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Reply #90 posted 04/16/10 8:19am

thejason

I know that most of us aren't really wired to ignore somthing like that...so I understand your feelings...

but fuck him...that's really all I got...
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Reply #91 posted 04/16/10 8:20am

johnart

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thejason said:

I know that most of us aren't really wired to ignore somthing like that...so I understand your feelings...

but fuck him...that's really all I got...


thejason cried for days after his suggest what to do with his hair thread. comfort
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Reply #92 posted 04/16/10 8:29am

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JustErin said:

CarrieMpls said:

Thanks, you guys. It really is just like I said - I can rationalize it all I want (he’s a jerk, I’m attractive even if I am a fatty, etc.) and most of the time that wins out, but it still stings.

I think whistle hit the nail on the head, too. I lost 50 pounds last year and have maintained that for the last 5-ish months and most of the time I feel really good about that, but this is just a big reminder that it’s not enough.


Well, maybe not for him...but who the fuck cares about him? Just remember that you're definitely just right for many others.



Okay. This is why I kinda love you.
I've reached in darkness and come out with treasure
I layed down with love and I woke up with lies
Whats it all worth only the heart can measure
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Reply #93 posted 04/16/10 8:40am

thejason

johnart said:

thejason cried for days after his suggest what to do with his hair thread. comfort




if anybody talks to john today...tell him that some asshole has hacked his org account and is using it to post lame ass jokes...
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Reply #94 posted 04/16/10 9:02am

Betina

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thejason said:

johnart said:

thejason cried for days after his suggest what to do with his hair thread. comfort




if anybody talks to john today...tell him that some asshole has hacked his org account and is using it to post lame ass jokes...


OOH! OOH!
I'll tell him. biggrin
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Reply #95 posted 04/16/10 9:04am

CarrieMpls

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JustErin said:

CarrieMpls said:

Thanks, you guys. It really is just like I said - I can rationalize it all I want (he’s a jerk, I’m attractive even if I am a fatty, etc.) and most of the time that wins out, but it still stings.

I think whistle hit the nail on the head, too. I lost 50 pounds last year and have maintained that for the last 5-ish months and most of the time I feel really good about that, but this is just a big reminder that it’s not enough.


Well, maybe not for him...but who the fuck cares about him? Just remember that you're definitely just right for many others.


smile

A nice reminder. Thanks, Erin.
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Reply #96 posted 04/16/10 9:10am

uPtoWnNY

CarrieMpls said:

....I’m attractive even if I am a fatty, etc.


fat??? where?
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Reply #97 posted 04/16/10 9:48am

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CarrieMpls said:

TotalANXiousNESS said:




Yeah, okayyyyy Paris!
Kidding.

Thats lame Carrie. Don't even for TWO seconds let this fool getcha down or make you second guess yourself a BIT for one.

But to answer your question, the same thing I tell my kids all the time. Because they feel bad about themselves, and saying rude stuff to others is what they think will make them feel better. I also tell them the only reason anyone would wanna hate you is because they wanna be you.


It actually made me cry. For a few minutes, anyway. I can’t help it, I’m sensitive. I can logically understand I shouldn’t let it bother me, but the reality is that it does, even if I can shrug it off 98% of the time.


But then I went for a run and had salad for dinner. So I suppose it was at least motivating


sigh

comfort What a stupid asshole disbelief. I have been in situations myself when stupid comments about how I look made me cry. And I am pretty sure even women who are far more perfect by society's standards than you or me will hear stupid comments about their looks once in a while. It's not about us not being beautiful or whatever, they are just ignorant. Many people would wish to loose as much weight as you did, especially considering that you quit smoking too. Or that they had only half of your fashion sense. You have every reason to be proud of yourself hug.
With a very special thank you to Tina: Is hammer already absolute, how much some people verändern...ICH hope is never so I will be! And if, then I hope that I would then have wen in my environment who joins me in the A....
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Reply #98 posted 04/16/10 10:09am

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TD3 said:

CarrieMpls said:

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So, I'm getting off the bus. And I'm wearing a dress that slits a bit up the front. It's not indecent, but it may have flashed a bit when I was standing up, no more than 3-4 inches above the knee.

The man sitting across from me says, right to me (though I wasn't looking), "those are some thunder thighs. damn!"

wtf? mad

It never would have even occurred to me to shout out "you're ugly and have no sense of style!". Why the hell do people think it's OK to insult perfect strangers?



Yeah, just like your mamma's except, I can close mine!








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Yeah, that's probably close to how I would have reacted. But maybe that's what he wanted - a reaction. Some people get off on that.

