TD3 said:

Why? Guilty concience?

i think adoption is an excellent choice if you two should decide you want to give him a sibling..
many people who have a biological child decide to adopt after having their own
there are many babies who need a home..
i recently was planning on giving a child up for adoption to a family that could not have any children..
they were chosen in my mind, but not notified as of yet..

PANDURITO said:

Thanks everyone.

I get what you are saying Jason. I never missed having siblings as a child. My family consists of me and my mom so I do worry about when she is no longer alive. Luckily, she has all of her wishes spelled out in writing.

I have learned through my childhood and adult life that blood is not what necessarily makes a family.

I am really excited about the idea of adopting if we feel that our family is in need of another small person.

MrsMdiver said:

That's true .

Serious said:

Oh yes!

peb319 said:

I always imagined myself adopting if I ever wanted a child.


As you said, there are so many children out there that need a good home.

Having children is such a big thing. You must do what your family believes is right. Whatever gives you and your child the best chance of being balanced and happy. I know single children that are awesome and ones that are total shits. I know people with siblings that are great and ones that suck.

The thing that makes the difference is a happy balanced upbringing and parents or parent that love them and make every effort to provide in every single way.

Adopting is a wonderful thing to consider. Many children do not have the chance to be a part of a loving family.

Personally speaking I am from a large family but my wife is an only child. I believe that she is the most balanced and wonderful person on this earth. Compassion and conflict resolution are 2 of her best skills. Well 2 of the ones i Can talk about here.

Only children can be amazing.Do what is best for your family.

Aelis said:

Serious said:

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

I don't even know what your talking about.

MrsMdiver said:

the minute you get married its, so, when are you having kids...then, when is the next one on its way

sometimes i worry about Ben being an only child...but he is lucky he has cousins around, similar ages...so when we are older and greyer, he will still have some family.

he is also very bright, and we will be able to give him more education opportunities on our meagre wages than we would be able to do with 2 or more kids.

TD3 said:

what is being expressed that shouldn't be said?

Well I guess anybody who grew up an only child has different experiences....for me, it was lonely. I always wished I had a sibling growing up. However, I was spoiled and got almost whatever I wanted so..... Then, after I was grown I found out about a half-sister that nobody ever bothered to tell me about and I was So, while me and my half-sis do communicate, it's just not the same cause I didn't grow up with her and don't really know her

If you are good parents (which I'm sure you are), you are not being cruel towards your child at all.



I'd rather say "do it for population's sake!"

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

My response was to the initiall question/statement of this thread. I didn't make myself clear, my bad. People do this all the time: Why don't you have any children? Why did you have only one child? Or the one that really gets me, why would you have all those kids. I mean, WFT? If you don't have any children or one your selfish. If you have too many than your irresponsible. As long as your loving them, raising them, taking care of them and respecting these kids, why do these folks care or feel the need to share their thoughts?

I guess I should said that from jump, uh Supa.

TD3 said:

I knew what you meant, it was quite clear to me.

thejason said:

I think this is similar to how Chris feels, too.

Yet another reason I'm gonna be the third wheel to your fucking epic bromance later this month...

In a bid to help you clarify your thoughts on whether to further reproduce or not I have taken the liberty of tabulating the mean suggested offspring quotient using the data put forward by the contributors on this thread thus far and extrapolating by means of a complex algothingy. It should only be used as a guide. I take no responsibilty for any eventuality that results from these figures.

Answer = 16.2 children.

Good luck!

PunkMistress said:

you'll be the hottest third wheel ever...

my best friend is coming too, he won't have a clue what we're talking about 99% of the time...he's gonna be the fourth wheel...

thejason said:

He'll be more like a training wheel.

No. It's cruel when you want more than one - and your government forces you to have an abortion if you get pregnant again.

No its not cruel!


I probably wouldnt exist if it wasnt for my sister. She cried and asked my mom why she didnt have a sister. My parents had no intentions to have another.

Genesia said:

Which is why American Right to Liars should just shut up about the issue

MrsMdiver said:

nope

will Selden spend lots of time with his cousins?

make sure he gets lots of kids time as well as adults time

my nephew isn't getting enough kids time and he behaves in a way that other children find peculiar - he talks like a little adult!

there are loads of perks for an only child, I was way jealous of all my only child friends, they didn't have a pesky little sister that bothered them all day long

TheVoid said:

oh dear

PANDURITO said:

have you had any kids lately? Is 8 REALLY enough?!?

No.

I'm an only child.
[Edited 3/9/10 15:25pm]

ZombieKitten said:

He already has 4 girl cousins. He sees two of them almost every week. The other two live here but he has not met them yet, one is only 5 months older than him.

MrsMdiver said:

he'll be fine

ZombieKitten said:

He will be very outnumbered with all of the girls but then he will know how I feel. We still meet up with the birthing group and their babies. The one little girl that is 5 weeks older than him loves to hold his hand.