AzureStar said:

What i ment was, some schools (at least here in the Netherlands) are sometimes multifunctional; a combination of child care, kindergarten and school, so if you got kids from different ages, you can still take them at one place.
Also, because a lot of overhead costs, building, cleaning and stuff, are in one organisation, child care can be offered at a reasonable price.

word they is always da projects

With the help of friends, I guess that's the only way left.

AzureStar said:

i wish i could shed some lite of wisdom on that
situation, but the turth is, i have upped quite a few times on a nut and it has never been easy to recoupe.
and i wasn't the keeper of the children...
things will change for you.

You can do it Azure. It may seem bleak now but you will get there.

Thanks, guys...

I'll let you all know where Azure ends up.

I hope everything works out for you Azurestar.

AbucahX said:

Thanks, you...

Welp, I haven't been able to find anything on your township, but I know that with a big city close by, there are plenty of organizations that would be willing to help.

Again, contact the FIA. Explain that you have filed.

Contact the Friend of the Court. You should be able to have a temporary agreement on child support payments. That should at least get you enough money to provide child care, as you are currently living in the same house.
(of course, that assumes that these are his kids ) By the time the divorce is final, you should have enough to help you move out. At this point (finalizing the divorce) you will be renegociating a formal child support payment through the Friend of the Court.

Get some sort of LegalAid. Check this site here for possible contacts: http://www.mlan.net/index.htm

Also, check with your local churches. They may be willing to provide aid as well as some spiritual counsel. Most cities and municipalities have a Christian Services program to help with this.

Of course, having a sit down conversation with your husband and convincing him to do the right thing is a long shot, but worth the effort. Sometimes it helps to have a mediator of sorts, but just understanding where your husband is and what he's willing to (or not willing to) do can help you steel your resolve to go out on your own.

Dauphin said:

Thank you so much, Dauphin, for looking into it and for your advice. I really appreciate it.

I'll certainly be looking into those things... starting tomorrow!

Update: So, I pleaded. Yes, it is true. I called and spoke with someone that I haven't talked to in a while and asked them if they would please, please, please watch my children for me if I got a job... and let me pay them back at a later date. Surprisingly enough, they told me to stop and that yes, the would do that for me. Yay! A small victory for me.

So, then I went up to the club that hired me in December and talked to the manager there and asked him if he would give me a second chance... that I now have someone to watch my kids again. He said he still wants me, but that we need to talk first. (uh-oh) So, I have to go back there at three o'clock today. Wish me luck!

I will report back when I return. Hopefully I can get him to take me back.

Good luck...

AzureStar said:

Famtastic

Looks like your luck is changing! Amazing, huh!

Good luck my dear!

It's about time something went right! Wishing you luck...

YAY! I start tomorrow!

He is starting my medical and dental insurance immediately tommorrow and not making me wait the 30 days... so my kids and I will be covered (which is great because I really need to get to the doctor) and he is starting me out at $11 an hour... still as a greeter. BUT... after the first week he is going to start training me on being a waitress thereand then he will keep me at $11 plus tips!


I am so excited right now I could kiss you all!

Thank you all for all of your advice and all of your support! I am just giddy!

Woo-hoo!!!

It's great to hear things are looking up for you Azure. Good luck!!!

AzureStar said:

I'm so happy for you!!!
See, life ain't so bad if you just have hopes and never give up.
A lesson for all.

Thanks you guys! I am just so very happy right now... you have NO idea!

AzureStar said:

good luck, azure!!! everything's gonna be awright!!!

I am so happy for you!

:perma-grin:

Thanks... really, I mean that.

Hugs to you all and kisses too!

(God, I could just... I don't know what I could just do... but it would be good, whatever it is!)

i'm really glad you're happy AzureStar .. it's amazing how things can turn around sometimes

MrBliss said:

Yes, it is amazing. And, after posting this thread I thought and thought about who could watch my kids and I was left with one person... I just called them back to tell them the news and since I am making more than what I had originally thought I was going to make, I can afford to pay them. They're only asking for $10 a day to watch both of my kids.

I really feel like life is just starting over for me... or I'm picking up my life where it last left off at 21. It is exciting and very frightening at the same time.

So, I'm glad I posted this thread because I was nearly ready to throw in the towel and give up... but all of the supportive and positive responses and orgnotes made me feel like I was letting you all down if I did give up (as silly as that may sound).

So... here we gooo... fun, fun, fun!

AzureStar said:

never give up.
You never know how many options you have until you talk to your friends and ask for help. You'd be amazed at the ammount of offers you'll get from people you've never expected to help you.

I'm glad things are going for you That shows some positivity for the others that are starting over.