Fuck that guy, Carrie, he clearly has no home training and no game. He probably rode the bus home to his parents house where he watched porn on the internet all night.
The check. The string he dropped. The Mona Lisa. The musical notes taken out of a hat. The glass. The toy shotgun painting. The things he found. Therefore, everything seen–every object, that is, plus the process of looking at it–is a Duchamp.
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Reply #99 posted 04/16/10 10:29am

RubyButterfly

Random strangers have insulted my looks, so I understand how terrible it makes you feel and how it's not always easy to brush off the remark. I've come to believe people who do stuff like that did are either a) mentally ill or have a condition that affects their social interaction abilities; or b) they feel so invisible and are so desperate for attention of ANY kind, even if it's only for a few seconds, and by saying rude, shocking things they get the attention they crave.

I'm sorry that man on the bus said such a nasty, hurtful thing to you. If it means anything, I've seen pictures of you here and read your posts about your your life and your weight loss and the accomplishments you've made to improve your health, and I envy and admire you in many ways: you have fantastic style, you're intelligent, you have beautiful hair, and you have friends that care about you.

Forget that guy on the bus and his stupid comment. He saw a woman who'd never pay him any attention otherwise and was desperate for you to validate his existence.
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Reply #100 posted 04/16/10 10:39am

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RubyButterfly said:

Random strangers have insulted my looks, so I understand how terrible it makes you feel and how it's not always easy to brush off the remark. I've come to believe people who do stuff like that did are either a) mentally ill or have a condition that affects their social interaction abilities; or b) they feel so invisible and are so desperate for attention of ANY kind, even if it's only for a few seconds, and by saying rude, shocking things they get the attention they crave.

I'm sorry that man on the bus said such a nasty, hurtful thing to you. If it means anything, I've seen pictures of you here and read your posts about your your life and your weight loss and the accomplishments you've made to improve your health, and I envy and admire you in many ways: you have fantastic style, you're intelligent, you have beautiful hair, and you have friends that care about you.

Forget that guy on the bus and his stupid comment. He saw a woman who'd never pay him any attention otherwise and was desperate for you to validate his existence.

Perfect.
Ὅσον ζῇς φαίνου
μηδὲν ὅλως σὺ λυποῦ
πρὸς ὀλίγον ἐστὶ τὸ ζῆν
τὸ τέλος ὁ χρόνος ἀπαιτεῖ.”
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Reply #101 posted 04/16/10 11:29am

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CarrieMpls said:

neutral


So, I'm getting off the bus. And I'm wearing a dress that slits a bit up the front. It's not indecent, but it may have flashed a bit when I was standing up, no more than 3-4 inches above the knee.

The man sitting across from me says, right to me (though I wasn't looking), "those are some thunder thighs. damn!"

wtf? mad

It never would have even occurred to me to shout out "you're ugly and have no sense of style!". Why the hell do people think it's OK to insult perfect strangers?


pat

He was angry cuz he couldn't get anyone as sexy as you.


You should'a given him the finger and the talk to the hand and then maybe mooned him on the way out.
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Reply #102 posted 04/16/10 12:10pm

SilverlakePhil

The sad reality is, whether you're fat, skinny, beautiful, or ugly(according to society's standards), people are gonna judge you. Most people keep to themselves, but on this rare occasion, someone decides to vocalize it. Sorry you had this experience.
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Reply #103 posted 04/16/10 3:54pm

Boriqua1130

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CarrieMpls said:

Thanks, you guys. It really is just like I said - I can rationalize it all I want (he’s a jerk, I’m attractive even if I am a fatty, etc.) and most of the time that wins out, but it still stings.

I think whistle hit the nail on the head, too. I lost 50 pounds last year and have maintained that for the last 5-ish months and most of the time I feel really good about that, but this is just a big reminder that it’s not enough.


cry Please beloved, stop this. You've done well in making a change in your body. But all that good work won't take, if you continue with this manner of speech. "Death & life are in the power of the tongue."

You are beautiful no matter your weight.

Do me a favor? The next time some jerk, says anything like that to you. Hit him with
the truth. "That was rude!" If confrontations aren't your thing. "Jack" him up in effigy.

Oh & you "letting go" of 50 lbs...woot! clapping That's great! @)--}-----
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Reply #104 posted 04/16/10 5:31pm

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It's ridiculous how much weight you've lost and how great you look. lol You always dress well too. I'm not even going to talk about that dude because the important thing here is how awesome you are. smile
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Reply #105 posted 04/16/10 5:42pm

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When I first saw this thread, I was afraid this was bad news about your date. Glad to hear that is not the case.

