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PrintableFauxie said: heartbeatocean said: oh come on, you people.  It's not that big of a deal. I'm sure you had to get together with your partners at some point before marriage -- or did you just show up blind at the wedding aisle? Like, do you have mail order spouses or something?2000 - Meet girl while traveling, become casual friends and hang out together with other friends 2000-2001 - Stay in touch by e-mail, chat and phone, and grow closer 2001 - Come back, get together, ask "Do you want to spend your life with me?" and she says "yes". Though thinking about it, I always imagine dates to be kinda nerve-wracking and exciting at the same time, so I guess the closest I came to a date would've been the first time seeing her again when I came back in 2001 when we'd grown closer while apart but had never been close physically. That was kinda a funny feeling for maybe half an hour, until I put my arm around her waist and instantly just knew.  I did wait 3 days to ask her to spend her life with me (didn't want to rush into anything ) but in truth I already knew. MY COUSIN WORKS IN A PHARMACY AND SHE SAID THEY ENEMA'D PRANCE INTO OBLIVION WITH FENTONILS!! | |
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BklynBabe said: chocolate1 said: Ask him out. 
I've missed out on opportunities because I sat back and waited for them to make the move, and they thought I wasn't interested. 
Go for it girl, don't be like me!  I'm going to work up my courage tomorrow and see if I can figure out his interest level He went away last week, and I really missed seeing his smile, especially since he has made a point to be uber-friendly.
Plus I happened to see those abs and now I'm all  Sweet Lord the man is fine as hell! Plus it appears he's a real sweetheart on the inside too....
I would be a fool if I didn't at least make sure if the interest was reciprocal. Keep us posted. | |
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heartbeatocean said: Fauxie said: 2000 - Meet girl while traveling, become casual friends and hang out together with other friends 2000-2001 - Stay in touch by e-mail, chat and phone, and grow closer 2001 - Come back, get together, ask "Do you want to spend your life with me?" and she says "yes". Very similar to my one and only marriage. I'm glad yours turned out better than mine.  Then I wouldn't have to ask these questions. 
I was so young and naive, it could've gone horribly wrong, but ultimately I'm going to give credit to my instincts and just feel grateful I found myself in the right place at the right time. MY COUSIN WORKS IN A PHARMACY AND SHE SAID THEY ENEMA'D PRANCE INTO OBLIVION WITH FENTONILS!! | |
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Fauxie said: Fauxie said: 2000 - Meet girl while traveling, become casual friends and hang out together with other friends 2000-2001 - Stay in touch by e-mail, chat and phone, and grow closer 2001 - Come back, get together, ask "Do you want to spend your life with me?" and she says "yes". Though thinking about it, I always imagine dates to be kinda nerve-wracking and exciting at the same time, so I guess the closest I came to a date would've been the first time seeing her again when I came back in 2001 when we'd grown closer while apart but had never been close physically. That was kinda a funny feeling for maybe half an hour, until I put my arm around her waist and instantly just knew. I did wait 3 days to ask her to spend her life with me (didn't want to rush into anything ) but in truth I already knew. | |
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heartbeatocean said: ZombieKitten said: First one I went to high school with, knew him for 6 years second one was a housemate I lived with third one was a random hook-up who just kept coming over for sex. I just don't see that as "dating" really all right, let's change the question and take out the word "date". How about -- do you only show interest in people who excite you or, do you only respond to romantic/sexual overtures no matter how minor or subtle, or do you encourage friendships when it seems they may want more... if they don't necessarily excite you, but they seem like okay people?
okay, let's take the one I married for example the random hook-up guy 
no romantic overtures really 
I could tell he was REALLY REALLY into me that was kind of amazing to me, since nobody before him had shown me that they were so attracted to me before  THAT excited me, but it wasn't necessarily an aspect of their person as much as it was my own narcissism - you know like my ego was so big by that point I hadn't even considered whether it was mutual yet | |
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ZombieKitten said: heartbeatocean said: all right, let's change the question and take out the word "date". How about -- do you only show interest in people who excite you or, do you only respond to romantic/sexual overtures no matter how minor or subtle, or do you encourage friendships when it seems they may want more... if they don't necessarily excite you, but they seem like okay people?
okay, let's take the one I married for example the random hook-up guy
no romantic overtures really
I could tell he was REALLY REALLY into me that was kind of amazing to me, since nobody before him had shown me that they were so attracted to me before THAT excited me, but it wasn't necessarily an aspect of their person as much as it was my own narcissism - you know like my ego was so big by that point I hadn't even considered whether it was mutual yet You married someone because you were chuffed someone found you so hot? MY COUSIN WORKS IN A PHARMACY AND SHE SAID THEY ENEMA'D PRANCE INTO OBLIVION WITH FENTONILS!! | |
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Fauxie said: ZombieKitten said:
okay, let's take the one I married for example the random hook-up guy
no romantic overtures really
I could tell he was REALLY REALLY into me that was kind of amazing to me, since nobody before him had shown me that they were so attracted to me before THAT excited me, but it wasn't necessarily an aspect of their person as much as it was my own narcissism - you know like my ego was so big by that point I hadn't even considered whether it was mutual yet You married someone because you were chuffed someone found you so hot? pretty much I had thought up to that point I was ugly my first boyfriend only went out with me because I insisted the second one was a housemate with benefits this third one actually wanted to be with ME?!?!?! | |
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Fauxie said: heartbeatocean said: oh come on, you people. It's not that big of a deal. I'm sure you had to get together with your partners at some point before marriage -- or did you just show up blind at the wedding aisle? Like, do you have mail order spouses or something?2000 - Meet girl while traveling, become casual friends and hang out together with other friends 2000-2001 - Stay in touch by e-mail, chat and phone, and grow closer 2001 - Come back, get together, ask "Do you want to spend your life with me?" and she says "yes".
