mine are clingy, but less so since they've moved away.

PunkMistress said:

Same here, though my mom has told at times it was hard to keep her mouth zipped. I find difficult once in a while too, but I've said nothing.

My own mother is a meddler.

It's coming that I will have to tell her to stay out of my business and telling me what I should and should not do. Although I don't listen to her when she gets that way but it bugs the fuck outta me

novabrkr said:

Wow, if that didn't hit home...

I have a mom, stepdad, dad, and stepmom, so growing up I found that I had to answer to a lot of people, and manage everyone's expectations of me.

My mom sends her kids "just wondering" type of emails or texts or gets on MSN or the phone every day. We have to be careful what we choose to share with her because it is often "megaphoned" (as we have coined it) back to the rest of the family.

I love my mom.

Where is Sammi J.?

sexyAuntyFuka said:

At Christmas time when I was growing out my beard, my mom was harping on it everyday until I was just like "shutap mam" after one of her comments.

Keep in mind her husband (my stepdad) had worn a full beard for all of the years I lived at home, so I don't know what her issue was.

My mother rarely butted in my business and I haven't spoken to my father since 1985 when I graduated high school and when she finally divorced his ass.

vainandy said:

Did you announce your bizniss though?

Cinnie said:

You're her little boy, and she wants to see your whole face.

chocolate1 said:

My mom is coming up to visit this weekend.
But she needs to stop fronting. She's not coming to visit ME. She's coming to shop. When I first moved to Dallas,the mall 10 minutes from my place became her favorite place to shop. In 2005 I moved away from her favorite mall and she didnt come to visit me at all!


In october I moved closer to it

So she's coming to visit.

Thats messed up

ThreadCula said:

We had a "don't ask, don't tell" type relationship. In 1990, I was best friends with a straight girl and we partied together every night in straight clubs. Finally, she convinced me to go with her to a gay club (she loved hanging out with gay men). After a few times going to the gay club with her, I finally admitted and accepted to myself what I was and to the girl too. I never kept secrets from my mother though, I just simply didn't tell her stuff that I thought was none of her business. I told her the very next morning about the girl and I going to the club (you never know who knows who and might see me coming and going from the club) and simply left it at that. She also knew it was my main hang out even when the girl didn't go. Finally, she asked the girl if the two of us were dating and the girl told her we were, thinking she was doing me a favor. I told her I wish she had told her that we were just friends and leave it at that.

We did have a blowup at each other a few years later when some security guard was telling lies about me to my brother inlaw and it got back to my mother. Like I said before, you never know who knows who. My brother inlaw is black and was a mechanic and was working on my car. The security guard's car was at the same shop and when he recognized my car, he told my brother inlaw all these lies about the owner of the car (which was me). He never dreamed this black man was any relation to me. Naturally, my brother inlaw told my mother and she confronted me about it. They were lies that I was doing heavy drugs and practically had a harem of men. I told her that I didn't do drugs and I didn't mind responding to that part of the question because it would definately be her business if I was doing drugs and living in her house. As for the other part of her question about the men, I laughed and told her that I was glad to see I was so popular (she knew that lie sounded rediculous herself) but I did tell her as far as who I'm seeing goes (I never mentioned gender), that it was my business and none of hers. She never asked me anything about who I was seeing ever again.

Through the years, I had gay friends over in front of her (even some lovers) and she was fine with all of them and even would take up for my best friend and take his side against me sometimes. She never asked me what was up between me and any of them but I think she knew about me but knew better than to ask. I never hid anything but I never told anything either. I went the "Prince route" of doing as I please in her face but still left things a mystery. I guess I never told her because even though I think she knew and would have accepted it, there was still a tiny part of me that was afraid she wouldn't. I think she never asked me for fear of what my reaction would be to her for even asking.
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CarrieMpls said:

same here

vainandy said:

Even though everyone knows my orientation, this is basically as much as I share in person too.

GirlBrother said:

My mom and I are on great terms, but honestly we talk maybe once a month. And that's often an email or text. I love that she has never been all in my business. My old mother in law was the exact opposite. The two of us couldnt be out of the house for a few hours without her wanting us to call to make sure we were ok.
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My parents are dead.

Vendetta1 said:

Genesia said:

Hell yeah my mom and dad still think they are entitled to know my finances and wanna see my bank statements they say because they wanna know if me and my husband are stable.. I moved out at 18 because my mom wouldnt stop opening my mail and telling me I only use her house like its a hotel... eat, sleep,and get ready ... my parents are just too damn nosy and in my business I tell them they gotta give it up or I'll never tell them anything personal ever again... And so far they have been a little bit better

I hope you come back to these things you have said when your parents are no longer here
much all

My parents have never tried to run my life!

Vendetta1 said:

you know that ain't right.. so many degrees wrong, I don't know were to start.

I dont think my mum was THAT bad...there was a huge generation gap, i left home at 16.
I never realized how tough she had it raising 3 kids with no husband (widow)

anywho..i try not to "smother" my son & let him live & learn. Its hard though.
Raising kids is hard. Raising a GOOD kid is VERY hard.

TD3 said:

Well, it's true.

I posted that to try to give the OP some type of perspective. They should work it out with their parents, in my heartfelt opinion. They can say: mind your own damn business, I love you.

You don't get another set,