tinaz said:

Women size up other women, period. With a man or without. Having a man doesn't just turn off the natural competitive drive we all have - whether it be to get a man or to keep a man.

Plus I think we're all a little insecure to a certain degree. But being a bit insecure and understanding it for what it is, is totally different than being insecure and taking it out on someone else.

JustErin said:

TOTALLY agree with you... But its knowing that we are always looking at other women and other women are looking at us as competition that feuls the insecurities and jealous actions that will make one lash out at their mate when they catch them gawking... For me, its not so much that he would look, but that the other women would catch him looking and think she was hot enough to turn his head away from me... SO its really not im insecure with myself, its just I dont want a dumb bitch thinking shes all that!

I never got why so many people look at other men/women; if you're truly in love, you shouldn't give a fuck about anyone else to begin with; on the other hand, your boyfriend/girlfriend should be the hottest person in the world for you (right?), so I don't get why anyone would want to look at somebody else when you can't wait to go home and bang your boyfriend/girlfriend...

I never got why so many people look at other men/women; if you're truly in love, you shouldn't give a fuck about anyone else to begin with; on the other hand, your boyfriend/girlfriend should be the hottest person in the world for you (right?), so I don't get why anyone would want to look at somebody else when you can't wait to go home and bang your boyfriend/girlfriend...

I do not understand why some people think being in love with someone or being in a committed relationship should make you blind to others that are attractive.
It’s just another (imo) silly, unrealistic and unnatural expectation put on people who are in a relationship.

JoeTyler said:

But looking at someone else doesn't automatically mean you want them more than you partner, or even want them at all. People are drawn to attractive things naturally - that could be anything. A nice car or painting or a beautiful person.

I do not understand why some people think being in love with someone or being in a committed relationship should make you blind to others that are attractive. And I don't get how looking at or noticing someone means you love the person you are with less.

It’s just another (imo) silly, unrealistic and unnatural expectation put on people who are in a relationship.

JustErin said:

Then I'm silly, unrealistic and unnatural because that's exactly what happens with me; maybe I'm old-fashioned, who knows...

JustErin said:

Then I'm silly, unrealistic and unnatural because that's exactly what happens with me; maybe I'm old-fashioned, who knows...

JoeTyler said:

I guess I am pretty much like that myself. For me my bf is the hottest man on earth and the only one I want to be with. On the other hand I agree with Erin that you can very much love somebody and still feel attracted to others to.

Serious said:

JoeTyler said:

Maybe she is busy looking at other women?

I guess everyone is different. With me and my bf we really don't mind each other admiring other people. I know he loves to look at women with big tits and nice lips.. So if we're out and a woman walks by with big breast I know he's gonna look and maybe even say damn. Just like with me. I damn near lose my mind when I see a firefighter or a man in a suit and he knows it. He may even say 'pick up ur jaw' but he doesn't get upset.

DanceWme said:

You love a man in uniform too!! When i see state troopers pulled off the road I practically do an exorcist move with my head! Men in uniforms...

and my husband knows this.. In fact we joke about gettin him a state trooper uni!! I think its the hat!

tinaz said:

Tastes are so different. Men in uniform or in a suit are a total turn off for me .

Serious said:

But.. but.. I like wearing suits!

tinaz said:

Tastes are so different. Men in uniform or in a suit are a total turn off for me .

DanceWme said:

You love a man in uniform too!! When i see state troopers pulled off the road I practically do an exorcist move with my head! Men in uniforms...

and my husband knows this.. In fact we joke about gettin him a state trooper uni!! I think its the hat!

Serious said:

JustErin said:

Then I'm silly, unrealistic and unnatural because that's exactly what happens with me; maybe I'm old-fashioned, who knows...

JoeTyler said:

But looking at someone else doesn't automatically mean you want them more than you partner, or even want them at all. People are drawn to attractive things naturally - that could be anything. A nice car or painting or a beautiful person.

I do not understand why some people think being in love with someone or being in a committed relationship should make you blind to others that are attractive. And I don't get how looking at or noticing someone means you love the person you are with less.

It’s just another (imo) silly, unrealistic and unnatural expectation put on people who are in a relationship.

JustErin said:

Right. Just because I met someone I love and am attracted to and married her doesn't suddenly render everybody else in the world unattractive. And you're right about there being so many reasons to look at something or someone, for it being attractive or some other reason. I'm more likely to notice a woman if she's particularly well-dressed, for example, or has awesome hair, or is made up well. I'll look at a guy if he's dressed well and I'll be thinking about whether I could wear the same clothes and look good in them. As far as looking because someone is just plain physically attractive, the real security and love for your partner is surely found in being able to look wherever and at whoever you want without second guessing your intentions, rather than not looking, which may be forced or some kind of denial or wish to avoid temptation. If you and your partner are looking at other people and no problems come of it then that's probably a sign you made a good choice and everything is allllright. If a guy checks out my wife I wouldn't feel bad about it. It would probably mean she looks hot. That's no bad thing. I don't see why I should feel threatened or insecure in any way even if my wife looked back. We're all fair game and I'm the shit as long as my wife wants me above anyone else. If I'm not, the it turns out I'm not. Glad to say that it seems I am though.

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Fauxie said:

Your responses are too long.

JustErin said:

Your responses should all come in picture format.

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