Now this dumb guy I had over sat nite. Really nice n stuff. Don't like him. Basically just hung out wit him to shut my friend n her husband up .

Well he was like obsessed I mean OBSESSED wit my kids. Sonrhats one of 2 things.....either he thinks that'll earn him points, or he's a mollester.

So I didn't even invite him to my sons bday party n he keeps
Txtn me all day tellin me hoe he got Noah me n daisy presents n can't wait till his party.....WTF??
Plus my x cheating bf is gonna be there n it's the first time I'm seeing him since the fall out.

Ewy

He's probably trying to earn points. I see friends do this shit all the time, especially the ones that have never had children, go way over the top in trying to get acquainted with them.

But you know...look him up on the sex offender registry just in case.

FauxReal said:

Ya he doesn't have kids.

I dunno

This dude is not taking no for an answer he's been harrassing me nonstop snce sat. It's really lame n if it wasn't for him being a friend of a friend I woulda told him to lose my number by now

TotalANXiousNESS said:

Well being a friend of a friend he probably knows you're just getting out of a relationship, thus presumably vulnerable, so maybe he thinks this is his biggest window of opportunity and is trying a little too hard to capitalize on it. I dunno, just a thought.

Sweetie, don't have this dude around your kids, period.

FauxReal said:

Ohio believe it. N my friend I'd reallllly pissinme off

Ugh

Gotta agree with what vendetta said.

Worst case scenario, he's a pervert like you mentioned.

Best case scenario he's someone you don't want to spend time around like that anyway, so it's probably best to not let the kids form an attachment because it's kind of unfair to them, IMO.

Then there's all the little scenarios in between, none of which scream out "Keep this guy around".

.....

hmmmm edit
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Vendetta1 said:

Vendetta1 said:

oh you ARE good aren'tcha...

See you in SF??

I agree stymie.

If I learned ANYTHING in the last few months it's go wit ur gut!

TotalANXiousNESS said:

GURRL, that is your intuition speaking right there. Don't have that dude around your kids, period.

TotalANXiousNESS said:

Oh hay-ell no. You need to lose him like, yesterday. No taking chances where the babies are concerned, Mamacita!

TotalANXiousNESS said:

The first new things you need to learn is DON'T LET SOMEONE INTO YOUR HOME ON A FIRST DATE and DON'T DO ANYTHING YOU DON'T WANNA DO!

Like, wtf kind of friends do you have that they pressurize you into doing stuff you are uncomfortable with? And what kinda person are you that you let them?

This entire situation had not been here if you had just gone with your gut feeling in the FIRST place.

Anyways. Congrats with the b-day! Why is creepy ex-bf coming over?

Plus, I think you need a stickie called OMG WHAT DID I DO NOWWWW?

Yikes! It seems odd that after you've recently broken up with the old dude who cheated on you, that your friends would set you up with some creepy guy like that. Who the hell invites himself to a b-day party of the son of a woman he just got to know?
And with the cheater coming to the party and maybe even the creepy dude, it just sounds like a disaster waiting to happen.
It sucks that there are so many weirdos in your life right now.

And I agree with what HamsterHuey said before.
[Edited 3/11/10 3:14am]

Rite rite X 4

Thanks guys.

Ppl in general need to lemme alone n I need to be more blunt

TotalANXiousNESS said:

Just be clear to others on what you don't want. To me it seems your 'no' in the story of your friends setting you up with a guy wasn't loud enough. If they keep pressurising, tell them you don't like what they're doing.
If you feel like your comfortzone is being trampled on, tell them you feel pressured and that you don't like it. But thank them for taking an interest.

And with the guy that invited himself; you immediately should have asked where he got the impression that he was invited. Being clear is what saves you from warped perceptions and expectations.

Sure, it can come across as bitchy and harsh, but it keeps away conversations that spiral into zones even more uncomfortable.

How about some time for yourself to get you together 1st. Maybe think about going to school getting some kind of education. No I am not ripping on you but it seems like you jump out of the frying pan and into the fire constantly. Think about you and your kids 1st damn.

HamsterHuey said:

Your advice is so on point!

Ottensen said:

Thanks. I must admit that this kind of advice only stems from experience; in being clear about your feelings you have to hurt some people, but it is better in the long run. You only get there once you reach the "and now it's enough"-stage.

Can I just say that I seriously love all you guys.

You guys are like one of my soul motivations, peop talkers whatever ya would call it, rite now.

You say exactly what I feel, and what I know I SHOULD be doing.

Don't get impatient with me. I know you're all rite.

Thanks.



So heres what I did:

Heres the exact messages from last nite, he kept txtn me n I wasnt answering.

R: you still there??

Me: Ya I'm just really busy rite now. You seem nice and all. I just really wanna be alone.

R: Thats not a nice way of saying no, is it?

(This is this morning now)

Me: I'm just being honest that I don't wanna deal wit any guys AT ALL rite now.

R: Wow. It sounds like you really got screwed over. I'm sorry to hear that. I thought we could have something nice.

.....Wtf I met this guy ONCE n barely looked at him let alonce talked to him.

Me: I'm just totally not looking for anything at all rite now.

R: Ok good luck. Sorry to bother you.


I didn't respond. Just leave it at that rite????

he's a weirdo...unsolicited gifts for children mean one thing...

and don't respond to anymore of his lame texts, he obviously can't take a hint...

thejason said:

OMG.
In all seriousness that is just making me sick to my stomach.
Ok, then I'm not a paranoid freak it's weird.

Maybe the guy just really likes kids but I'm not taking any chances.

ever heard of blocking calls it works really well

HamsterHuey said:

His kids are really close with my kids....I'm close wit his kids, he's close wit mine. They've been at all of eachothers parties for like the last 5 yrs. We were neighbors, member?

TotalANXiousNESS said:

EXACTLY!!! RUNNNNN, Girl, RUNNNNN! He gave you an out: TAKE IT.

TotalANXiousNESS said:

Nah, I missed that.

Well, that's something you have to get used to; bumping into your BIG ASS MISTAKE every now and then.

HamsterHuey said:

I'm plenty used to it.