I think that relationships need some sort of dynamic. Not necessarily fighting, but it can't be perfect all the time. If it is, it gets boring and fizzles out.

Relationship

like the tides of the emotional being's oceans ... natural cycles are good

I'd love a perfect relationship. If I want tension....I'll go to work...or to the gym.

No, I don’t think they need tension. The less the better for me.

But I also think it’s unrealistic to think everything will be happy hunky dory perfect all the time.

CarrieMpls said:

I wish my current one had less tension .

Serious said:

What about positive tension? Like certain disagreements about something?

It's not so much need tension, but how u deal with it. I prefer a smooth relationship with open honest communication. I find that tension comes with misunderstood anything and it is always better to deal with it direct, polite and when u say u forgive really forgive. Some relationships are brought 2 us 2 teach us stuff about us and make us stronger. I still dont think any relationsip needs tension and I tend 2 stay away from people that need that to make them feel whatever. I also agree with Desire .

Yeah, Sexual tension

paisleypark4 said:

Isn't it natural that you always disagree about something ? I could well do without any kind of tension. Apart from sexual tension of course.

It's boring if you've got nothing to argue about

I always got very aroused when arguing with someone I really cared about for years.

I really hate arguing. If you’re someone I’m going to argue with regularly, you’re someone I’m not going to spend much time with.

I’ve known guys in the past who found it to be a way of flirting and showing interest and that really baffles me. There was one guy in particular who was in my circle of friends who used to annoy the bejesus out of me cause it seemed like he was ALWAYS starting some kind of silly argument with me. A friend later told me he had a crush on me and I was dumbfounded. I’d never have guessed it in a million years. I think he later told me it was cause I was the only girl who could ever beat him in a debate.

no necessarily, but they need communication, maturity, and mutual respect enough to deal with tension (or any calamity that comes into the relationship).

Or you need to earn so much money that your partner is willing to forgo a bit of happiness for the lifestyle you afford them, dirty whores.

CarrieMpls said:

Yeah I so agree. I got some like that now they bout 2 get cut off with no warning. HA HA I'm going to listen to Release IT.
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I don't think relationships require it... it is actually nice when there isn't tension

But I don't expect perfect harmony either