New topic
PrintableEfan said: Genesia said: Y'know what? Some people just aren't worth it. The person I "defriended" recently is someone who knows the things she says are offensive...but she has this compulsive need to belittle anyone who isn't as miserable as she is. The best way for me to get it across was just to drop her - and never see her again. I've known her for 20 years, but there is absolutely no way that, if we met today, we would be friends. The real difficulty lies in the fact that we still have friends in common. So not encountering her will, in a few limited cases, mean not seeing these other friends. But you know what? It's worth it not to have to deal with her. Yeah, I know what you mean. I've had a few of those "coyote ugly" friends in the past--where you cut off something good just to get away from them. 
In my post, I was thinking more about how I handle (and sometimes don't handle) confrontation. I was projecting a little bit because I'm trying not to be such a wimp when it comes to letting someone know that they've offended me. I get you. In my case, I let one of the friends we have in common know that I've broken off contact with this person. She totally understood.  We don’t mourn artists because we knew them. We mourn them because they helped us know ourselves. | |
- E-mail - orgNote -  Report post to moderator |
lazycrockett said: Move.
I can't! I'm stuck here.
Yeah.. that's another problem: she's in our neighborhood! | |
| - E-mail - orgNote - Report post to moderator |
Top 5 ways to end a friendship.
Do or say something mean to make the other person leave YOU. Start having uncomfortable conversations about money. Drop them a goodbye note or email Find them another friend so they lose interest in YOU. Totally ignore them when they call and don't answer the door when they come by. | |
| - E-mail - orgNote - Report post to moderator |
deadmansbones said: lazycrockett said: Move.
I can't! I'm stuck here.
Yeah.. that's another problem: she's in our neighborhood! Why didn't you say that in the first place? You're stuck with her. We don’t mourn artists because we knew them. We mourn them because they helped us know ourselves. | |
| - E-mail - orgNote - Report post to moderator |
Genesia said: deadmansbones said: I can't! I'm stuck here.
Yeah.. that's another problem: she's in our neighborhood! Why didn't you say that in the first place? You're stuck with her. It is a big point, isn't it? Yeah, she's also got a bad habit of dropping by unannounced.
I just don't want to make enemies. 
Oh.. and get this! Now, I might be too sensitive about this one. She's real weight-conscious! Every time cleans her closet out, she always gives me her "big" clothes! I'm not crazy fat! I'm 5'7" and a size 10--pushing a 12 depending upon the holiday season! She's shorter than I am, and around a zize 6 or 4.. Anyway.. she has some size 10/12's when she was bigger. So she when she cleans-out her closet, she gives me her hand-me-downs.
At first, I was.. fine with it. She's has some nice things! But she always prefaces it by saying, well now these are too big for me, so I'm giving them to you!
I dunno. There's just something about it!
I think I'm just going to cancel lunch tomorrow!  [Edited 3/9/10 11:04am] | |
| - E-mail - orgNote - Report post to moderator |
Follow these simple instructions
go to her house remove clothing defecate on carpet enjoy your freeeeedom!  “If I can shoot rabbits/then I can shoot fascists” | |
| - E-mail - orgNote - Report post to moderator |
 | |
| - E-mail - orgNote - Report post to moderator |