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PrintableJustErin said: tinaz said: But according to you isnt sizing women up as competion when your with your man just a way of being insecure? I mean once you are in a committed relationship there should no longer be any competion...  Women size up other women, period. With a man or without. Having a man doesn't just turn off the natural competitive drive we all have - whether it be to get a man or to keep a man. Plus I think we're all a little insecure to a certain degree. But being a bit insecure and understanding it for what it is, is totally different than being insecure and taking it out on someone else. TOTALLY agree with you... But its knowing that we are always looking at other women and other women are looking at us as competition that feuls the insecurities and jealous actions that will make one lash out at their mate when they catch them gawking... For me, its not so much that he would look, but that the other women would catch him looking and think she was hot enough to turn his head away from me... SO its really not im insecure with myself, its just I dont want a dumb bitch thinking shes all that!  ~~~~~ Oh that voice...incredible....there should be a musical instrument called George Michael... ~~~~~ | |
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tinaz said: JustErin said: Women size up other women, period. With a man or without. Having a man doesn't just turn off the natural competitive drive we all have - whether it be to get a man or to keep a man. Plus I think we're all a little insecure to a certain degree. But being a bit insecure and understanding it for what it is, is totally different than being insecure and taking it out on someone else. TOTALLY agree with you... But its knowing that we are always looking at other women and other women are looking at us as competition that feuls the insecurities and jealous actions that will make one lash out at their mate when they catch them gawking... For me, its not so much that he would look, but that the other women would catch him looking and think she was hot enough to turn his head away from me... SO its really not im insecure with myself, its just I dont want a dumb bitch thinking shes all that! And there it is.
Honestly, feeling like that is insecurity though. Hell, I'm super insecure. I don't think that it's a terrible thing because I just don't take it out on anyone at all. | |
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I never got why so many people look at other men/women; if you're truly in love, you shouldn't give a fuck about anyone else to begin with; on the other hand, your boyfriend/girlfriend should be the hottest person in the world for you (right?), so I don't get why anyone would want to look at somebody else when you can't wait to go home and bang your boyfriend/girlfriend...  | |
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JoeTyler said: I never got why so many people look at other men/women; if you're truly in love, you shouldn't give a fuck about anyone else to begin with; on the other hand, your boyfriend/girlfriend should be the hottest person in the world for you (right?), so I don't get why anyone would want to look at somebody else when you can't wait to go home and bang your boyfriend/girlfriend...
I look...doesnt mean I WANT that other person at all... its just admiring the scenery... ~~~~~ Oh that voice...incredible....there should be a musical instrument called George Michael... ~~~~~ | |
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JoeTyler said: I never got why so many people look at other men/women; if you're truly in love, you shouldn't give a fuck about anyone else to begin with; on the other hand, your boyfriend/girlfriend should be the hottest person in the world for you (right?), so I don't get why anyone would want to look at somebody else when you can't wait to go home and bang your boyfriend/girlfriend...
But looking at someone else doesn't automatically mean you want them more than you partner, or even want them at all. People are drawn to attractive things naturally - that could be anything. A nice car or painting or a beautiful person. I do not understand why some people think being in love with someone or being in a committed relationship should make you blind to others that are attractive. And I don't get how looking at or noticing someone means you love the person you are with less. It’s just another (imo) silly, unrealistic and unnatural expectation put on people who are in a relationship. | |
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JustErin said: I do not understand why some people think being in love with someone or being in a committed relationship should make you blind to others that are attractive. It’s just another (imo) silly, unrealistic and unnatural expectation put on people who are in a relationship. Then I'm silly, unrealistic and unnatural because that's exactly what happens with me; maybe I'm old-fashioned, who knows... | |
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I never understood saying "he's hot/she's hot" to your man/woman!
What exactly are they supposed to do with that information? To me it's a sign of disrespect. Even when I was younger and casually dating someone, I wouldn't mention how attractive some other woman was. Why would I? ...and If she did it, she automatically put herself in the jump-off category. As far as QQ'n goes, men and women are more alike than we are different. As long as it's ONLY looking(not in the presence of your signifigant other of course-that's rude) and nothing else, no harm done.  | |
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While we're on the subject of lookin at other men...you should post a larger pic of yourself.  | |
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JustErin said: JoeTyler said: I never got why so many people look at other men/women; if you're truly in love, you shouldn't give a fuck about anyone else to begin with; on the other hand, your boyfriend/girlfriend should be the hottest person in the world for you (right?), so I don't get why anyone would want to look at somebody else when you can't wait to go home and bang your boyfriend/girlfriend...
