This doesn't count as the question of the day, but I was curious, how many of you believe in love at first sight?

Don't know, hasn't happened to me yet. But lust as first sight is something I believe in

I believe in love at first experience...

yes im certain that it happens all the time

Yeah, I believe in love at first sight. It's happened to me before.

It happends all the time

I believe that love grows between people, as that is my experience. I am interested in hearing about other peoples experiences, so how can I say that it doesn't exist? Just cos I've never experienced it, doesn't mean someone else hasn't.

shausler said:

LOL...yes, with a little help from my friends lol

mmmh but u know I always thought it takes time 2 get 2 know a person and u must know someone before you can truly say u love that person... I don't know I just always thought it was a romantic thought, but so far fatched from reality.

Desire at first sight. Love to me, takes time to develop. There are so many facets to the entire person, it's impossible to know enough for it to be my idea of love.

DigitalLisa said:

What happens is that, once you've come to know a person, you find that the instant connection you experienced in the beginning was true and sincere...so you're able to look back and tell yourself "I think I loved them from the very start"...

DigitalLisa said:

absolutly

first sight is the image created in your minds eye
no facts just lust and imagination
get to know someone and reality seeps in like the blob

wellbeyond said:

Yeah... I get ya on that... It's being open with love in your heart before you meet with someone and then when u do meet with them, the love at first experience happens...

shausler said:

Hi Shausler--not sure if I agree with that. The reality of a person, a whole person with everything enjoyable and not about them can be loved...

I was thinking about this cuz I was listening 2 Kylie Mongoue song "Love at First sight" the other night and it got me wonderin'...
[This message was edited Fri Jan 17 8:33:39 PST 2003 by DigitalLisa]

Therapy said:

its like an accent
you can fall in love with that accent at first listen

but 5 months of that and youd easily go out of your mind

now understand im not saying always, im just alittle cynicle today bear with me now

Therapy said:

Definitely...I think two people can experience each other (talking, interacting in some way), and immediately feel a connection that is deeply felt, and is accompanied by instant attraction and arousal...it's only further down the road, after a true and sincere love has formed between them, that they can look back and realize that what they're feeling right now has been present from the very first moment of experience...just seeing them may not be enough, although I won't discount the possibility of two people extraordinarily "meant" for one another may be able to detect that subconsciously just from eye contact...

Maybe!

I believe in attraction at first sight, or maybe even like.

Love to me comes within the learning phase of each other.

nope.

I think a few people here are talking about believing in love at first sight after they've been communicating with someone (i.e., via the internet) for awhile and then they meet in person. I think that is a different case than seeing someone across the room for the first time, or getting into a relationship and later thinking to themselves that it was love at first sight.

If you've already been communicating with them before meeting, then I think maybe the appropriate question is: 'do you believe in love at first chat'.

i believe in attraction and instant like at first site but i don't know about love.

shausler said:

shausler sounds like he needs a hug or two

AnotherLover2 said:

That's why I used the term "love at first experience" instead of "love at first sight" (or, if referring to the internet, "love at first site"...heh... )

mos def. its happened to me before, and I am quite certain that it will happen again...in fact..i cant wait untill it does !

yes

wellbeyond said:

what they said. ditto that

Uh, huh. Just ask my woman!

I think if we are honest and step out of ego/self-absorption, we also realize that each of us is only qualified to speak for ourselves--and based upon our own experiences of love--as opposed to making a definitive, blanket statement about how it's experienced (or 'should be' experienced) by others.

In other words--there's no 'right' or 'wrong' answer to this question (although many people like to say that very thing out loud, while inside secretly 'knowing' they're right, lol). Maybe the answer is that there's what's true for you and for me, and that those things may be similar or quite different.

AnotherLover2 said:

Very well said, AnotherLover!