Two years ago, I´ve been crazy in love with a guy I met at work. We worked together only for 3 months and since we were teachers, we only got to meet each other during the breaks in the hallways, never having a chance to say much to each other. I managed to get his email and told him after our work together ended what I felt for him. He sent me a really sweet letter apologizing saying he already had a girlfriend and that he doesn´t want to jeapordize their relationship in any way cause he loves her a lot and he believes she loves him, too. I cried for 2 months because of it and now 2 years later, I got a message on facebook from him out of blue asking how was I and if I still worked there?

What do you think this means?

he's testing the waters...

perhaps he dumped or got dumped...

ask him for more info ala "I'm great how are YOU??"...

first.
i do not understand facebook.

second.

do not read too much in his message. my instincts say ur gonna get hurt.

AndGodCreatedMe said:

It could be something more, but it also doesn't have to be. Don't get too crazy too soon

Aelis said:

RenHoek said:

Exactly. Maybe he's new to facebook and wants to add you to his friendlist and say "hi" to you

zaza said:

the new with facebook part.

AndGodCreatedMe said:

Oh come on

dag said:

It means NOTHING don't reply and move on....

zaza said:

i am not lying lol

TD3 said:

be nice.

there are other ways.

AndGodCreatedMe said:

I know I don't like facebook that much, but it's good to stay in touch with some people. That's all, I'm not too crazy about that.

yeah, i'v forced in it also

AndGodCreatedMe said:

Being nice really has nothing to do with it, just leave it alone.

TD3 said:

i do not agree at all.

being nice does not cost u damn thing

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ya something is up if he's contacting u
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AndGodCreatedMe said:

Have you returned every call/messege you've recieved in your life? I would think probably not. I don't see any reasons to hold conversation with someone only to tell them I don't wanna be bothered, I'm not interested etc, etc. That's unnecessary and could be viewed/seen as being mean or rude. We see things differenlty, that's just fine.


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booty said:

Yeah, he just wants to say "hi", because he just found you on fb. That's all.

zaza said:

some dude playing online games

ya well what she is supposed to say? Hey motherfucker thanks for breaking my heart, how's it going?
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dag said:

Tell him that Im currently in love with seeingvoices , he can go away

No seriously, You have to check what he wants , if he wants to say hi and be friends then thats ok...other than that, Im not sure, maybe his girlfriend left him thats why he is contacting you again, I think time will tell .

booty said:

booty said:

LOL! how did he break her heart? There was nothing going on to begin with and he was just being honest that he was in a realtionship, what else was he to do?

by the way, i don't think his message on facebook means anything, he's only saying "hi"....get over it

Aelis said:

See, that´s what I fear. You can´t help but start building some hopes for that. I´ve been single forever. There were really just few guys that I´ve been really in love with. He was one of them. The fact that it didn´t work out back than hurt so badly, I was walking crying for weeks. The message he sent me back then did not make me hate him. I even grew more respect for him cause he was honest AND being faithful to someone he loved at that time which are great qualities, aren´t they? And we said to each other than we just stay out of touch. That´s why I don´t understand why after those 2 or 3 years, he´s sending me a message. I think (hope) because he´s not with her anymore and that maybe he´s interested cause he did pay me compliments before. So I don´t know. I just don´t understand why he´d send a message otherwise. I mean would anyone of you ever send a message to someone you had a history like this with?

I answered him and also asked him if he´s still with that girl. We´ll see what he answers.I am just afraid I´ll get hurt again.

Thanks for all the replies, guys.
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zaza said:

well, yeah, but even being new to the facebook, would you add there just "anybody"? I´ve added few friends to my list, haven´t even added some of my "friends" or people I see regularly. Why would you wanna add to your list someone you haven´t seen for years and dumped years ago. See, I am just trying to figure out what that means other than that he´s maybe interested. I don´t wanna get hyped too much, but why would someone do something like that if they weren´t interested...?

booty said:

When you´re in love with someone and they´re not interested, it still hurts, you know? Even though, I agree he didn´t do anything bad, but it still hurt.


Me neither. I´ve had my profile there for about a year, added my first picture there about 3 months ago and sent about 6 messages altogether.

TD3 said:

If he´s insterested, then I definately AM interested, so I need to find out more. I wouldn´t wanna miss my chance.

If he´s not interested, it´s gonna hurt again. I wouldn´t wanna be just friends. Can´t imagine being friends with someone you´re in love with and watching them being with other people. I either want him to be with me or never see him again.

dag said:

There's only one way to know what it means. Respond and find out.

He may just want to say hello. He may have been dumped and is looking for you to make him "feel better" about it. He may have taken a job in sales and wants to sell you something.

If you don't want to find out, ignore him.

(btw - I think it's most likely he saw you on facebook and is just saying "hi".)

CarrieMpls said:

I did. I´ll keep you updated.

dag said:

I know. I do the same. I'm good at making stories in my head before knowing for sure if there are any chances for us at all. Still, I try to be ready for the truth.

You do have a point there, but I have wondered such things about the only guy I have loved so far as well, analysing what he would say and do and I'm still pretty much confused because none of the things he would do turned out to be logic. Still, everyone is an individual and nothing I say here doesn't have to mean much. I would just like to tell you once more not to rush anywhere in your thoughts, if you know what I mean.

I hope everything goes well

Aelis said:

Thanks for your reply. I know exactly what you´re saying. I am prepared for it ending tin a bad way (I don´t know any other ending ), but I noticed that I cheered up today imagining some things while trying to remind myself STOP IT, YOU´LL END UP CRYING AS USUAL!
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