But looking at someone else doesn't automatically mean you want them more than you partner, or even want them at all. People are drawn to attractive things naturally - that could be anything. A nice car or painting or a beautiful person. I do not understand why some people think being in love with someone or being in a committed relationship should make you blind to others that are attractive. And I don't get how looking at or noticing someone means you love the person you are with less. It’s just another (imo) silly, unrealistic and unnatural expectation put on people who are in a relationship. co-sign | |
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Just slap the shit out of her, it's the only way to make them understand.
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JoeTyler said: JustErin said: I do not understand why some people think being in love with someone or being in a committed relationship should make you blind to others that are attractive. It’s just another (imo) silly, unrealistic and unnatural expectation put on people who are in a relationship. Then I'm silly, unrealistic and unnatural because that's exactly what happens with me; maybe I'm old-fashioned, who knows... I guess I am pretty much like that myself. For me my bf is the hottest man on earth and the only one I want to be with. On the other hand I agree with Erin that you can very much love somebody and still feel attracted to others to. With a very special thank you to Tina: Is hammer already absolute, how much some people verändern...ICH hope is never so I will be! And if, then I hope that I would then have wen in my environment who joins me in the A.... | |
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JoeTyler said: JustErin said: I do not understand why some people think being in love with someone or being in a committed relationship should make you blind to others that are attractive. It’s just another (imo) silly, unrealistic and unnatural expectation put on people who are in a relationship. Then I'm silly, unrealistic and unnatural because that's exactly what happens with me; maybe I'm old-fashioned, who knows... Me, yes. ...And if the man I'm seeing is not bothered by me looking at other men while in his presence, let alone mention him to him, then I won't take that man seriously. I don't want him. | |
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Serious said: JoeTyler said: Then I'm silly, unrealistic and unnatural because that's exactly what happens with me; maybe I'm old-fashioned, who knows... I guess I am pretty much like that myself. For me my bf is the hottest man on earth and the only one I want to be with. On the other hand I agree with Erin that you can very much love somebody and still feel attracted to others to. 
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Dave1992 said: Serious said: I guess I am pretty much like that myself. For me my bf is the hottest man on earth and the only one I want to be with. On the other hand I agree with Erin that you can very much love somebody and still feel attracted to others to.
  With a very special thank you to Tina: Is hammer already absolute, how much some people verändern...ICH hope is never so I will be! And if, then I hope that I would then have wen in my environment who joins me in the A.... | |
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I guess everyone is different. With me and my bf we really don't mind each other admiring other people. I know he loves to look at women with big tits and nice lips.. So if we're out and a woman walks by with big breast I know he's gonna look and maybe even say damn. Just like with me. I damn near lose my mind when I see a firefighter or a man in a suit and he knows it. He may even say 'pick up ur jaw' but he doesn't get upset. | |
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JoeTyler said: I never got why so many people look at other men/women; if you're truly in love, you shouldn't give a fuck about anyone else to begin with; on the other hand, your boyfriend/girlfriend should be the hottest person in the world for you (right?), so I don't get why anyone would want to look at somebody else when you can't wait to go home and bang your boyfriend/girlfriend... Because every dick is different and unique in it's own way. There are big ones, little ones, thick ones, skinny ones, black ones, white ones, hispanic ones, banana shaped, curved, hook, circumcised, uncircumcised, brown pubic hair, black pubic hair, etc. Every dick is different and I could never be satisfied with just one dick. That would be like renting the same porn flick over and over, listening to the same song over and over and never buying a new one, or eating the same meal every day. Andy is a four letter word. | |
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MrsMdiver said: Maybe she is busy looking at other women?
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DanceWme said: I guess everyone is different. With me and my bf we really don't mind each other admiring other people. I know he loves to look at women with big tits and nice lips..
So if we're out and a woman walks by with big breast I know he's gonna look and maybe even say damn. Just like with me. I damn near lose my mind when I see a firefighter or a man in a suit and he knows it. He may even say 'pick up ur jaw' but he doesn't get upset.You love a man in uniform too!! When i see state troopers pulled off the road I practically do an exorcist move with my head! Men in uniforms... 
and my husband knows this.. In fact we joke about gettin him a state trooper uni!! I think its the hat! ~~~~~ Oh that voice...incredible....there should be a musical instrument called George Michael... ~~~~~ | |
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tinaz said: DanceWme said: I guess everyone is different. With me and my bf we really don't mind each other admiring other people. I know he loves to look at women with big tits and nice lips..
