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PrintableGenesia said: Deadflow3r said: I am still working this. The therapist came over. Great beginning. Suddenly the therapist started to talk about reading. That's a tough subject for my daughter. my daughter wanted the discussion to end but it continued. She got under the table and began biting me. I reminded her she would loose her 50 cents for the day if she got to 3, she told me " i don't care then continued. What a mess. She ran out to the front of the house which is near a busy street and refused to at least go to the back yard. They don't want me to do what my mother would have done which is drag her ass to where my mother told her to go. Anyway, this modern parenting ain't easy. I agree with you BklynBabe, when kids are frightened of their parent at least they are safe.
Wait a minute. Your daughter started biting you in front of the therapist?! What the heck did the therapist do/say? She just kept saying why are you doing this? This is not OK. Anyway when she left she said she would put in for a psych eval. my daughter is never in the principals office at school and she does alright with my sister. It's just me. I went through a deep depression soon after having her and it lasted for over 4 years before being medicated properly and even that was not good because the meds made me lethargic. Anyway between me being to depressed or me being too lethargic the child got what she wanted when she wanted it for far too long. now pay back is a bitch. There came a time when the risk of remaining tight in the bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom. Anais Nin. | |
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Genesia said: MrsMdiver said: I guess I have to wait until the little man can count to 3 before I can start this.
 Actually, my mom never even counted. She just gave us the "death stare."
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MrsMdiver said: Genesia said: Actually, my mom never even counted. She just gave us the "death stare."
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BklynBabe said: oh yes...I have the book. Sometimes it works for me...I will combine the countdown with the stank eye to let the kid know it's on
1,2,3, Beat Dat Azz also works for me....  I had to use that on my son this weekend, and let me tell ya he's been a perfect angel ever since. I've reached in darkness and come out with treasure
I layed down with love and I woke up with lies Whats it all worth only the heart can measure It's not whats in the mirror but what's left inside | |
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O.K. another peak into the child whose behavior is still not so fantastic. She is two years behind in her reading. She is always taken aside in school to work on her reading. It is not helping much. When she comes home she is sooooo over it.
Talked to her teacher today. my girl is good as gold in school and she has an iep but is making no progress. She thinks that keeping her back may help. Maybe. The teacher, who I love, said that she may feel that I am the only one that she can let her anger and frustration out on. Anyway still reading the book, she is starting to look forward to her sticker for never getting to 3 for the day. So maybe this is progress. The therapist gave me something else to read. I am like HOLD IT, I HAVE NOT FINISHED MY 1.2.3. Magic!!!! Let me at least truly try one thing before we move on to something else! There came a time when the risk of remaining tight in the bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom. Anais Nin. | |
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As many here know, I take care of a kid who has severe ADHD, who was unable to read or do simple math at 5, and now at 9 he is at the top of his class, doing fairly well, mostly A's and seems to enjoy learning. If it weren't for the behavior issues, it would be all good. And truthfully they are not as bad as they used to be, but he is still, unfortunately, a highly irritating human being.
It took: meds, discipline, and behavior modification! Explain, explain, explain. Explain the action. Explain the consequence. Stay consistent and do not waver! I learned a long time ago that if I was nice to him, or tried to reward him, it actually made his behavior worse. *shrug* you want kids to make their own choices, so explain the problem, explain the consequence and let them choose, and don't lose no sleep over their choice. Either they will figure it out, or they will grow up to be miserable little human beings  I know I did my part to raise him right and that's all I have to do. | |
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PS it's really hard to be consistent because you set rules and then other people try to be cute bribing your kid with gum and candy or grandparents don't enforce the rules....that's another thing to watch out for. I had to give the school the stank eye because they kept giving the kid candy and gum and then complaining about his behavior....I'm like he has ADHD and then your dumbasses give him sugar?!?  Don't call me about it!  Children are swift to pick up on who disciplines them and who spoils them. | |
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Right now she is staying with my sister,whose roomate seems to hate every member of my sister's family and told me once that my daughter was "pathetic". Unfortunately, the girl will not listen to me but she's a doll for the aunt and the roomate who talks to her like she is trash. Still want custody of my own child though. Brought her over some chicken and I will do her laundry. Hopefully if I keep being the one that waits with her at the bus stop and feeds her and does her laundry my sister won't be tripping too much about her staying there for a while. There came a time when the risk of remaining tight in the bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom. Anais Nin. | |
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unbelievably there is a free Parenting class in my city that starts April 7th. Hopefully that will help me ALOT. I NEED IT. There came a time when the risk of remaining tight in the bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom. Anais Nin. | |
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It works. But so will many things that the child can understand and that is used consistently.
Once you teach it to the kid, and start to use it and use it the same way every time it should work on most kids. "Keep on shilling for Big Pharm!" |
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