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PrintableAs long as there's chemistry, I mean, sexual attraction, that's fine by me. I don't follow "beauty patterns" or similar non-existent bullshit...
But, we're talking about dates. I'm much more demanding when it comes to possible long term relationships,  | |
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JoeTyler said: As long as there's chemistry, I mean, sexual attraction, that's fine by me. I don't follow "beauty patterns" or similar non-existent bullshit...
But, we're talking about dates. I'm much more demanding when it comes to possible long term relationships, I just assumed dates lead to a long term relationship. | |
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BklynBabe said: chocolate1 said: Since I've gotten older, I've tried to be more open-minded. But as someone else said, it starts with a phonecall.
(I seem to attract losers, freaks and weirdos, so I'm going back to being selective.  )sounds like a Jazmine Sullivan song!  The follow-up to Cher's Gypsies, Tramps, and Thieves.
As I reflect back on my "dating" moments, which are actually very few, I guess I was dating mostly schmoes, but then somehow schmoes that peaked my interest. LOL. I'm realizing now that I am sooooo off the dating game, it's a shame! PS my crush has me sprung and doesn't even know it....if he would ask for a date, he would probably get hurt. LOL. But I'm too shy/anxious/stupid/scared of rejection to ask him out. And for some reason, I think he is trying to throw hints, and I'm sending some serious weird mixed signals back. He probably thinks I'm the biggest flake. Ask him out. 
I've missed out on opportunities because I sat back and waited for them to make the move, and they thought I wasn't interested. 
((Hopefully I will meet someone who I actually want to be with, and who wants to be with me. It doesn't usually work that way for me. I get the least desirables following me around, and the ones I want don't know or care that I'm alive. My crush and I keep going around in circles and it doesn't seem like it's ever going to happen.  ))
Go for it girl, don't be like me!  "Love Hurts. Your lies, they cut me. Now your words don't mean a thing. I don't give a damn if you ever loved me..." -Cher, "Woman's World" | |
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heartbeatocean said: OKAY. To clarify my own personal situation...
 because I know everything is about ME
... anyhoo...so lately, yeah, I'm REALLY single right now. Yet, I'm friendly and fun.  At least TWO mature men have indicated they want to be better friends. These are friendships -- not just cold callers I meet on the street -- 
We have a lot in common -- one plays music in a group I play with, the other I work with...  trying to remember if there are others asking me out?...
Older single men. Really nice people and not unattractive. I'd probably get along with them just fine. Both are older. I've done older, not really into it anymore. ALL my past relationships formulated by someone pursuing me, going along with it, getting hooked for a while, until I woke up one day and was like  . So I'm on the lookout. Trying to be a bit more proactive with my choosing...In that case - if it's someone I already know, I'll know when they ask if I'm interested in them in "that way" or not. And if I'm not, I wouldn't accept a date. |
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heartbeatocean said: ZombieKitten said: nobody really asked me so I would have been only to grateful to date anyone that asked, except for this one guy that looked like a skull with blonde hair
I've taken the "grateful to anyone that asked" route...thinking maybe I should find some standards.
no good can come of it, right?  | |
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Sometimes I wonder what it would be like to go on a date. I'm pretty sure I'd fail at it in every way imaginable though. MY COUSIN WORKS IN A PHARMACY AND SHE SAID THEY ENEMA'D PRANCE INTO OBLIVION WITH FENTONILS!! | |
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Fauxie said: Sometimes I wonder what it would be like to go on a date. I'm pretty sure I'd fail at it in every way imaginable though.
I would laugh in a nervous annoying way at everything said  | |
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chocolate1 said: Ask him out.
I've missed out on opportunities because I sat back and waited for them to make the move, and they thought I wasn't interested.
Go for it girl, don't be like me! I'm going to work up my courage tomorrow and see if I can figure out his interest level He went away last week, and I really missed seeing his smile, especially since he has made a point to be uber-friendly.
Plus I happened to see those abs and now I'm all  Sweet Lord the man is fine as hell! Plus it appears he's a real sweetheart on the inside too....
I would be a fool if I didn't at least make sure if the interest was reciprocal. | |
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BklynBabe said: chocolate1 said: Ask him out.
I've missed out on opportunities because I sat back and waited for them to make the move, and they thought I wasn't interested.
