sappy love story to you all.... I wanted to ask you romantics and non-romantics Do you believe in love at first sight? Do you believe in soul mates? have you ever experienced something like my story? if you have and if you wanna share tell me about it... I believe you can feel strongly attracted to somebody at first sight, but it's not love until you meet them. I've had something like that happen to me, but when we found out more about each other I realised I never loved and never could love that person. I may have loved an illusion I made, but not him for who he was. So I think "love at first sight" doesn't necessarily mean love. Soul mates... I don't believe in that concept. I don't think there is only one person who would qualify. There are a few. I have experienced the feeling of incredible connection with more than one person. Not with many, but more than one. By the way, I couldn't stand two of them when I first met them, but with time my feelings took a completely unexpected turn. So, there was no love at first sight with them and I feel a much stronger connection with them compared to the one with those I "fell in love with" at first sight. All in all, I think there are a few people we can experience an amazing connection with, and each one of them is special and unique and feels differently. Sometimes it can seem that one of those that I met may be the most complete of all, but I still can't fully accept that concept. I think things are a bit more complex than that. |
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Aelis said: insatiable3 said: I took a trip down memory lane today.... my client wanted to know the story about how I met my husband. to make a long story short .. I told her I new I was meant to be with him because I had met him when I was six months into my very first long term relationship.. and at the time thought he was sweet and cute but was so into my first love I never really looked into it. needless to say after that I never saw him again till 4yrs later... when I got invited to a party and he was the host.. we both had just gotten out of long term relationships within the last 5 months.. that night we reminisced about the first time we met and I knew from that moment on that we would be inseparable and he was the one for me... now I have been with him for 5 years and married a year and I couldn't imagine life without him by my side . he is everything anyone could hope for in a person! hes my husband, my lover ,my best friend...
So now since I told my sappy love story to you all.... I wanted to ask you romantics and non-romantics Do you believe in love at first sight? Do you believe in soul mates? have you ever experienced something like my story? if you have and if you wanna share tell me about it... I believe you can feel strongly attracted to somebody at first sight, but it's not love until you meet them. I've had something like that happen to me, but when we found out more about each other I realised I never loved and never could love that person. I may have loved an illusion I made, but not him for who he was. So I think "love at first sight" doesn't necessarily mean love. Soul mates... I don't believe in that concept. I don't think there is only one person who would qualify. There are a few. I have experienced the feeling of incredible connection with more than one person. Not with many, but more than one. By the way, I couldn't stand two of them when I first met them, but with time my feelings took a completely unexpected turn. So, there was no love at first sight with them and I feel a much stronger connection with them compared to the one with those I "fell in love with" at first sight. All in all, I think there are a few people we can experience an amazing connection with, and each one of them is special and unique and feels differently. Sometimes it can seem that one of those that I met may be the most complete of all, but I still can't fully accept that concept. I think things are a bit more complex than that. But we also love our children from the moment they are born without knowing them. Nobody says that you can only love them once you get to know them better, you just do. I don't have any children on my own, but when my niece and nephew were born I just loved them the moment I saw them without having any idea about their personalities. It's the same when I fall in love with a man at first sight. I see him and I love him without really knowing him. I just feel a connection with him that is much more than wanting to fuck him. He just touches my heart. Getting to know him better may change how I see him, but even if I learn that it is better not to be with him I would still love him. But I guess it is very different for everybody and I am probably not typical. Love is just magic and cannot be explained properly anyway IMO. With a very special thank you to Tina: Is hammer already absolute, how much some people verändern...ICH hope is never so I will be! And if, then I hope that I would then have wen in my environment who joins me in the A.... | |
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Dave1992 said: No.
