I LOVE BOYS!

I'm not gonna get into a relationship rite now, but I need a dude to hang out with and watch movies with, have dinner with, let him unclog my bathtub for me, help me move, stuff like that.

I have an assignment where I have to try out a dude who is "SOMEWHAT ATTRACTIVE NOT A GRISSLEY ADAMS".

So.

Where do I find these boys.

Ps. Please do not tell me a dating website or anything like that.

TotalANXiousNESS said:

TotalANXiousNESS said:

see thats the problem, right there Dani, you need a MAN not a BOY

TotalANXiousNESS said:

i'd love to know how you're going to get some guy to clean your tub and help you move without being in a relationship with him.

hint: your answer should probably include the word 'boobies' somewhere.

DanceWme said:

Where have YOUUUUU been?

whistle said:

How the hell does someone helping me out signify a relationship?? I'll like rub his back or something, but that doesn't mean its a relationship.

As for the thread, I have no clue. If I did, I probably wouldn’t be single.

I had a conversation with a friend of mine recently where I said I had completely given up on men and he said what impressed him is he felt what I had to say was at least 90% true and not BS. And I told him he probably had his percentages correct. Sure, it would be nice to find someone, but I don’t like doing all of the things you’re supposed to do to find them.

I HATE dating. At least, the kind of dating where you go out with someone you basically don’t know in hopes of getting to know them better.

And I don’t meet men anywhere, really. People say to volunteer or find a hobby or whatever, but very few straight men enjoy the same things I do. And if they do, they’re already married. Blah blah blah.

So I’m done looking. If I meet someone along the way, boy howdy, that’d be great, but it’s growing ever more unlikely as the days go on. But if I do, I’ll tell you where I met him.

TotalANXiousNESS said:

around

TotalANXiousNESS said:

you're missing my point.

CarrieMpls said:

YES YES YES YES YES.

Thats how I am.

I don't thjink I've been on a date in my life. Like with someone I jsut met and your supposed to get picked up and go out to dinner and shit. EW. I CAN'T! Its akward and weird.

I have this one friend who I actually met on the scene of a "crime" this summer. He's a cop n he had to write down my addy but didn't have a pencil so I texted him the addy n then he started texting me to see if I was okay.

I had him over for beers a couple times and he changed a flat for me n got me outta sum shit, but whenever he asks me to dinner I turn him down. Thats like a big step for me. I can't go eat with someone unless were like already established. I ain't gonna go eat n feel all uncomfortable and look for shit to talk about.

are you looking to only know men for what they can do for you, rather than how they make you feel..?

BlackAdder7 said:

No No. Nothing like that at all. I actually rather enjoy doing the stuff myself rite now.

Nooooo, like I don't want anyone to make me FEEL anything. I don't wanna have all these feelings rite now. Just a companion. Someone to hang out with and do shit for and with eachother. But nothing serious. Like I don't even wanna have sex either.

I dunno what I want. I like boys around.

I wanna like him a lot, but not love him.

I dunno its fricvken weird

TotalANXiousNESS said:

perhaps you're afraid of making a commitment, because the last commitment you made didn't work out.
go to home depot. ask someone to help you find (insert hardware here). It's a great place to meet men who know how to fix drains and things like that.
don't be afraid to get hurt. you're the driver of your destiny. you're allowed to so no at any time.
just ease back into the water a toe at a time.

TotalANXiousNESS said:

You're a weirdo

it's totally cool to only want somebody around to serve your needs...sometimes we deserve to be a lil' selfish that way...and there are plenty of guys that would fill that need for you I'm sure; or anything else that needs filling...

everything doesn't require commitment...go out and have fun...just be honest with yourself and the guy you find and everything will be just fine...

It's no harder than meeting anyone else that you really like. I think the fact that you're asking this means the problem is not necessarily the guys, but maybe that you can't just be friends with them either (we know the guys will want to sleep with you, that's a given).

I mean, why does it have to be a guy? Can't a girl unclog a tub? Can't you? Why does he have to be somewhat attractive?

TotalANXiousNESS said:

See – that’s a little different. After all that I’d be able to go out, no problem. If I wanted to, anyway.

But he’d have never gotten invited over for beers in the first place. I don't talk to people I don't know. It's uncomfortable.

CarrieMpls said:

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CarrieMpls said:

do you get hit on a lot? is it rare that you meet a man that you fancy?

what the hell is a GRISSLEY?

whistle said:

It is extremely rare for me to meet anyone I fancy, yes. I can think of one silly crush in the last year or more, and that was never going anywhere and was completely one-sided cause the guy was married.

I am hit on a fair amount, I suppose, but only ever by men I have no interest in. The kind of guy that you imagine hits on LOTS of women, in hopes someone will finally say yes. Guys on the bus, on the street, with cheesy lines and/or compliments, etc.

JerseyKRS said:

you know where a good place to meet guys is?

I'm totally serious about this....go volunteer somewhere.

The single guys that are out there volunteering are GOOD people, that's the kind of guy you want to date.



I used to pick up mad hippie ass back when I was single at the food bank.

JerseyKRS said:

that has to be similar to mad cow...

Maybe it's a culture thing carrie I dunno like u have to understand wat it's like here.

Havin anyone over for beers is no big deal it's like hey were friends were just hangin out. Or if he even asked me to go for wings. Ok were friends were just hangin out.

No heeeee always has to say : can I take u to dinner?

Well no cuz I wanna hang out n have beers n see if I even like u b4 I have to go sit in a confined space thru a hole meal w u. And have to sit facing eachother w no escape for atleast wat? An hr?? I can't!

Plus I don't like the guy.

Anyways ndru how can I explain this I don't even no. I just wanna have a boy I guess that at nite he calls me to say goodnite.

I can unclog my own tub but I want sumone who wants to do it for me. I wanna think he's cute I wanna be attracted to him cuz ya eventually I wanna bang him but I don't wanna feel pressured to.

CarrieMpls said:

do you have a 'type' per se? i imagine it takes someone a bit different to catch your eye...can't see you bringing another beer to Joe Average while he watches college football in his sweatpants.

JerseyKRS said:

Volunteering out of the kindness of his heart...not because a judge told him to

JerseyKRS said:

well, she said she doesn't want to date them.

But since I think she really does want to date them , but just wants to meet a nice guy & maybe take it slow, I'd say this is a good suggestion

TotalANXiousNESS said:

Okay that makes perfect sense. You just want to take it slow to be sure you're not jumping into something with the wrong guy just because he's kinda hot

yeah you need to meet a nerdy guy.
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