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PrintableAzureStar said: AnotherLover2 said: I think if we are honest and step out of ego/self-absorption, we also realize that each of us is only qualified to speak for ourselves--and based upon our own experiences of love--as opposed to making a definitive, blanket statement about how it's experienced (or 'should be' experienced) by others.
In other words--there's no 'right' or 'wrong' answer to this question (although many people like to say that very thing out loud, while inside secretly 'knowing' they're right, lol). Maybe the answer is that there's what's true for you and for me, and that those things may be similar or quite different. Very well said, AnotherLover!  Not very romantic, though, huh?  Most people will be "like,whatEVER  !!" (eyeroll belonging to the 'whatever' person)  | |
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I do. I fell in love the first time I saw my (now) wife. It took me one year to find the words to tell her this, after being a good friend to her all of that time, but I managed it.
3 days after being together I asked her to spend her life with me and everything that has happened since has made me appreciate how right I was to follow what I felt in my heart from the first day I met her. Sometimes maybe u just have to take a chance. | |
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AnotherLover2 said: I think if we are honest and step out of ego/self-absorption, we also realize that each of us is only qualified to speak for ourselves--and based upon our own experiences of love--as opposed to making a definitive, blanket statement about how it's experienced (or 'should be' experienced) by others.
In other words--there's no 'right' or 'wrong' answer to this question (although many people like to say that very thing out loud, while inside secretly 'knowing' they're right, lol). Maybe the answer is that there's what's true for you and for me, and that those things may be similar or quite different. I don't think anyone's done this on this thread, though...that is, made comments about "how it should be" for anyone (seriously, haven't seen one post that said "if you really love someone, you'll know right off the bat), or given "definitive, blanket statements" about how love "should" be experienced...Well, I take that back...there have been a few which said it's impossible to have "love at first site", in which I suppose it could be taken as saying "those of you who think you found love instantly, you really didn't"...which I suppose would fall under the heading of "How love should be experienced by everyone"... Basically, though, everyone was simply asked what they personally believed about love at first sight...hardly constitutes "ego/self-absorption" to express one's beliefs or experiences... | |
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wellbeyond said: AnotherLover2 said: I think if we are honest and step out of ego/self-absorption, we also realize that each of us is only qualified to speak for ourselves--and based upon our own experiences of love--as opposed to making a definitive, blanket statement about how it's experienced (or 'should be' experienced) by others.
In other words--there's no 'right' or 'wrong' answer to this question (although many people like to say that very thing out loud, while inside secretly 'knowing' they're right, lol). Maybe the answer is that there's what's true for you and for me, and that those things may be similar or quite different. I don't think anyone's done this on this thread, though...that is, made comments about "how it should be" for anyone (seriously, haven't seen one post that said "if you really love someone, you'll know right off the bat), or given "definitive, blanket statements" about how love "should" be experienced...Well, I take that back...there have been a few which said it's impossible to have "love at first site", in which I suppose it could be taken as saying "those of you who think you found love instantly, you really didn't"...which I suppose would fall under the heading of "How love should be experienced by everyone"... Basically, though, everyone was simply asked what they personally believed about love at first sight...hardly constitutes "ego/self-absorption" to express one's beliefs or experiences... Ummm--I didn't say or mean to imply that anyone here did (which is why I didn't quote or refer to anyone specifically). I was speaking about how I believe that love is experienced uniquely and individually. That's it. The "ego" and "self-absorption" comments were about how quite often people who are "in love" believe their love is the most special, or different than anyone else's. Which, again, no one here really did. Please don't infer anything more from it than what I actually said. [This message was edited Sat Jan 18 11:29:53 PST 2003 by AnotherLover2] | |
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I think there are different stages of love. But surely if u were together for a long time u could look back on those early days and recognise that it was love, perhaps just in its infancy. | |
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