Consider yourself lucky! With a very special thank you to Tina: Is hammer already absolute, how much some people verändern...ICH hope is never so I will be! And if, then I hope that I would then have wen in my environment who joins me in the A.... | |
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Serious said: Aelis said: I believe you can feel strongly attracted to somebody at first sight, but it's not love until you meet them. I've had something like that happen to me, but when we found out more about each other I realised I never loved and never could love that person. I may have loved an illusion I made, but not him for who he was. So I think "love at first sight" doesn't necessarily mean love. Soul mates... I don't believe in that concept. I don't think there is only one person who would qualify. There are a few. I have experienced the feeling of incredible connection with more than one person. Not with many, but more than one. By the way, I couldn't stand two of them when I first met them, but with time my feelings took a completely unexpected turn. So, there was no love at first sight with them and I feel a much stronger connection with them compared to the one with those I "fell in love with" at first sight. All in all, I think there are a few people we can experience an amazing connection with, and each one of them is special and unique and feels differently. Sometimes it can seem that one of those that I met may be the most complete of all, but I still can't fully accept that concept. I think things are a bit more complex than that. But we also love our children from the moment they are born without knowing them. Nobody says that you can only love them once you get to know them better, you just do. I don't have any children on my own, but when my niece and nephew were born I just loved them the moment I saw them without having any idea about their personalities. It's the same when I fall in love with a man at first sight. I see him and I love him without really knowing him. I just feel a connection with him that is much more than wanting to fuck him. He just touches my heart. Getting to know him better may change how I see him, but even if I learn that it is better not to be with him I would still love him. But I guess it is very different for everybody and I am probably not typical. Love is just magic and cannot be explained properly anyway IMO. That's not the same. That's a different kind of connection that neither one of us two has experienced. And the relationship that comes after seeing them for the first time is also different than the kind of relationship this thread is about. Learning truly about a person and loving them, that sure is something. It has nothing to do with falling in love at first sight or not, it can happen after not being able to stand somebody, which is what I experienced, and it can also happen after being strongly attracted to someone from the very beginning, which I also experienced! Therefore, there are no rules here. I just don't necessarily see something coming after getting to like a person without knowing them. [Edited 4/17/10 3:32am] |
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I believe in lust and attraction at first sight.
But love takes time to nurture and grow. I do not believe in the idea of "soulmates". I don't believe in fate or destiny, either. Lasting relationships take work, not cosmic energy. |
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No. Any belief in fate or destiny is a form of mental illness or deep, self-important delusion to me. Do you really think you're so special? Talk soulmates and spiritual angelhair to the 1lb baby that just died in its mothers arms in Zambia three seconds ago. [Edited 4/17/10 4:48am] | |
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I did until I met my ex. My time with him pretty much shut down my faith in love at first sight. Soulmates, ehhh...still on the fence with that. | |
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Since it happened to me, yes! | |
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TheVoid said: insatiable3 said: I have to agree on some of that... GuRRRL, you will NOT believe how über intelligent I really am. Don't let this clown act on the org fool ya---in real life, I bum rush motherfuckers with intellect. Look down. We don’t mourn artists because we knew them. We mourn them because they helped us know ourselves. | |
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MrsMdiver said: HamsterHuey said: True. I would have to agree with these two handsome men on this one. I fell in love with my hubby before I knew what he looked like. I had an image of him from only seeing a small photo of him in his avie. I thought he was some young punk kid trying to be all that. SOOOOO not my type. I was not teh least bit interested in being any more than friends with him at first. I usually find that love finds us when we least expect it. I do not fall in love with just the looks of a person but their entire package. When I was a lot younger I only focused on looks, that was never a good thing for me. I used to believe in soul mates but not so much anymore. I have my one true love now, we are as one. Not just the soul is connected this time. Trust me - I immediately fell in love with Sweetie's entire package.  We don’t mourn artists because we knew them. We mourn them because they helped us know ourselves. | |
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Number23 said: No. Any belief in fate or destiny is a form of mental illness or deep, self-important delusion to me. Do you really think you're so special? Talk soulmates and spiritual angelhair to the 1lb baby that just died in its mothers arms in Zambia three seconds ago.
[Edited 4/17/10 4:48am] Oh, Number23, never change. | |
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PunkMistress said: Number23 said: No. Any belief in fate or destiny is a form of mental illness or deep, self-important delusion to me. Do you really think you're so special? Talk soulmates and spiritual angelhair to the 1lb baby that just died in its mothers arms in Zambia three seconds ago.
[Edited 4/17/10 4:48am] Oh, Number23, never change. Best.Reply.Ever.  We don’t mourn artists because we knew them. We mourn them because they helped us know ourselves. | |
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Yes; I've seen it. | |
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Genesia said: PunkMistress said: Oh, Number23, never change. Best.Reply.Ever. yes, that's Number23 alright... unlucky7 reincarnated | |
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I never believed in any of that romantic, fairy tale stuff till I met someone who changed all of that. The only way to describe what happened was "love at first sight" and the relationship we had as "soulmates". In the aftermath, I'm back to being a non-believer. I think my time as a believer is what made me stay longer than I should have. How could I leave him, he was my soulmate, we had to work things out. Blah blah blah. Cynical party of one, your table is ready. Proud Succubi Bitch! | |
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Genesia said: PunkMistress said: Oh, Number23, never change. Best.Reply.Ever. I mean it, though! I believe he totally believes everything he says, which makes his barbs charming and genuine instead of reading like some asshole who's just stirring the pot. | |
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