TotalANXiousNESS said:

Oooh burn! Seriously though, don't post stuff about your private life if you're going to get upset about people passing judgement on it.

chocolate1 said:[quote]

TotalANXiousNESS said:

TotalANXiousNESS said:

Thanks for answering.

But honestly, you need to take a look at your bf. The things you named make him seem insensitive.
Trust me- I understand. I was told my only purpose was to please the guy I was with, so I did some things that compromised who I was. Not anymore.
If YOU want bigger boobs, then so be it. If YOU want more than one person in your bed, then so be it. But who is he to be pouty and distant because you made decisions about YOURSELF?
Try telling him he needs "male enhancement" or you want to watch him with another guy....

TotalANXiousNESS said:

You shouldn't do anything you don't want to do and anyone who makes you feel badly about about that is LAME. Not to mention he's really freaking stupid because if he's gonna be pissy about this now it's gonna make you that less open to anything else he suggests.

And save your boob money for Thailand, toots!

PunkMistress said:

I couldn't agree more, btw.

TotalANXiousNESS said:

It's fine for him to have the fantasy, and it's even fine for you to say "yeah I could do that." But no, you are not forced to have sex with another woman if you decide you don't want to.

Maybe you didn't know how you felt at the time you agreed to it, but even if you kiss the chick and then you say "Hey I can't do this" then that's your choice.

He can be disappointed all he wants, but it is not wrong. It would be wrong if you went through with it when you didn't want to!

NDRU said:

Exactly. He can be disappointed. And that's fair.

But "all mad n hurt"? Sounds like a little boy who isn't getting his way.

is there crack involved?

CarrieMpls said:

Me 3

sounds like he has thrown his dummy out of the pram

But seriously there is a big difference between dreaming of the fantasy and the doing of the fantasy. Also you do have the right to say no when it concerns your body.

If you want bigger boobs this is your decision - no one elses - and do it when it is right for you.

Also a word to the wise - live your own life not somebody else's.

Mach said:

that now makes four of us...

I'll refer you to Dan Savage for the possible solutions to the 3some conundrum, hell, he may even have some choice words about the bewb job...

http://www.thestranger.co...id=3394051

check the archives....

TotalANXiousNESS said:

JustErin said:

Did luv4u forget to snip it?

was the threesome gonna be with another chick or another dude...details like that are important before I can form any kind of fucking opinion about this mess...

'cause if it was another girl...yeah the guys feelings are probably a lil' hurt...

if it was another dude...he's gay...

RenHoek said:

You are so my friend. I LOVE Dan Savage.

I know people are taking this all serious and shit but I I'm sorry, I find it hilarious...especially since I have actually seen this dude.

Did you find something else sexy for you two to do for his birthday?

And IMHO... any change for your body should be done for you alone.
If a woman gets surgery it should be because SHE wants it, otherwise she will not be happy with that choice. Its like losing weight... if you do it for some dude you will most likely gain it all back and then some.

About the threesome... IF he loves you, he'll get over it.

BlackAdder7 said:

I don't agree with you on a lot of things....But as a total outsider reading plain text, I have to say your assessment is dead set on target.

And it sounds like this situation is one big band aid on a severed arm. Sounds very drama filled.

BlackAdder7 said:

Just saw this....
wow... just wow. How are your children doing/eating/sleeping now? And you're worried about a dude's feelings?

JustErin said:

did he have a crack pipe?

Cuddles said:

No, but I bet he had a gun in his pants and a dead hooker in his car's trunk.

JustErin said:

goodness
[Edited 2/10/10 18:25pm]

TotalANXiousNESS said:

Dani, do not do a threesome. He'll keep wanting them. Plus, I've never read you say that you are even remotely attracted to women.

As someone that has done them with someone I cared about, the first one broke my heart to see the person i loved kiss someone else. If the two of you are not on the same page, someone can get hurt.

And I think he's a dick for getting mad.

but she could always eat her boonjang while he is boning her. YANNO

Oh, I knew he wanted a threesome with another woman, they always do. So he wanted to watch you do what? Perform oral sex on another woman and have another one perform oral sex on you? If he's not willing to suck another man's dick, he should never ask you to be with another woman. If he sees something as homosexuality or bisexuality as something beneath him, then why does he want you to do it? As a gay male, I find that very hypocritical of him, very degrading to gay and bisexual people as a whole (including lesbians) and very degrading to you also.

If he's fine with committing bisexual acts himself, that's fine. But if he wants you to do them but he won't himself, he's a hypocrit and doesn't give a damn about you. I'm not trying to be mean, I'm just telling it like it is. Drop his ass and get someone that respects you and views you as an equal.

CarrieMpls said:

Come here and get it done for a quarter of the price.

But seriously, about the boob job Dani, you seem to focus on not doing it based on financial reasons, but forgetting money, do you actually want it?