Go for it girl, don't be like me! I'm going to work up my courage tomorrow and see if I can figure out his interest level He went away last week, and I really missed seeing his smile, especially since he has made a point to be uber-friendly.
Plus I happened to see those abs and now I'm all Sweet Lord the man is fine as hell! Plus it appears he's a real sweetheart on the inside too....
I would be a fool if I didn't at least make sure if the interest was reciprocal. Good Luck! 
(living vicariously...  )"Love Hurts. Your lies, they cut me. Now your words don't mean a thing. I don't give a damn if you ever loved me..." -Cher, "Woman's World" | |
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ZombieKitten said: Fauxie said: Sometimes I wonder what it would be like to go on a date. I'm pretty sure I'd fail at it in every way imaginable though.
I would laugh in a nervous annoying way at everything said
We should go on a date.
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chocolate1 said: Good Luck!
(living vicariously... )gurl, you know I will update you! *crosses fingers* this guy has like the sexiest damn lips too
I wish I dared post his pic on here for y'all because it's just crazy how hot he is, yet he's like totally approachable. Heck, even if we end up friends, I'm cool. | |
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Fauxie said: ZombieKitten said: I would laugh in a nervous annoying way at everything said
We should go on a date.
  
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ZombieKitten said: Fauxie said:
We should go on a date.
I'm quite sure I'd still be single, still having never been on a date let alone been in a relationship if it hadn't been for bumping into Mon in my life one balmy evening in Bangkok. MY COUSIN WORKS IN A PHARMACY AND SHE SAID THEY ENEMA'D PRANCE INTO OBLIVION WITH FENTONILS!! | |
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Fauxie said: ZombieKitten said:
I'm quite sure I'd still be single, still having never been on a date let alone been in a relationship if it hadn't been for bumping into Mon in my life one balmy evening in Bangkok. I've just somehow gone from relationship to relationship without a date | |
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ZombieKitten said: Fauxie said: I'm quite sure I'd still be single, still having never been on a date let alone been in a relationship if it hadn't been for bumping into Mon in my life one balmy evening in Bangkok. I've just somehow gone from relationship to relationship without a date Let's go out for Japanese, just you and me. I'll try to be all suave and come up with some smooth lines, and you dress up all lady-like and shit. MY COUSIN WORKS IN A PHARMACY AND SHE SAID THEY ENEMA'D PRANCE INTO OBLIVION WITH FENTONILS!! | |
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Fauxie said: ZombieKitten said: I've just somehow gone from relationship to relationship without a date Let's go out for Japanese, just you and me. I'll try to be all suave and come up with some smooth lines, and you dress up all lady-like and shit. I only know suburban housewife chic | |
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ZombieKitten said: Fauxie said: Let's go out for Japanese, just you and me. I'll try to be all suave and come up with some smooth lines, and you dress up all lady-like and shit. I only know suburban housewife chic That'll do. I know you scrub up pretty well. I'll actually have a shave, it'll be awesome. If you suck at being on a date I totally won't tell you, and you do the same for me, ok?  MY COUSIN WORKS IN A PHARMACY AND SHE SAID THEY ENEMA'D PRANCE INTO OBLIVION WITH FENTONILS!! | |
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Fauxie said: ZombieKitten said: I only know suburban housewife chic That'll do. I know you scrub up pretty well. I'll actually have a shave, it'll be awesome. If you suck at being on a date I totally won't tell you, and you do the same for me, ok? oh, you know that one time I actully looked nice? That was cause I spent an hour and a half in the make-up department in the TV studio, I've never been able to achiever anything similar again myself
but I guess if I wear this nobody will notice
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ZombieKitten said: Fauxie said: That'll do. I know you scrub up pretty well. I'll actually have a shave, it'll be awesome. If you suck at being on a date I totally won't tell you, and you do the same for me, ok? oh, you know that one time I actully looked nice? That was cause I spent an hour and a half in the make-up department in the TV studio, I've never been able to achiever anything similar again myself
but I guess if I wear this nobody will notice
Ok, well make sure you're going on TV before our date.  MY COUSIN WORKS IN A PHARMACY AND SHE SAID THEY ENEMA'D PRANCE INTO OBLIVION WITH FENTONILS!! | |
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ZombieKitten said: heartbeatocean said: I've taken the "grateful to anyone that asked" route...thinking maybe I should find some standards.
