http://www.boston.com/new..._bullying/

Damn, what could they have said to make this girl do this? I don't get it at all.

Hope they throw the book at those fuckers.

They say that she was a pretty immigrant, new to the school and she got the attention of a popular boy in her school... well, some girls got jealous and one in particular wasn't having it because she liked dude too. So the bullying started and the final straw was that someone tossed a can at her head on the way from school just before her little sister found her dead.

This girl hung herself in her closet. The folks that wrote disparaging messages on her FB profile AFTER her death announcement propelled people to seek criminal charges against these teens because this level of mental/physical abuse was extreme.

I believe there are also statutory rape charges against two of these teens.

Disgusting.

Sad.....

This is so sad on so many levels.

What in the world?

paintedlady said:

Wait...so she was cyber bullied, bullied in person and potentially sexually assaulted? No wonder she killed herself. What teenager could withstand all that? It's a shame that the kids who bulllied her can't even find it in their hearts to be remorseful cuz the girl is dead. It's this whole mob mentality. You get a group of hot-head, uncompassionate people together (adults or kids) and it's amazing how vile they can be. Now watch, all these bad ass kids who were friends are going to turn on each other to save their own necks.

DesireeNevermind said:

That's exactly what's happening now. Once the courts got involved the teachers are now coming forward because the school didn't want to be held responsible. Um, yeah, teachers saw all this mess and didn't help her at all.
[Edited 3/30/10 11:19am]

paintedlady said:

This is exactly why I hate the school system. And even when you seek help from a teacher, some of them seem to not care. It's a damn shame. I hope these bad ass kids get what they deserve. Bullying is a serious problem that need to stop, like on the real, it needs to. I get really depressed by these stories and what's crazy is that some of the bad ass kids get away with it and not be punished. I swear, some of these kids need a damn reality check.

NastradumasKid said:

Unfortunately, it'll never stop, because kids can be as cruel as adults. What's needed are services to help these bullied kids out.

uPtoWnNY said:

Exactly! They need to help these poor kids, before they hurt themselves or someone else.

uPtoWnNY said:

some of them learn it from adults. also, some kids just haven't learned about boundaries and consequences. couple that with their hormones and how they can flip out over the dumbest of things....conflict over drama over violence time and time again. I'm still recovering from reading about that boy who stomped some girl into a coma because he didn't like her text message.

DesireeNevermind said:

1)That is so true. Now that I think about it, it starts at home.
2)Then they need to not let their hormones get the best of them, especially some of mess they get mad about.
3) I think I heard about that!!!! What was the text about anyway?

NastradumasKid said:

http://prince.org/msg/100/333081

NastradumasKid said:

that shit was crazy as hell. some boy liking this girl's friend and she didn't approve. the boy wants this girl to, i guess, give her blessing and convince her friend to see him. she says no, the two go back and forth via text messaging and then she texts something about his brother who committed suicide earlier. next thing you know he tracks her down somewhere and gets to stomping her with his steel toed boots until she is bloody and unconscious.

DesireeNevermind said:

^^^ But in that particular case, THE GIRL WAS THE BULLY. She texed an epitaph of the dead boy's brother in mockery (the teen boy found his his older brother dead, the older brother just committed suicide just days before and was still distraught) and this action enraged the boy to the point of him seeking her out to stomp her to death.

I saw this growing up, don't talk mess to some boy (especially not be cruel to him) because he can nut up on you and whoop your ass, just 'cause you a girl doesn't mean that a dude won't pound on you like a man.

Its a horrible thing both ways, this is why that boy feels justified in his actions, he feels she got what she deserved. Evil.

paintedlady said:

Aw man I didn't know about the epitaph part and her bullying him! Jeez! these kids today are just emotionally uncontrollable and their wack ass parents are helping things at all. I still feel bad for that girl and what happened to her but at the same time...I can see how that boy would have a psychological break especially when he was the one who found his dead brother!

paintedlady said:

Parents also need to lecture their kids the risks of talking smack. Not everyone will react in a mature manner. Like Graycap said, when you sell woof tickets, someone might buy them. That doesn't excuse what happened to that girl, but more of us should be cool, mind our own damn business, and stop with this back & forth shit.

DesireeNevermind said:

The mother&dad of the girl who was beaten were on the Today show earlier this week, and the mother described her daughter as..

"She is sweet and a little mother, if she saw something she didn't like she would tell a person exactly what she thought. She always spoke her mind."

Well, I think mom or dad should have taught their daughter to do that tactfully and parents really don't care and even get off on the fact that their kids can boss others.

The girl's father was really urging parents to talk to their children about this situation.

I guess he regrets not cautioning his daughter about the dangers of being mean to boys.

uPtoWnNY said:

I agree... you never know what someone is capable of, no sense of respect for your fellow man anymore. Folks need lessons in moral 101. Good grief.

paintedlady said:

See, this is why the girl got in trouble in the first place.

Another problem is overcrowding in the school system. How can school staff adequately monitor these brats if they are legion to begin with? I hate to call them brats but....well no I don't.


carry on.

DesireeNevermind said:

You know they're trying to put 40 kids to every teacher's class in some schools right?

NastradumasKid said:

ridiculous.

DesireeNevermind said:

Exactly. Just another way for kids to not successed in school. No wonder they bully people. They want attention.

NastradumasKid said:

A teachers job is not to give love and attention... this happens at home.
Parents should love their kids up so that if stuff happens at school, any parent can reel in their child and end any negative behavior before it gets out of hand.

I have witnessed young pre-schoolers being encouraged to be "tough". One kid was taught karate just to beat on other classmates. He kicked my son in the face, when the child's father was in conference with me he told me "If you don't like then don't raise a punk ass kid... ", he even threatened the teacher.
I called the police and filed a complaint against him, his son was expelled from PRE-SCHOOL! dumb f#@@@(&^^ parent..... he will only teach his son how to end up dead or in jail.

The problem lies in parenting. Teachers teach lessons but not moral. Moral is (or should be) taught at home. Many parents don't actively show respect to others so they teach their children how to be hateful by default.

paintedlady said:

Natural selection - it's a wonderful thing.

uPtoWnNY said:

Yeah, but how many will he victimize along the way before he gets locked up?

This upsets me in so many ways....

paintedlady said:

it's a tricky situation because if the parents are failing then the school feels like they have to step in. that's why schools started handing out condoms in schools...cuz parents were teaching these hot ass kids about safe sex.

I feel for any teacher who just wants to teach but gets derailed by all the social problems in the school. On the other hand, sometimes its just a few bad kids that ruin the whole bunch. neither school nor parents can intervene when you have truly mental health kids making school hard on everybody.

I say reduce class sizes.
Have a mental health care professional on site for emergency evaluations.
Make these parents come to school at least once a month and stay with their kid all freakin' day.
Feed these kids...half of their irritability is probably dietary based.
And if a kid gets violent one time...kick his/her ass out!