I used to always hope that someone would feel that way about me... and I felt the same. That is so sweet! "Love Hurts. Your lies, they cut me. Now your words don't mean a thing. I don't give a damn if you ever loved me..." -Cher, "Woman's World" | |
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ZombieKitten said: Fauxie said: You married someone because you were chuffed someone found you so hot? pretty much I had thought up to that point I was ugly my first boyfriend only went out with me because I insisted the second one was a housemate with benefits this third one actually wanted to be with ME?!?!?! But you still question your own attractiveness! MY COUSIN WORKS IN A PHARMACY AND SHE SAID THEY ENEMA'D PRANCE INTO OBLIVION WITH FENTONILS!! | |
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Fauxie said: ZombieKitten said: pretty much I had thought up to that point I was ugly my first boyfriend only went out with me because I insisted the second one was a housemate with benefits this third one actually wanted to be with ME?!?!?! But you still question your own attractiveness! of course I do
I STILL think I'm ugly and he has to think I'm OK, since he married me, but you know beauty is subjective, so I don't believe him | |
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ZombieKitten said: Fauxie said: But you still question your own attractiveness! of course I do
I STILL think I'm ugly and he has to think I'm OK, since he married me, but you know beauty is subjective, so I don't believe him That's unfortunate.
I think you're very attractive.  MY COUSIN WORKS IN A PHARMACY AND SHE SAID THEY ENEMA'D PRANCE INTO OBLIVION WITH FENTONILS!! | |
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Fauxie said: ZombieKitten said: of course I do
I STILL think I'm ugly and he has to think I'm OK, since he married me, but you know beauty is subjective, so I don't believe him That's unfortunate.
I think you're very attractive. and you are entitled to your own opinion of course  | |
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ZombieKitten said: Fauxie said: That's unfortunate.
I think you're very attractive. and you are entitled to your own opinion of course  | |
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ZombieKitten said: Fauxie said: That's unfortunate.
I think you're very attractive. and you are entitled to your own opinion of course 
The Master's obligated to say it, but I'm not. MY COUSIN WORKS IN A PHARMACY AND SHE SAID THEY ENEMA'D PRANCE INTO OBLIVION WITH FENTONILS!! | |
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Fauxie said: ZombieKitten said: and you are entitled to your own opinion of course
The Master's obligated to say it, but I'm not. exactly, that is why I don't believe him  | |
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ZombieKitten said: Fauxie said:
The Master's obligated to say it, but I'm not. exactly, that is why I don't believe him And your reason for not believing me? MY COUSIN WORKS IN A PHARMACY AND SHE SAID THEY ENEMA'D PRANCE INTO OBLIVION WITH FENTONILS!! | |
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Vendetta1 said: ZombieKitten said: and you are entitled to your own opinion of course and my opinion is you are wrong, of course I completely disagree with both of your statements | |
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Fauxie said: ZombieKitten said: exactly, that is why I don't believe him And your reason for not believing me? because you have only seen photoshopped photos of me of course  | |
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ZombieKitten said: Fauxie said: And your reason for not believing me? because you have only seen photoshopped photos of me of course What about pics taken by other people at meet-ups?
Anyway, I declare your self-image issues irrelevant because it doesn't change reality. If I and other find you attractive then by definition you are attractive. You're attractive whether you know it or not and that's that. So there!  Now I'm vexed. Go and eat some cauliflower and think about what's happened here today. MY COUSIN WORKS IN A PHARMACY AND SHE SAID THEY ENEMA'D PRANCE INTO OBLIVION WITH FENTONILS!! | |
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Fauxie said: ZombieKitten said: because you have only seen photoshopped photos of me of course What about pics taken by other people at meet-ups?
Anyway, I declare your self-image issues irrelevant because it doesn't change reality. If I and other find you attractive then by definition you are attractive. You're attractive whether you know it or not and that's that. So there! Now I'm vexed. Go and eat some cauliflower and think about what's happened here today.HA! you can't change 30 years of ingrained issues!  | |
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ZombieKitten said: Fauxie said: What about pics taken by other people at meet-ups?
