...a convicted child molester?

In 1997, when I lived in Minneapolis, and then St. Paul, I dated a slightly older guy. He was about 51, and I was around 29. Quite a diff, but at the time, it seemed to work. Looking back, I could have done a LOT damn better.

But it didn't last long. He told me at one point, near the end of it all, that he was a convicted child molester. !!!! What teh FUCK?! I told the other house mates (he had a huge house and rented out the other rooms in the house), and they all practically fled within a month's time. I left within that time period. I only talked to him once or twice since then, and it was online only.

Tonight I decided to see if I could find him on Facebook or something, just to see what the old codger looked like. I didn't find him there, but I did find him here.

I about hurled. I can't believe he went BACK to prison for that shit, and ....well, that he did it again, at all. I believe that some offenders can be truly rehabilitated, but this guy is chronic! It's the one regret I have in life - dating this guy for even the short time I did. It was cleansing to write about all this in my book, and get it out, and off, of me.

I'm shocked, but I'm not, at this update.

Wait a minute . . . you went through the trouble of saving all this porn on disks AFTER finding out he was a pedophile with the "plan" to contact the police yet you didn't do anything with it??? If he was already a convicted pedophile he would've been in violation of his parole/probation by merely possessing child porn and would've hopefully been put back in jail.

Yeah, it may have caught up with him eventually but I wonder how many kids were unnecessarily molested since '97 that didn't need to be if you had contacted the police with this evidence.

This thread got majorly fucked up.

ernestsewell said:

what would I do...probably vomit like a MILLION times.
as for the bolded part....you really can't believe it? you really believe that some offenders can be truly rehabilitated? really? I don't.

Vendetta1 said:

It wasn't warm and fuzzy to begin with but how so?

SCNDLS said:

Once he knew that I knew he still had child porn, I felt it was a very dangerous situation for me to be in. It's why I left quite quickly, as did the other house mates. I'm not totally believing he was molesting anyone while I was there, but sure he could have done it after. He obviously did and got caught 8 years after the fact, because we see his arrest record in this thread.

Vendetta1 said:

It wasn't warm and fuzzy to begin with but how so?

novabrkr said:

I do a background check on people.

SCNDLS said:

because I having major issues with Ernest's posts. I can't wrap my mind around this bullshit at all.

connorhawke said:

You think someone without a dick can't molest a child?

SCNDLS said:

because I having major issues with Ernest's posts. I can't wrap my mind around this bullshit at all.

I get that it was a dangerous situation for you but you said you planned to report him to the police after moving out. I'm just curious as to why you didn't in THIS case after you got out, especially after seeing he possesed porn with 5 year olds performing sexual acts?

That alone is illegal and definitely in violation of his parole, presuming he was on parole/probation for the earlier offense he told you about.. Why would it matter if you knew he wasn't molesting anyone at the time and why save the porn, then not do anything with it?? If he was already a convicted pedophile AND was in possession of disgusting child porn, he's OBVIOUSLY not rehabilitated and needed to have his sorry ass in jail.

SCNDLS said:

don't get me started again on how mandatory minimum drug laws create situations where assholes like this roam free while non violent drug offenders fill our prisons...

Vendetta1 said:

Yeah, it was already a bad situation. But it took a new turn when ernest mentioned he found kiddie porn and didn't disclose it.

ernest, I think you made a mistake by not IMMEDIATELY turning the porn over to the cops, but you can't go back and fix things. Just be glad this dude got caught and consider that you've learned something from the situation.

Vendetta1 said:

Yeah, it was already a bad situation. But it took a new turn when ernest mentioned he found kiddie porn and didn't disclose it.

ernest, I think you made a mistake by not IMMEDIATELY turning the porn over to the cops, but you can't go back and fix things. Just be glad this dude got caught and consider that you've learned something from the situation.
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Lammastide said:

While I can see that, I suppose until you're in that sort of volatile situation, you can't fully understand the actions of another. And as I stated before, one of the other former house mates could have done something like that as well, as far as calling the police. I don't know. I never kept in touch with any of them.

Shorty said:

I meant that I can't believe he was repeating his crimes after serving time once (at least) already to the point that I had met him. Yes I do believe some offenders can be rehabilitated. Some, like this guy, cannot - outside of God swooping down and spankin' his backside Himself.

However, hindsight and such - I can see that perhaps I'm not that surprised because he really does have that dark side to him, and unless he's chemically castrated, or jailed for life, he'll always be battling whether to do it or not.

Vendetta1 said:

With THIS post? Explain?

ernestsewell said:

there is nothing to say that hasn't been said already. Your only real regret is that you saw kiddie porn.

Its been a long time since a thread made me cry. It is bad enough that child molesters get so little time in jail but even worse when kids can't count on adults to help them.

Genesia said:

DUH! That's why only men are child molesters. . . . ( )

SUPRMAN said:

can we go five damn seconds without your woman bashing? We get it: women are evil.

But Ernest, don't feel too bad. Your downloading kiddie porn to a disc is illegal in itself, so your good deed may have been punished.

SUPRMAN said:

I didn't download it. I copied it from his harddrive to a floppy disk. And even so...I would have never been guilty of anything because I would have been the whistle blower.

I hear ya, and I'm not judging you. I certainly have never been in anything approaching this dilemma.

PLEASE tell me, though, that you didn't hang onto those pics/vids... since you never told the cops. You left them hidden in the house or tossed them, right

ernestsewell said:

The act itself, I think is illegal, irrespective of who downloaded it.
I recall a case of cop who was convicted who said he was only doing 'research' to catch molesters . . .

ernestsewell said:

there is nothing to say that hasn't been said already. Your only real regret is that you saw kiddie porn.

Its been a long time since a thread made me cry. It is bad enough that child molesters get so little time in jail but even worse when kids can't count on adults to help them.

I'd like to acknowledge the fact that you brought this out in the open. Fear is a major motivator and I understand why a younger you acted as you did. I think the judgment in this thread is misguided.

I'd like to acknowledge the fact that you brought this out in the open. Fear is a major motivator and I understand why a younger you acted as you did. I think the judgment in this thread is misguided.

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[Edited 2/23/10 12:58pm]

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

I can understand people's view on it, and I agree to some extent. I can't fault them for expressing what they think they would have done. But it's also why I gently said that until someone is in that situation, no one can truly say "I'd do this this, and this." It's a tough place to be, believe it.