I will have to agree with others that say the guy thought he was complimenting you in his own crude way. I've seen lots of no-class men around town interact with women and none of them actually insult a woman when she's in earshot. That's only for compliments in the one-in-a-million chance that they might get some action.
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Reply #106 posted 04/16/10 7:13pm

CarrieMpls

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Thanks, you guys.

grouphug
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Reply #107 posted 04/16/10 7:32pm

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thunder thighs = boff. i think this is what dude was thinking also nod
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Reply #108 posted 04/16/10 7:43pm

NastradumasKid

purplepolitician said:

thunder thighs = boff. i think this is what dude was thinking also nod

[Edited 4/16/10 19:45pm]
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Reply #109 posted 04/16/10 8:06pm

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NastradumasKid said:

purplepolitician said:

thunder thighs = boff. i think this is what dude was thinking also nod

[Edited 4/16/10 19:45pm]

wait, what did you say now? i missed it lol geek. are you a chubby chaser also? hmmm lol
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Reply #110 posted 04/16/10 8:24pm

NastradumasKid

purplepolitician said:

NastradumasKid said:


[Edited 4/16/10 19:45pm]

wait, what did you say now? i missed it lol geek. are you a chubby chaser also? hmmm lol


No I'm not. boff
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Reply #111 posted 04/16/10 8:47pm

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confused I could so just pinch you! You have been in maintenance of 5 months, which means you have mastered exactly how many calories/workouts/ goofing off moments keep you fit and strong ... and you are going to let some ass clown on public transportation steel a single moment of your bliss? biggrin I don't think so!

razz Want to ask me what I think of public transportation?
Well look whom I found dipping their toe in the murky waters! :eyeroll: At least offer me a damn cup of coffee!
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Reply #112 posted 04/16/10 8:49pm

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Muse2NoPharaoh said:

confused I could so just pinch you! You have been in maintenance of 5 months, which means you have mastered exactly how many calories/workouts/ goofing off moments keep you fit and strong ... and you are going to let some ass clown on public transportation steel a single moment of your bliss? biggrin I don't think so!

razz Want to ask me what I think of public transportation?



Tel her!! razz
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Reply #113 posted 04/17/10 4:39am

CarrieMpls

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RubyButterfly said:

Random strangers have insulted my looks, so I understand how terrible it makes you feel and how it's not always easy to brush off the remark. I've come to believe people who do stuff like that did are either a) mentally ill or have a condition that affects their social interaction abilities; or b) they feel so invisible and are so desperate for attention of ANY kind, even if it's only for a few seconds, and by saying rude, shocking things they get the attention they crave.

I'm sorry that man on the bus said such a nasty, hurtful thing to you. If it means anything, I've seen pictures of you here and read your posts about your your life and your weight loss and the accomplishments you've made to improve your health, and I envy and admire you in many ways: you have fantastic style, you're intelligent, you have beautiful hair, and you have friends that care about you.

Forget that guy on the bus and his stupid comment. He saw a woman who'd never pay him any attention otherwise and was desperate for you to validate his existence.


I read this yesterday, but didn't acknowledge it fairly enough. Good stuff. Thank you.
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Reply #114 posted 04/17/10 4:40am

CarrieMpls

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Muse2NoPharaoh said:

confused I could so just pinch you! You have been in maintenance of 5 months, which means you have mastered exactly how many calories/workouts/ goofing off moments keep you fit and strong ... and you are going to let some ass clown on public transportation steel a single moment of your bliss? biggrin I don't think so!

razz Want to ask me what I think of public transportation?


It was just for a second, I swear! lol

I'm human. hug
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Reply #115 posted 04/17/10 1:04pm

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NastradumasKid said:

purplepolitician said:


wait, what did you say now? i missed it lol geek. are you a chubby chaser also? hmmm lol


No I'm not. boff

then stay away from my booty please talk to the hand hmph! lol
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Reply #116 posted 04/17/10 1:21pm

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Carrie, you are a beautiful girl, who cares what some dillhole says. Thick thighs are in, where's he been?
All you others say Hell Yea!! woot!
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Reply #117 posted 04/17/10 2:07pm

NastradumasKid

purplepolitician said:

NastradumasKid said:



No I'm not. boff

then stay away from my booty please talk to the hand hmph! lol



lol Funny! I wasn't trying to steal anything.
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Reply #118 posted 04/17/10 8:27pm

uPtoWnNY

purplepolitician said:

thunder thighs = boff. i think this is what dude was thinking also nod



That's what I think when I see a woman with big thighs. It's a beautiful thing . So don't be upset, ladies. There are plenty of men who love that.
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Reply #119 posted 04/18/10 10:14am

Mach

uPtoWnNY said:

purplepolitician said:

thunder thighs = boff. i think this is what dude was thinking also nod



That's what I think when I see a woman with big thighs. It's a beautiful thing . So don't be upset, ladies. There are plenty of men who love that.



I love my powerful thighs ...


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