Anyway, I declare your self-image issues irrelevant because it doesn't change reality. If I and other find you attractive then by definition you are attractive. You're attractive whether you know it or not and that's that. So there! Now I'm vexed. Go and eat some cauliflower and think about what's happened here today.HA! you can't change 30 years of ingrained issues! MY COUSIN WORKS IN A PHARMACY AND SHE SAID THEY ENEMA'D PRANCE INTO OBLIVION WITH FENTONILS!! | |
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Fauxie said: Fauxie said: 2000 - Meet girl while traveling, become casual friends and hang out together with other friends 2000-2001 - Stay in touch by e-mail, chat and phone, and grow closer 2001 - Come back, get together, ask "Do you want to spend your life with me?" and she says "yes". Though thinking about it, I always imagine dates to be kinda nerve-wracking and exciting at the same time, so I guess the closest I came to a date would've been the first time seeing her again when I came back in 2001 when we'd grown closer while apart but had never been close physically. That was kinda a funny feeling for maybe half an hour, until I put my arm around her waist and instantly just knew. I did wait 3 days to ask her to spend her life with me (didn't want to rush into anything ) but in truth I already knew.oh jeez
dates in my experience are either awesome & thrilling, or awful, or boring. | |
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evenstar3 said: Fauxie said: Though thinking about it, I always imagine dates to be kinda nerve-wracking and exciting at the same time, so I guess the closest I came to a date would've been the first time seeing her again when I came back in 2001 when we'd grown closer while apart but had never been close physically. That was kinda a funny feeling for maybe half an hour, until I put my arm around her waist and instantly just knew. I did wait 3 days to ask her to spend her life with me (didn't want to rush into anything ) but in truth I already knew.oh jeez
dates in my experience are either awesome & thrilling, or awful, or boring. See, I like the idea of nervous excitement, up to a point, but knowing how I am I'm not upset I never really got to date. Awful or boring I could definitely live without. I think I'd be a pretty bad date so I think how things turned out is definitely for the best. MY COUSIN WORKS IN A PHARMACY AND SHE SAID THEY ENEMA'D PRANCE INTO OBLIVION WITH FENTONILS!! | |
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Fauxie said: evenstar3 said: oh jeez
dates in my experience are either awesome & thrilling, or awful, or boring. See, I like the idea of nervous excitement, up to a point, but knowing how I am I'm not upset I never really got to date. Awful or boring I could definitely live without. I think I'd be a pretty bad date so I think how things turned out is definitely for the best. i wonder how i am, actually! i think i'm a good date, but i suppose you can't ever really be subjective about that kinda thing. | |
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heartbeatocean said: In other words, how high do you hold the bar? Discuss.
aw hell naw never go on a date with someone you aint feelin' that just is all bad.altho makes for good bad date stories | |
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Christopher said: heartbeatocean said: In other words, how high do you hold the bar? Discuss.
aw hell naw never go on a date with someone you aint feelin' that just is all bad.altho makes for good bad date stories share! "We may deify or demonize them but not ignore them. And we call them genius, because they are the people who change the world." |
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I hold the bar very high... actualy i hold th bar too high | |
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wooo the other day i was kicking it and this guy comes up to me he looked just like my ex he asked me if he new where this place was. (but he had a girl with him). he was finest i seen in town compared to all the rest.
and "those" kind of guys is where im usually shy lol P.s. ya im picky [Edited 3/7/10 20:19pm] | |
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ZombieKitten said: heartbeatocean said: all right, let's change the question and take out the word "date". How about -- do you only show interest in people who excite you or, do you only respond to romantic/sexual overtures no matter how minor or subtle, or do you encourage friendships when it seems they may want more... if they don't necessarily excite you, but they seem like okay people?
okay, let's take the one I married for example the random hook-up guy
no romantic overtures really
I could tell he was REALLY REALLY into me that was kind of amazing to me, since nobody before him had shown me that they were so attracted to me before THAT excited me, but it wasn't necessarily an aspect of their person as much as it was my own narcissism - you know like my ego was so big by that point I hadn't even considered whether it was mutual yet BINGO! That's EXACTLY what happens to me EVERY TIME. They are nuts about me, and I fall for the attention. But if I really like a guy, then it's chase, chase, chase... 
I've never found a situation that's in between the two extremes, or shall we say ...mutually satisfying... | |
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heartbeatocean said: ZombieKitten said:
okay, let's take the one I married for example the random hook-up guy
no romantic overtures really
I could tell he was REALLY REALLY into me that was kind of amazing to me, since nobody before him had shown me that they were so attracted to me before THAT excited me, but it wasn't necessarily an aspect of their person as much as it was my own narcissism - you know like my ego was so big by that point I hadn't even considered whether it was mutual yet BINGO! That's EXACTLY what happens to me EVERY TIME. They are nuts about me, and I fall for the attention. But if I really like a guy, then it's chase, chase, chase...
I've never found a situation that's in between the two extremes, or shall we say ...mutually satisfying... If a guys is nuts about me, I get freaked out and turned off. Just like me enough to want to see me sometimes, share things with me. Don't worship me because that's a surefire way for me to not be interested. | |
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