no good can come of it, right? well, lots of good can come of it. I guess that's what brings me to ask. I wouldn't mind hanging out with people since I don't have much else going on, but it's exhausting to get into the middle of something and then have to back out mid-way, if you know what I mean. Like maybe I should take the longer view. | |
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ZombieKitten said: but I guess if I wear this nobody will notice
it's like a Snuggie gone wrong.... | |
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heartbeatocean said: ZombieKitten said:
no good can come of it, right? well, lots of good can come of it. I guess that's what brings me to ask. I wouldn't mind hanging out with people since I don't have much else going on, but it's exhausting to get into the middle of something and then have to back out mid-way, if you know what I mean. Like maybe I should take the longer view. I wouldn't know I've never actually "dated" | |
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ZombieKitten said: Fauxie said: I'm quite sure I'd still be single, still having never been on a date let alone been in a relationship if it hadn't been for bumping into Mon in my life one balmy evening in Bangkok. I've just somehow gone from relationship to relationship without a date oh come on, you people. It's not that big of a deal. I'm sure you had to get together with your partners at some point before marriage -- or did you just show up blind at the wedding aisle? Like, do you have mail order spouses or something? | |
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BklynBabe said: ZombieKitten said: but I guess if I wear this nobody will notice
it's like a Snuggie gone wrong.... I think it's nice. I'm going in this:  MY COUSIN WORKS IN A PHARMACY AND SHE SAID THEY ENEMA'D PRANCE INTO OBLIVION WITH FENTONILS!! | |
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ZombieKitten said: heartbeatocean said: well, lots of good can come of it. I guess that's what brings me to ask. I wouldn't mind hanging out with people since I don't have much else going on, but it's exhausting to get into the middle of something and then have to back out mid-way, if you know what I mean. Like maybe I should take the longer view. I wouldn't know I've never actually "dated"Well, maybe that's my fear! That I'll agree to go to a show with someone, and the next thing I know, I'm filing a fiancé petition. (oh wait, I already did that ) | |
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heartbeatocean said: ZombieKitten said: I've just somehow gone from relationship to relationship without a date oh come on, you people. It's not that big of a deal. I'm sure you had to get together with your partners at some point before marriage -- or did you just show up blind at the wedding aisle? Like, do you have mail order spouses or something?First one I went to high school with, knew him for 6 years second one was a housemate I lived with third one was a random hook-up who just kept coming over for sex. I just don't see that as "dating" really | |
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heartbeatocean said: ZombieKitten said: I've just somehow gone from relationship to relationship without a date oh come on, you people. It's not that big of a deal. I'm sure you had to get together with your partners at some point before marriage -- or did you just show up blind at the wedding aisle? Like, do you have mail order spouses or something?2000 - Meet girl while traveling, become casual friends and hang out together with other friends 2000-2001 - Stay in touch by e-mail, chat and phone, and grow closer 2001 - Come back, get together, ask "Do you want to spend your life with me?" and she says "yes". MY COUSIN WORKS IN A PHARMACY AND SHE SAID THEY ENEMA'D PRANCE INTO OBLIVION WITH FENTONILS!! | |
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ZombieKitten said: heartbeatocean said: oh come on, you people. It's not that big of a deal. I'm sure you had to get together with your partners at some point before marriage -- or did you just show up blind at the wedding aisle? Like, do you have mail order spouses or something?First one I went to high school with, knew him for 6 years second one was a housemate I lived with third one was a random hook-up who just kept coming over for sex. I just don't see that as "dating" really all right, let's change the question and take out the word "date". How about -- do you only show interest in people who excite you or, do you only respond to romantic/sexual overtures no matter how minor or subtle, or do you encourage friendships when it seems they may want more... if they don't necessarily excite you, but they seem like okay people? | |
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Fauxie said: heartbeatocean said: oh come on, you people. It's not that big of a deal. I'm sure you had to get together with your partners at some point before marriage -- or did you just show up blind at the wedding aisle? Like, do you have mail order spouses or something?2000 - Meet girl while traveling, become casual friends and hang out together with other friends 2000-2001 - Stay in touch by e-mail, chat and phone, and grow closer 2001 - Come back, get together, ask "Do you want to spend your life with me?" and she says "yes". Very similar to my one and only marriage. I'm glad yours turned out better than mine. Then I wouldn't have to ask these questions. | |
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