salaciousV said:

The imaginary protagonist has already been engaged in cost-cutting and saving measures and is trying to keep his head about monetary things now. The imaginary protagonist is pretty much 100% certain that he will work the horrible job until the court case is over, at which point he will have saved even more money and will be in a better position to leave.

The imaginary protagonist would certainly have less time for Prince.org if he does not continue with his new job and moves on to his own business.

If moving is out and selling your sould to the capitalist machine is out then maybe this has happened for a reason! Sometimes life throws these curve balls as an "out". Maybe this is the hypothetical protaganist's way to get out of the life he's been living for 6 years at this company and start on a new path.

However, change doesn't always have to be drastic and immediate. Stick it out so you can support your kid and yourself, and while doing whatever it is that IT people do, surf the web, request catalogs for Ph D programs you'd be interested in, send out resumes. Take the time you have driving 2 hours to work to plan out your next few steps in life, then save save and save some more while you are at the IT job. Soon enough your plans will fall into place and you'll have the $ to follow through with them!

Good luck on whatever you decide!

WHATEVER!! You are not even worth the arguement..You are one unhappy person! You must be like 85 years old...and where is your picture? Maybe YOU should retire from the org

"There are far too many smart, educated, talented people operating at quarter speed, unsure of their place in the world, contributing far too little to the productive engine of modern civilization. There are far too many people who look like they have their act together but have yet to make an impact. You know who you are. It comes down to a simple gut check: You either love what you do or you don't. Period."

Ahhh...time for me to log off and start "doing what I love to do", me thinks...lol 8)

salaciousV said:

Hmmm...I think that could apply to more people than just the hypothetical person...me included...

Run to South Florida.

Yamomma would hire such imaginary protagonist in studio as sales person.

The imaginary protagonist could earn 20-25 percent of all business he brought to said studio.

The imaginary protagonist could still work from home.

Yamomma could hook him up with a place to stay temporarily. Would have to check with Ms. Yamomma.

Then again South Florida schoos stink. So the imaginary protagonist's child might suffer unless the imaginary protagonist could afford home schooling.

Shorty said:

How do you deal with not being able to spend time with the most important person in the world and the absolute heartache that comes along with not spending time with him?

Let's say that you are a single parent who has custody of your son and you to take him to school in the mornings and get him after school in the afternoons each day. You are lucky enough to have a job that allows you to work from home in the mornings and afternoons so that you can take care of your son. Let's also say that you have been working at the same job for 6 years and have survived many layoffs, but the company has now decided to eliminate your entire department, along with a number of other IT departments... furthermore, let's say that you are given the opportunity to keep your current salary and remain employed, but you will be moved to a remote location where you cannot work from home at all and you will have to drive about 2 hours to and from work each day, thus making it so that you will work from 10AM to 6PM where you will drive home and arrive at about 8:00PM, just in time to give your son a bath and get him to bed. To complicate matters, let's say that your ex gets the kid on the weekends, so the only time you get to see him is during the week.

Oh, let's throw another wrench in the works... let us say that you are involved in a custody battle that has not made it to court yet and you absolutely cannot quit the job, so you are totally stuck without any options.

What would you do in this case?

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[This message was edited Thu Jan 16 10:20:11 PST 2003 by IceNine]

Also, check out any universities near you...they always need IT people and you'd probably get free tuition out of it - for you and for your son (if you stayed with the job.)

applekisses said:

That's exactly where my IT friend found work, at a local university! Plus, they're paying for him to get certified in programming language classes, etc.

tommyalma said:

The only problem is that the hypothetical person hates computers.

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[This message was edited Thu Jan 16 12:44:51 PST 2003 by IceNine]

IceNine said:

I take it you can't take your son and move to another state or country depending where you can find some good work that interests you, at least until the custody thing is finalised?

Our hypothetical character spoke to his lawyer and certain things are looking good.

Hypothetical answer:
have the kid stay at my mothers house for a day or two,
and have the bitch SNUFFED!!!

I'll stop getting emotional, and let the men speak.

The economy sucks right now. Hypothetically, you would take the job, explain the situation to your child and let him know its for no more than 6 mos. Give yourself that deadlien of 6 mos and find another job.

If this person works IT they get paid considerably well; therefore finding jobs in their expertise (with so many layoffs) may prove to be difficult.

Keep the faith and don't spoil the child in the interim -- as to not confuse the kid with this person's guilt... (ie lack of time = toys). But I am sure this individual knows this.

Paper the town with resumes.

Unless the individual is THAT GOOD, maybe a trial situation discussed with the head honchos (ie maybe they work the wkends and shorten the wkdays?).


Wanted to add: Children are versatile and are capable of change much more than adults. Create a visual map and find ways to nurse your own heartache. He'll miss you, but he'll adapt.

The situation sucks, but many ppl have survived and raised good kids. You can do it. You'll suffer the most.
Allegedly wishing good luck.
[This message was edited Thu Jan 16 10:29:20 PST 2003 by salaciousV]

salaciousV said:

Now this makes sense to me!