Ya ndru but I don't wanna go on dates with him. I'll feel like a freak!!!

Ok here's my ideal scenario:

Go out to the bar or watever w the rest of the street rate. Fun guy there cute ok we see eachother out every other wkend or watever. He's cute I'm cute everyones cute great.

Become friends. Secretly go home n masturbate watever ya flirt once in a while. Become friend then BOOM one nite yas hook up n then ok now he's fix the drain guy.

No dates. I want no part of them

TotalANXiousNESS said:

I don't get this part. so you mean you fuck him and then he's fixing the drain? Or hook up like just get together as friends?

Aside from that I don't think meeting at the bar is a good idea. That's just about alcohol and who's hot, so most likely you'll meet some hot guy & have sex, then you're back where you started.

You need a friend who you meet when you're sober, thinking clearly.

TotalANXiousNESS said:

Um.....off topic: Is that Jackie from Work Out in your avatar?

ernestsewell said:

Yes I love her to smithereens. She changed my life a cpl yrs ago she's my new god. I want to be her bff.

Anyway ndru.....yes we fuck then he fixes the drain. Not like immediatly or anything.

Ugh how can I day it?

If ya ask a guy to do ANYTHING b4 u screw him he thinks urgonna screw him.

And I knew agree bout the bar

NDRU said:

where'd you get that from???

I have an FB... he doesn't clean out my tub, or watch movies with me.... I can do that by myself, because I'm a grown woman and I don't need a man for stuff like that.

But you see... men have something I don't have, that's dick. I now am at peace with the knowledge that I need and love dick.
Sex is a wonderful thang, its a great workout and it relieves stress so I can deal with my day to day in a positive and productive way.

So my dick visits me 2/3xs a week.... I give him a glass of water then he leaves.
I don't need to do dick's laundry, I don't need to cook for dick, I don't have to share my precious closet space, and I can fart in my bed freely....and most importantly I don't have to deal with dick's baggage...I can also keep my focus on my kids and me.


This may not be your cup of tea. But one thing is for sure, if you approach ANY man in this direct fashion, I am pretty sure you will have zero problems finding a good dick near you.

paintedlady said:

when your dick leaves...you don't feel....lonely?

HAHA! That's awesome paintedlady!

Ya. I dunno if I can do that.

And let my just clarify I can fix my own drain. LOL

I guess I just want the security of knowing I have the option to have sumone willing to fix it if I want them too

BlackAdder7 said:

Not at all, because my children are still relatively young. I HAVE to focus on them, and I will absolutely not date with my kids.

Kids are not good with break-ups... they need stability, and a single mom has two lives. One as a mother and one as a woman, the two don't mix when it comes to the dating scene.

It took me being single and virtually sexless for three years before I could come to terms with acquiring a man just to have sex with basically.

My lover and I laugh a lot and hold great conversation, but we keep it where it is because he isn't ready to play daddy for a second time and I am not sure he can be a daddy to them.

paintedlady said:

thanks for explaining...

TotalANXiousNESS said:

I know you could fix anything if needed be... most moms already do all that when hubby isn't able to and even do a better job at times LOL

Its just that with that stability comes great sacrifice that the kids may or may not be ready for.
[Edited 2/17/10 15:14pm]

TotalANXiousNESS said:

That's why you don't want to date him, then!

whistle said:

I wouldn't say I have a type, but you're right, it does take someone a bit different. I am generally not interested in the typical US guy who's into sports and drinks bad american beer.

x a billion!!

But seriously. You need to MOVE!

paintedlady said:

Screw the water! I just throw him a towel and then he leaves.

But I do also enjoy boy's company, you know, to watch a movie with, to talk with...that kinda thing.

I've got two dudes that I sleep with, one is strictly sex the other is sex and other stuff.

But I've never, ever felt lonely when alone...I keep waiting for it to happen...but it hasn't.

JustErin said:

@ throw him a towel and he leaves.

With two men you better not feel alone! Seriously, it's weird that I don't feel lonely either. Maybe motherhood keeps me too busy.

TotalANXiousNESS said:

I think a nice guy doesn't expect anything, he does nice things for you because he likes you. He might want to screw you...no...he definitely wants to screw you, but he doesn't think that fixing your drain earns him the right. He'll wait until you give the signal.

In that way nice guys are pathetic, they don't act assertive & take what they want, but they are nice! They are not trying to take advantage of you, they actually like you and they want to please you by spending time with you, helping you, and they enjoy it too and hope that some day you'll come around.

paintedlady said:

I think that's it for me for sure.

Ok so let's say for example this guy who was out the nite I met my husband, whose pretty cute asked me to sleep w him on said nite n I said no, and I've been friends sorta with him just thru other friends, all of a sudden is now txtn me asking me if I will sleep w NM now n I said no I'm not just gonna sleep w u but we can hang out n he said ok n now he asks me to go out every wkend but I say no cuz I'm afraid he wants me to sleep w him but I wouldn't mind goin out for sum laughs w him.....is that not a good idea?

Just don't fuck him.

TotalANXiousNESS said:

This guy is so forward with wanting to fuck you you'd have to be really strong & fight him off constantly.

You probably should be with a guy right now who is not putting all kinds of pressure on you.

don't bother, it's better just fucking them.

move to a hippie commune in cali im certain you will find the kind of help/friendships you are looking for.

NDRU said:

because he probably wouldn't even bother hanging around AFTER if you did sleep with him

so, whilst he is hoping he will SOMEHOW make it into your pants, get him to do stuff for you, like drive you around, fix things etc

You could put on a short skirt and go hang around at the central station.

novabrkr said:

I'm pretty sure we have nothing called 'central station' here.

Thanks for all the advice guys. I decided I'm just not gonna worry about it for the time being.

2010 is gonna be all about me n my kids.

go to the Salvation Army half way house.

Cuddles said:

I'm pretty sure she's looking for straight guys.

JerseyKRS said:

TotalANXiousNESS said:

Grizzly Adams is exactly what I'm looking for, but all I find are nice boys...We should swap lives