So if we're out and a woman walks by with big breast I know he's gonna look and maybe even say damn. Just like with me. I damn near lose my mind when I see a firefighter or a man in a suit and he knows it. He may even say 'pick up ur jaw' but he doesn't get upset.You love a man in uniform too!! When i see state troopers pulled off the road I practically do an exorcist move with my head! Men in uniforms...
and my husband knows this.. In fact we joke about gettin him a state trooper uni!! I think its the hat! Tastes are so different. Men in uniform or in a suit are a total turn off for me .With a very special thank you to Tina: Is hammer already absolute, how much some people verändern...ICH hope is never so I will be! And if, then I hope that I would then have wen in my environment who joins me in the A.... | |
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Serious said: tinaz said: You love a man in uniform too!! When i see state troopers pulled off the road I practically do an exorcist move with my head! Men in uniforms...
and my husband knows this.. In fact we joke about gettin him a state trooper uni!! I think its the hat! Tastes are so different. Men in uniform or in a suit are a total turn off for me .But.. but.. I like wearing suits!  | |
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Dave1992 said: Serious said: Tastes are so different. Men in uniform or in a suit are a total turn off for me .But.. but.. I like wearing suits! I hate suits, at least on men. On women sometimes they can look okay, but I am not a big fan either. With a very special thank you to Tina: Is hammer already absolute, how much some people verändern...ICH hope is never so I will be! And if, then I hope that I would then have wen in my environment who joins me in the A.... | |
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Serious said: tinaz said: You love a man in uniform too!! When i see state troopers pulled off the road I practically do an exorcist move with my head! Men in uniforms...
and my husband knows this.. In fact we joke about gettin him a state trooper uni!! I think its the hat! Tastes are so different. Men in uniform or in a suit are a total turn off for me .~~~~~ Oh that voice...incredible....there should be a musical instrument called George Michael... ~~~~~ | |
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tinaz said: DanceWme said: I guess everyone is different. With me and my bf we really don't mind each other admiring other people. I know he loves to look at women with big tits and nice lips..
So if we're out and a woman walks by with big breast I know he's gonna look and maybe even say damn. Just like with me. I damn near lose my mind when I see a firefighter or a man in a suit and he knows it. He may even say 'pick up ur jaw' but he doesn't get upset.You love a man in uniform too!! When i see state troopers pulled off the road I practically do an exorcist move with my head! Men in uniforms...
and my husband knows this.. In fact we joke about gettin him a state trooper uni!! I think its the hat! So many women do. I don't get it myself. Or suits. | |
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tinaz said: Serious said: Tastes are so different. Men in uniform or in a suit are a total turn off for me .We should meet and become best friends. We would never be interested in the same men  .With a very special thank you to Tina: Is hammer already absolute, how much some people verändern...ICH hope is never so I will be! And if, then I hope that I would then have wen in my environment who joins me in the A.... | |
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JoeTyler said: JustErin said: I do not understand why some people think being in love with someone or being in a committed relationship should make you blind to others that are attractive. It’s just another (imo) silly, unrealistic and unnatural expectation put on people who are in a relationship. Then I'm silly, unrealistic and unnatural because that's exactly what happens with me; maybe I'm old-fashioned, who knows... I'm the same way.. I don't pay attention to other men or women when I am in love. I think its a personality thing. I would never snoop either. If I have to do that then I don't need to be with him. [Edited 3/19/10 19:00pm] | |
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I'm either looking at no-one, just in my own little world, or I'm looking all around at everyone. I'm not sure my wife has ever noticed or said anything about it. I don't think so. I've seen her check out women before, but not really seen her look at men all that much. Maybe she's sly about it. MY COUSIN WORKS IN A PHARMACY AND SHE SAID THEY ENEMA'D PRANCE INTO OBLIVION WITH FENTONILS!! | |
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JustErin said: JoeTyler said: I never got why so many people look at other men/women; if you're truly in love, you shouldn't give a fuck about anyone else to begin with; on the other hand, your boyfriend/girlfriend should be the hottest person in the world for you (right?), so I don't get why anyone would want to look at somebody else when you can't wait to go home and bang your boyfriend/girlfriend...
