NDRU said:

I want to know if what is happening to me might also be happening to you, in that your validation here on the org (ie. getting laughs etc) makes you maybe a little more ready to say things out loud IRL? I know 10 years ago I would have vehemently insisted I HATE being centre of attention, yet now I kind of like it sometimes I can happily tell a funny story in a really loud voice so everyone hears it over a crowd of noisy people whereas before I'd be apologetic of interrupting others and terrified my joke was lame. I'm beginning to understand that I get REAL LAUGHs in REAL LIFE too
thanks to org-confidence

BlackAdder7 said:

yeah ashley he is!

am I lonely HELL NO!!!!

BlackAdder7 said:

not by profession, but yeah I am. Actually that is a weird thing to me, too, because up on stage I'm the center of attention--singing & lead guitar, plus we play my songs--and I've never been the center of attention in my normal life.

But like ZK says above, I think maybe orging, along with playing onstage in the past few years, has made me a little less shy.

I think I come here cause it is something 2 do, seeing what's up is cool 2.

NDRU said:

You are a musician?

I used to do some performing.. nothing big.

What I found is that people wanted me to be what I was on-stage. And I think, they were surprised to find I was relatively quiet--and even boring off-stage. I was never the life of the party. But on-stage I could be bigger than life. It was a role--nothing more; nothing less.

I think a number of performers sort of leave it on the stage. In social situations, they are a lot different, or that's been my experience at least.

deadmansbones said:

yes, though I guess there are both types. Some performers like David Lee Roth & Tommy Lee are probably hams offstage, too, but then Prince is probably nothing like many people would expect

I think Sinead O'Connor got hurt by that, too. Because she was bold & outspoken onstage the public didn't know she was way too sensitive to take the attacks she got when she was more popular.

drgnfly said:

methinks you doth protest too much!
nah, I'm glad we're not all lonely!

I'm more of a hermit by nature, so generally, no.

NDRU said:

the master is same on and off stage, just as outrageous

BlackAdder7 said:

It's a great blend, brains and boobs...

thejason said:

NDRU said:

Definitely not alone, but I do feel very lonely most of the time. Even when I'm surrounded by people

thejason said:

FauxReal said:

Alej said:

Thanks

FauxReal said:

yw

I think the more pertinent question would be whether my wife's lonely. You'd have to ask her though, I'm always on the org.

NDRU said:

thanks

I am lonely.. I know I look happy and a sweet person, but inside I'm lonely.. Often.
I blame it on the fact that I take care of my son on my own and I'm a housewife and mother all the time.. Not the person Marion. I don't go out often because of financial problems and I alway have to find a babysitter for Tim to go out.. And if I want to go out.. there's nobody to go out with!

As Zombie said... When I'm in a crowd I want to be alone.. I also hate the noice of the tv.. I also found out a while back that I'm HSP ( Highly Sensitive Person ) which contributes to my lonelyness..

http://www.highlysensitivepeople.com/

HowComeYouDontCallme said:

I know how that feels
I read that HSP thing, sounds like me too

HowComeYouDontCallme said:

Wish we lived closer.

Thinking about it, I can get lonely though. I mean, when I was single I was cool with being alone and enjoyed some time to myself. Soon I'll be going to Penang for a visa though, and it reminded me that during those trips when I'm by myself for 3 days I do get lonely. I'm going to see if Mon can come this time to avoid that very thing. Maybe I'm not so cool with being by myself anymore.

NDRU said:

To me it's more about WHAT people say than the amount of it.

But, I must admit I think I click quicker if an Orger has a pic up of himherself as an avatar or at least posted his/her picture; it makes it easier to relate. My brain does not say "Zombiekitten". It says "Charlotte"or "Lotta". And that makes it... more personal.

And even though I have never met her (but going to, soon) she already feels like a friend. And has felt like that for years.

HamsterHuey said:

Well put
When I met Marion, it felt like we had been friends for a long time. It felt comfortable and natural.

MrsMdiver said:

I think you and are are somewhat more... how you say... in the back, looking at things before we jump in. We first want to get to know the feel of the land.

I never have any expectations; it clicks or it doesn't, in real life. It's just different than here.

Now Phil and I... another matter.

Nope, not lonely at all. I come here for the entertainment. And I like the interaction with a lot of you. The only thing that bugs me is that we can't get completely wasted together, and talk even more bollocks.

HamsterHuey said:

i live in the same country as Charlotte, and we still havent met

damn island i live on

MacDaddy said:

You would have loooved the old-skool Invasions. Boozed up, crazy fun.

We always made jokes about a Gay Invasion. Just gays guys going to clubs and of course, getting it on, but I bet that would just turn into one, nasty bitchfest in, like, ten minutes. LoL