But looking at someone else doesn't automatically mean you want them more than you partner, or even want them at all. People are drawn to attractive things naturally - that could be anything. A nice car or painting or a beautiful person. I do not understand why some people think being in love with someone or being in a committed relationship should make you blind to others that are attractive. And I don't get how looking at or noticing someone means you love the person you are with less. It’s just another (imo) silly, unrealistic and unnatural expectation put on people who are in a relationship. Right. Just because I met someone I love and am attracted to and married her doesn't suddenly render everybody else in the world unattractive. And you're right about there being so many reasons to look at something or someone, for it being attractive or some other reason. I'm more likely to notice a woman if she's particularly well-dressed, for example, or has awesome hair, or is made up well. I'll look at a guy if he's dressed well and I'll be thinking about whether I could wear the same clothes and look good in them. As far as looking because someone is just plain physically attractive, the real security and love for your partner is surely found in being able to look wherever and at whoever you want without second guessing your intentions, rather than not looking, which may be forced or some kind of denial or wish to avoid temptation. If you and your partner are looking at other people and no problems come of it then that's probably a sign you made a good choice and everything is allllright.  If a guy checks out my wife I wouldn't feel bad about it. It would probably mean she looks hot. That's no bad thing. I don't see why I should feel threatened or insecure in any way even if my wife looked back. We're all fair game and I'm the shit as long as my wife wants me above anyone else. If I'm not, the it turns out I'm not. Glad to say that it seems I am though.
. [Edited 3/19/10 19:15pm] MY COUSIN WORKS IN A PHARMACY AND SHE SAID THEY ENEMA'D PRANCE INTO OBLIVION WITH FENTONILS!! | |
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Fauxie said: JustErin said: But looking at someone else doesn't automatically mean you want them more than you partner, or even want them at all. People are drawn to attractive things naturally - that could be anything. A nice car or painting or a beautiful person. I do not understand why some people think being in love with someone or being in a committed relationship should make you blind to others that are attractive. And I don't get how looking at or noticing someone means you love the person you are with less. It’s just another (imo) silly, unrealistic and unnatural expectation put on people who are in a relationship. Right. Just because I met someone I love and am attracted to and married her doesn't suddenly render everybody else in the world unattractive. And you're right about there being so many reasons to look at something or someone, for it being attractive or some other reason. I'm more likely to notice a woman if she's particularly well-dressed, for example, or has awesome hair, or is made up well. I'll look at a guy if he's dressed well and I'll be thinking about whether I could wear the same clothes and look good in them. As far as looking because someone is just plain physically attractive, the real security and love for your partner is surely found in being able to look wherever and at whoever you want without second guessing your intentions, rather than not looking, which may be forced or some kind of denial or wish to avoid temptation. If you and your partner are looking at other people and no problems come of it then that's probably a sign you made a good choice and everything is allllright. If a guy checks out my wife I wouldn't feel bad about it. It would probably mean she looks hot. That's no bad thing. I don't see why I should feel threatened or insecure in any way even if my wife looked back. We're all fair game and I'm the shit as long as my wife wants me above anyone else. If I'm not, the it turns out I'm not. Glad to say that it seems I am though.
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JustErin said: Fauxie said: Right. Just because I met someone I love and am attracted to and married her doesn't suddenly render everybody else in the world unattractive. And you're right about there being so many reasons to look at something or someone, for it being attractive or some other reason. I'm more likely to notice a woman if she's particularly well-dressed, for example, or has awesome hair, or is made up well. I'll look at a guy if he's dressed well and I'll be thinking about whether I could wear the same clothes and look good in them. As far as looking because someone is just plain physically attractive, the real security and love for your partner is surely found in being able to look wherever and at whoever you want without second guessing your intentions, rather than not looking, which may be forced or some kind of denial or wish to avoid temptation. If you and your partner are looking at other people and no problems come of it then that's probably a sign you made a good choice and everything is allllright. If a guy checks out my wife I wouldn't feel bad about it. It would probably mean she looks hot. That's no bad thing. I don't see why I should feel threatened or insecure in any way even if my wife looked back. We're all fair game and I'm the shit as long as my wife wants me above anyone else. If I'm not, the it turns out I'm not. Glad to say that it seems I am though.
. [Edited 3/19/10 19:15pm] Your responses are too long. Your responses should all come in picture format. . [Edited 3/19/10 19:26pm] MY COUSIN WORKS IN A PHARMACY AND SHE SAID THEY ENEMA'D PRANCE INTO OBLIVION WITH FENTONILS!! | |
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Fauxie said: JustErin said: Your responses are too long. Your responses should all come in picture format. . [Edited 3/19/10 19:26pm] I can do better than a pic.  | |
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